Do I need to wisen up?

August 5, 2011 10:08am CST
I have friends that been hardened by life on their early age, because there are people who disappoint them, I too should have become like them, but I didn't, they always advice me to wisen up and not believe in the best of people or i risk getting hurt... are they right? do some of your friends tell you the same thing?
6 responses
31 Aug 11
Life is really full of struggles. It's depend on how we deal with it. But not necessarily you must be prudent enough to all the things around you. Nobody is perfect. Just do whenever you think is right. God Bless.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
17 Aug 11
It doesn't matter what anyone else says or does. We each define ourselves and choose our actions. Me?? I want to be the guy who sees the best in people for that is what I want to bring out in people. You see. It isn't always about me. I will give everyone I meet the great opportunity to be trustworthy. Wouldn't you want others to do the same for you??
@lampar (7584)
• United States
5 Aug 11
If wisen up means not believe in the best of people, then it is a wrong message you want to believe in. Nobody say life is easy, it is always a constant struggle between your inner human emotion and outer environment. Think about it.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
8 Aug 11
It's me telling them! Most of my friends would seek advise from me. I had been through a lot in life and yes i had tough times. I lost my parents at a very young age, some relatives abused our kindness and we learned so many things. So when my friends got some problems, be it with their partner or their life problems, they always run to me.
@menace730 (506)
• Philippines
6 Aug 11
Hi flowerfest...I always believe in the best and good of people first until they give me a reason not to. If we believe in the worst first, then life will be based on suspicion and deceit. I for one do not want to live like that. There are times when I trust and believe in someone and that trust is broken. I chalk it up to life experience. You always will risk getting hurt when you trust, but the alternative is living with suspicion.
8 Aug 11
when i met someone i am really guarded. i instantly dislike them, and i seek out all the bad in them, that way i am prepared. i will give this person my time tho, and over time, if i start to see their good qualities and they are nice, i will grow to like them, and see their good points. however, if over time they turn out to be nasty and cruel.. i won't have lost anything, because i disliked them from the start :)