Do you pretend?

It is a BIG waste of time to pretend we are happy when we aren't. Life is short, we are only here for a short time. As you get older life passes quickly. Why waste time doing the pretend thing when we can set up some boundaries, communicate our true feelings, not get involved with people we feel we need to be pretending with, be strong in knowing who we are and what we want and be happy for who we are not who we pretend to be.

i don't know if its gonna be labeled as pretending, but in what i do in everyday of my life, its typical to have a problem. but when i'm with my daily living, i'm not pretending. but its as if i don't have the problem or better to say, its as if the problem looks like isn't affecting me at all. if there's a problem, i will tell that to my friends, any kind of problems. but i dont know... if your my friend, its like i'm not asking for a friend to somehow console me or whatever, it looks like, i'm just telling my past or entertain them about my yesterday or the book of my life. something like that. i don;t keep my problems to the people around me. so i guess i'm not pretending. but i guess i'm not the type of person who could emote and all that. somehow, even i feel gloomy, when i'm outside, there's always something that would eventually gets my attention.

I think there comes a point in our lives when we need to pretend. Not because we want to hold our emotions together, but because we need to - for the sake of others. I experienced this a few months ago. I wasn't really well emotionally (because of failed relationship), however, I can't go moping around the whole day, I needed to work. My type of job entails me to look cheerful always, I can't let my clients know that I am not feeling well or that there are problems at home. So, I acted my part and nobody noticed that there's something wrong. Was the experience good for me? (to keep my emotions together) I think generally yes. I proved to myself that I can keep my act together and I am mature enough to not over emote on things that would just pass. I am very proud and when I told some of my co-workers about it (after the incident) they couldn't believe it happened because it didn't show in my actions. I think we all need to understand that though we have the freedom of expression, there is also an obligation to withold some emotions. Not everything is supposed to be shown to everyone. Not every emotion should be posted on Facebook for everyone to know. We need self-control because we'd only end up humiliating ourselves and losing our credibility in the end. Have a great MyLot experience today!

As myself, I'm serious-looking, in fact strict-looking, and seldom smile. I do tend to keep my emotions, whatever they are, under a tight rein and just act steady. No, I don't consider it pretending. I think I'm just being myself.