if you meet your ex

@adhyz82 (36249)
Indonesia
August 9, 2011 5:44pm CST
if you meet your ex?? if you see again her or his picture?? if you see again their smile but not for you but for their spouse?? what will you do??
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@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
If ever I will meet an ex again, it will be fine for me. I don't have any bad feelings for them and and I hope they don't have any bad feelings for me too. If ever they are already with someone, then I will be happy for them and again I also hope that they are happy for me too that I am also married to the man I love now.
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@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
18 Aug 11
nope...i feel like there's no need to ask that when i think everything is already okay between us...
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
18 Aug 11
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 11
so had you asked your ex if he/she had forgiven you??
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
Meeting my ex in an unexpected places makes me awkward. It kinda surprising in another way, and makes me awkward. I dont keep picture of my ex, and i prefer seeing him with his family, not alone..
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 11
even you only say, hai and how are you??
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 11
wow...it means your couple in the past become burden for you
• Philippines
11 Aug 11
I just have a different reaction, that is. We have different experiences with our ex's, yah i don't say hi and hello. I would prefer not to talk, but i don't have any hatred and disppointments...I am happy now.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
Well,me and my ex has a good friendship so there is nothing to worry whenever we met each other. I can smile and have some talk with him ..no strings attached anymore and we are having good relationship as friends than lovers. Sometimes letting go means more happiness and will also give us more opportunities for a better life. have a good day jaiho®
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 11
wow...it means good.. Many people had a not good relation with their ex and they hate each other... and of course it can not good for both of their children..sometimes, both of them inherit their hate to their children
• Mexico
14 Aug 11
Hi adhyz: I think thatt's a little bit of dramma on this question . I can say that a person should be prepared for this situation before watching a past love. That means to be in peace and having forgiving this person or even yourself for whatever has happened between you. I'd love to see my ex feeling good with myself, without regretting anything and wishing her happiness. ALVARO
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
11 Sep 11
whats happen with your ex now?? is she married now??
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
I will do NOTHING. Why would I care for an ex who wasn't good enough for me. I will definitely ignore the guy, he isn'yt worth my time.. I saw my ex last month and he keeps on talking at me, I ignored him.He seems so annoying and so stupid..I feel pity for his partner..Well, good thing he's away now..He's not bothering me anymore..I don't love him..
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 11
really?? when you say like that, it reflect that you are jealous when you see him with his new partner
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 11
wow....the man is really real Playboy....thanks to God, you had left him
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• Philippines
11 Aug 11
REAL TALK, of course I am not jealous, you know what the girl is not his NEW partner, it's his old partner..I mean he cheated on her (he courted on me, i didn't know he was taken, im crazy and drunk so i just said yes,but deep inside me i dont love him)our realtionship took for 2 months only. I broke up with him for I found out he was taken(i don't want to hurt the girl,i feel pity for her because her guy is a player) then after a week i dated other guy and had a relationship after months and we're 4 years and half now..
@jmay1226 (97)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
It's fine with me seeing my Ex's again.. giving her smile for his wife is not a big deal with me.. They are part of my past and I would be glad if I see them again also because they became part of life sometime.. I can never forget my Ex's even how bad/good our experiences because we've been together at times... I will be glad to see them again because I also wanted to see how are they just like chatting with old lost friend.. XOXOXO....
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 11
jmay , how much your ex?? do you believe your OKAY when you smile with him and his wife??
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
That's so sweet of you ate sameh.. Thanks for being so updated here in mylot..Please be more active..
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
10 Aug 11
I have no time for my ex, first time I saw him after getting rid of him. It scared the s. out of me, even now I will get funny. cause of what he was like, he wont talk to me even about our son. Their called ex's for a reason.
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
10 Aug 11
i dont hate him as much, he was abusive and i went to the police about it finally. i will be civil on the fact of our son and that it.
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 11
wow...had no time...do you still hate him??
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
Hmmm, my ex? I haven't met him or heard about him for some time now. And maybe, he also hasn't heard anything about me either. And I think this is good for the two of us. But if I will meet him or see him on a picture smiling for his wife, then I will be happy for him that he finally settled down. Even if it's not for me, I'd still be all okay. My ex and I wasn't in good terms when we ended up as I caught him with another girl. So I guess, I am thankful that I did not end up with someone like him.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 11
wow... So you decide to go after discovered that he wasa also in a love with someone else ? What is your relationship with him is still OK now? or do you still hate him?
