The son hates his mother

Vietnam
August 8, 2011 2:40am CST
He's 11 years old. He loves his father, his grandmother but he hates his mother and his younger sister very much. He often disobey his mother. Besides, he always found an excuse to tease his sister. He would say things like "mother died" or "I hate her." Each time like that, his mother beat him again. But he is not afraid. He has expressed hates her, even, he hated his mother's family. I really do not understand why it is so. The son hates his mother. Meanwhile, his sister very love her mum.
12 responses
@madteaparty (2763)
• Japan
8 Aug 11
Well, you said that his mother beats him, so that's the reason why this son would hate his own mother. Parents are supposed to love their kids, not to torture them or have a preference of one of the siblings over another. I don't really know this story in enough detail to judge, so I'm sorry if I have taken it wrong, but kids usually express their feelings sincerely, and for a kid to say he hates his mom, there has to be a very good reason.
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• United States
8 Aug 11
It is odd that a child feels such contempt for his mother. But believe me, the beating she is putting him throug is not helping matters. Maybe she was hurting him before and that's why he began hurting her...any chance of that? Maybe the son can tell that the mother favors the daughter (even if she is unaware of it) and that is why he doesn't like either of them. He's envious of his sister because she is getting more of the moms love, and he hates his mom for that very act. I think since the son likes the father, dad needs to try to get to the root of the problem. Dad needs to talk to his son and try to find out why he feels this way, or he needs to take him to a chidl therapist. THE DAD needs to be the only one involved in that if they decide to go that root. The child will cooperate better with a therapist if the mother is not involved.
@SIMPLYD (78765)
• Philippines
9 Aug 11
I totally agree with all that you said Lily. The mother beating him , made it more intense to hate her. And you are right, maybe she hates the mother because she favors the sister more and she's making it obvious to him. And it's true also that it's his Dad now, who can do something to revert this attitude of the child. Maybe the dad can point this out to the wife and cajole her not to be partial in showing love to the two children. This is something that the mother, father and sister can help repair.
• United States
18 Aug 11
Being that he is 11 already the beating will not help at this point so I think she needs to get some additional help. She also probably needs to start taking away something he truly loves to play with and or do as punishment. She needs to sit and discuss with him as to why she is punishing him so he understands that respect is a must at home. Not doing anything different and or to improve matters will only be worse as he gets older. This must be really hard on her as the mother.
• United States
9 Aug 11
OUCH! Did something happen in the past that has driven a wedge between them? Is there a chance that they can talk with someone that'll work with them before it gets worse?
• Southend-On-Sea, England
8 Aug 11
Perhaps he hates her because she beats him? There also may be other things regarding her that other people don't know about. Has anyone offered to be a confidential listening ear to the child to find out what really is on his mind and what he's so angry about?
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
8 Aug 11
I don't understand why the kid is that way. But I think he must have a reason of his own! And you did also say the mom beats the son, maybe that is the reason why the son resents him? But yeah in my point of view, kids don't hate others for no reason. They love the ones who love them and hate the ones who give them a reason to do so.
@umabharti (3976)
• India
8 Aug 11
kids show up love and hate without hiding.They are not elders to plan and tell soemthing.Any problem we should see it from the roots so that we can solve it.It might be some very hard reason for the son to do so,time will change and he will know the importance of females.
@06MLam (622)
8 Aug 11
Maybe he can feel that his mother loves his sister more than loving him. Therefore, he is jealous and keeps teasing his sister and hating his mother. Just a guess.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
8 Aug 11
The mother should not be beating anyone! Each of my sons went through this "I hate you" stage. It didn't bother me! That really bugged them. They aren't my friends, they are my children, period. It passes as they get older, then they feel bad and try to make up for it. It's kind of fun to watch this childish expression they think depicts independence.
@Jlyn10 (10579)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 11
It could be out of jealousy that the mother loves his sister more than him. And the beating sure doesn't help much since the hatred is already there. It could get worse. I hope his mother would stop beating him and talk to him nicely as kids around that age can still be disciplined and changed for the better. Kids need tender love and care.
@francesca5 (1344)
8 Aug 11
thats a bit of a problem, that definitely needs sorting out. though relationships within families can be very very complicated, and its hard to know what is really going on. maybe, if you are a good friend of the family, you can have a chat either to mother or son, to find out what is going on. mother could be very stressed, and so she takes it out on her son, but then the question is why. i think therapy is the best way forward, but sometimes a sensible adult from outside the family can be helpful too.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
8 Aug 11
For me maybe she get jealous to her mother because her sister only appreciated a lot than him.