How can you convince your partner to give up smoking?

How about you start by being mad at him about it? I mean, there should be a reason why he continues to smoke, knowing how his actions affect you, and that is that he seems to feel that you can't do anything about it. He should be able to feel that you still have a 50% control over your relationship, and moreover, he should feel your concern towards him.

If he's tried and failed, he doesn't want to give up. And hassling him about it will just make him more resistant. It has to be HIS decision and he has to want it, or it won't happen. Simple as that. If he decides to stop (not try... as Yoda says, "Do, or do not. There is no try.") there are loads of gums, patches, fake cigs and other stuff that'll help.

Maybe by suggesting him sweet things to do rather than smoking hehe.. I suggest you both enroll in a gym and encourage him to be living healthy, or maybe so on a place for a vacation in exchange of smoking. Or ultimately, maybe you can let him choose between you and the smoking.

I think it is the hardest thing to do-to try to stop someone from smoking unless the really want to. We have the same problem with my mother. She has got asthma, high-blood pressure, she is overweight and have diabetes. But she couldn't and wouldn't quit smoking. She would tell us she' rather die being able to smoke. I have heard of many people quitting. But it isn't because they were told to do so, but with their own volition. Unless he starts thinking unselfishly I don't think it would be possible for him to stop. If he is affecting your health the I guess it is better you suggest he keep away from you everytime he smokes. He can smoke outside your house. I would hope that he will start making a considerable amount of thinking for you and your family and be motivated to curb the vice for the sake of his family.

i have asthma and hubby smokes too. he smokes outside though. but as like yu said the smoke will still be there. and no matter where you hide someone who smokes, the house will have that smell of smoke that i hate. because of him smoking i have to wipe the walls once a week to get rid of that smell. Quitting smoking is not easy. a piece of book cant make him stop. it hs to be his own decision to stop. there are programs given at the hospital for those who want to quit smoking. but if he dont decide for himself, no medicine or book can make him stop. he has to stop tha urge in his mind and quit smoking first for himself then for you and your family. i also squeezed my husband to quit smoking, but then i realized the more i tell him to stop the more he smokes. so for now i want him to think and he promised he is slowly giving it up.