Daycare
By AishaBR
@AishaBR (345)
United States
August 3, 2011 7:28pm CST
Ok my baby is four months old, and I am about to start August 15th. And me and my hubby are trying to decide if or put him in daycare or not. He has got so use to just being around us that if someone holds him he starts crying and as soon as he is back in our arms he stops. Now we let his grandmother watch him for about 30 minutes and when we reached back he was screaming and crying down the house. She said that he started as soon as we left. Now his father said he can switch over to night shift so he can watch him during the day. But then he mght be too tired to watch him in the mornings as soon as he comes off of work. I will only be gone for four hours and I will be going school three days out the week. We are still trying to decide. Then I heard a story of a one year old that took a newborn baby out of a swing and placed him on the floor so he can use swing at the daycare. Does anybody have any kind of advice on this?
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@peavey (16936)
• United States
5 Aug 11
At four months, your baby is just now learning to identify you and your husband as his caretakers. He is becoming emotionally attached in a way that he never has before, so I'd say this is a bad time to put him in daycare unless you really have to. If you can make it work without doing that, it would be better for him and easier for you in the long run.
@tink91879 (742)
• United States
5 Aug 11
You definatly need to do something. He is very clingy and this will only get worst. You can always look into a nanny takes time to find a good one and he will obviously have a hard time adjusting, but he will adjust. Its very important infants, children humans have experiences with others and learn to trust others. If he is like this now how will he be when he starts school? I have been fortunate to stay home with my kids, but I have always done something so they were around other ppl and were comfortable with other ppl. If you find the right daycare he will be fine, but a nanny might be better and also having him in a playgroup.
@GoldenAsh (290)
• United States
4 Aug 11
Hello AishaBR. Its nice to meet you.
Lokks like you are a first time mother. Congratulations on the new beautiful addition to your family.
You are right about your hubby. He might be very very tired but lets give it a try. One day ask him to look after the baby for that 4 hours and stay in the other room or not near your kid. Seee if it works? I personally think that fathers get tired quickly when they take care or toddler. (Atleast my hubby does!)
If it works with your hubby let your child stay with him. Give your hubby some extra time in the afternoon and evening so that he can rest. You can also prepare tea or coffe when your hubby reaches home.
I think a four month old should not be sent to the day care. You know there is no such things as a perfect day care and your baby is just too small to defend himself right now.
@bobosusanwang (135)
• China
4 Aug 11
Hi,my daughter is one year and 4 months,the same thing happend when I have to go back to work,her grandmother looked after her,she cried for only two days,then my daughter got used to the situations. But I went back to see her at the beginning for 2 hours per day and took care of her at night. Hope it's helpful.
@shayne134 (27)
• China
4 Aug 11
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@lbygyh970855 (237)
• China
4 Aug 11
Taking care of the baby is big problem. I live in China. And I've seen many tragedies acurred to the babies because of wrong care by grandparents or daycare. The most serious case is falling from upstairs. So you'd better find an appropriate one to take care of your baby. Can your parents take care of your baby? That may be a choice.
