I HIGHLY DISLIKE people who assume things....
August 2, 2011 1:07pm CST
Im trying this thing out where I don;t use the word "hate". I realize it spreads animosity and evokes bad emotion...either way, you know when you feel some crazy way and u blast of a post about how youre feeling and youre obviously upset and of course a ton of normal heartfelt NICE people sympathize with you and you feel better? Right. and then you get that one response that is just the most ignorant and even hurtful and it makes you realize why you felt that life is hopeless in the first place...am i rambling? i dont know but that is how i feel..haing a rough day.. but does anyone understand me?
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3 Aug 11
I sympathize with you, since I do encounter this too. Take for example my last badminton tournament. I tried my very best but lost. I went home, expecting words of encouragement from my mother but all I could hear was that, 'why didn't you win? I thought you were so good in it?' This gets me real fed up. Just because I'm good in it and she must have high expectations in me to win? Excuse me, I only got like half a month of training that's all. People get years of training and I just made it this far, how to expect me to win those stronger players??? Sigh. Sometimes it's hard to get someone to really sympathize with you when you are in a very dark period. The main thing is, they don't know how you feel inside and assume things as what they are, which is what makes me mad most of the time.
2 Aug 11
Yes I can understand how you feel. But, I would suggest you just ignore this person.People are insensitive and that is the way they are. You cannot lose your peace further on account of insensitive remarks. If you are already in some trouble why let this person trouble you further? CHeer up! Whatever it is that is troubling you would be shortlived.Take heart!
• United States
2 Aug 11
I definitely try not to assume things, and especially on here. Sometimes though I find myself cringing because I realize I let my emotions that were an ASSUMPTION of what *I THOUGHT* people were conveying, or what *I THOUHGT* they're situation *TRULY* was get the best of me. I did that today and I feel bad about it. I do try not to do that though. We don't know each other all that well, we don't need to assume we do. That's just how it goes anywhere.
• South Africa
3 Aug 11
Yes, I completely understand what you are saying. It is often so hurtful and insensitive of people to respond in a particular way to you, especially when you are trying to be honest and really express how you are feeling. I have found, however, that there are always going to be people in the world who are cruel and hurtful. All you need to do is to focus on all the GOOD responses that you received, and realise that there is more good in the world than bad!
3 Aug 11
I do believe people understand you. They do not know exactly how you feel and experience it, because it is your own indivudual things. But similar feelings and experience we have in the same situation sometime in our lives. However what makes your whole world fall in to ruin, might not be the same for some other person. I only know you can only take a certain amount of adversity and obstacles before you are broken down into hopelessness ready to give up!
2 Aug 11
it feels nice if people sympatize over your misfortune,and say good things to cheer you up, because those simple words of encouragement are a big help for you to feel nice and usually felt discourage by those who say bad things even if they already know that you are down. but for those who say hurtful things just ignore them, just think that perhaps they feel much worst, and they want you to feel the same way.