• Philippines
11 Aug 11
yEs I decided to go after discovering that he is seeing a woman other than me. I don't know what to do at that time when it feels like I can't live anymore. I still can remember what was I like when we break up but I don't want to go on with him anymore because of that situation, once trust is broken that's it. It was 4 years ago adhyz82, and I have forgiven him and myself for everything. I have moved on.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 11
so what happen now with your ex?? what is your respond if suddenly he call you and ask you "Hai, how are you"?
• United States
10 Aug 11
I am actually friends with many of my exes, so it would not be a big deal for me to see them again. In fact, there are a few that I actually hang out with from time to time. We do not get together much, because our schedules are different, but when we can we try to get together every few months or so just to hang out. It may seem strange to some, but just because we could not work out as a romantic couple does not mean that they were not nice people and we were not friends.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 11
ya, it`s strange for you.. i think we can be clumsy when we meet again our ex.... what is your tips, so you can be a friend with your ex??
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 11
i see... thanks for give me many knowledge
• United States
10 Aug 11
Well, I guess that it depends on the reason that the couple broke up. Many of my break-ups were over the fact that we wanted different things out of our lives at that particular time and had different priorities. I liked being with them (and they felt the same about me) and we were friends, but we just didn't want the same things from a long-term relationship. Therefore, it was a lot easier to remain friends as we genuinely cared about each other. Also, I had a child very young, so I was more focused on things that I thought were important in life. I still had fun, but I didn't do some of the silly and carefree things that some of my other friends did, because I had someone else that I had to think about and I was responsible for. I think that kept me more "grounded" as I wanted to set a good example for my child, and that included showing her that relationships did not have to end in hate and ugliness.
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@Yheart (496)
• Indonesia
24 Feb 12
I think I will feel happy for my ex like "I am glad you find someone good". Even if I still love my ex, I will try to react easy and cool. Well, it will be different story if you hate your ex.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
25 Feb 12
so now you had been married or not??
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
hi, of course for me i will accept it freely come from my heart,i dont have a right to feel something bad for him,even he hurt me in our past,acceptance will be the first feeling should i have to myself,and i will show that i am now happy for him for a new life with his wife.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
1 Dec 11
wow..you are so kind asliah.. is it true or only your theory??
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
hi adhyz, For me past is past When someone can't make it to my future then be it I can say that I am not affected if I meet my ex again This happened many times and I was just smiling at him and say Hello happy mylotting
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 11
maybe because you had found a new man??
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 11
had you try the best for looking a new man??
• Philippines
11 Aug 11
nope there is no man right now It's just I already accepted that he can't make it to my future I am better without him
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
Hahaha.. This is funny. I can't imagine myself seeing any of my exes. Hehehe.. I think, I would pretend that I didn't see them and I'll probably continue on what I'm doing. Hehehhe
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
12 Aug 11
Yeah ... everyone hopes may not meet again with her ??ex ... But if it happens to you, and you can no longer avoid him, what would you do?
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
12 Aug 11
ya, thats is situation... it`s funny and weird if our eyes had seen her and she had seen me, and i pretend not to saw her?? let me think again
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@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
In your given situation, he smiles to his gf at the moment, right? If that is so, I will pretend that I didn't saw them and walk away to be far away from them.
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
10 Dec 11
when i see my ex again..im a little bit bitter but i want to show on him that im so happy in my new partner because i feel that im taken for granted when we are together before.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
10 Dec 11
well..who make the first your relationship with him is not good?? you or him??
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
13 Aug 11
For me..I would be happy for them. I think that everyone deserves to be happy. I would hope they would be happy for me too.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
13 Aug 11
really?? you are so kind Jenin...
@catof1 (683)
• United States
9 Aug 11
uh wow. um if I see my ex, well WHEN I see him again I am sure I will want to tear his head off and make him dissapear into thin air with my eyes. I mean I try not to feel this way about him, but my God he took my son because he started making six figures. So I have a lot of pent up hostility that I won't let loose on him. I will let God Him self handle that little man and his abusive evil ways. I have others ex boyfriends and I would simply smile. I wish them happiness as I am happy with my love my husband now. He is my rock and foundation in life.
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
IF I ever see my ex, of course I'll be civil. The wounds our break up created are fully healed so I can smile and greet him without any problems. I can start a small conversation but I don't think I can immediately jump to the "let's be friends" part :D
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 11
It's called feeling awkward or clumsy Awkward from a people who understands you, become confused to start the conversation between you and her/him
@veedee13 (242)
• United States
12 Aug 11
Well there's gotta be a good reason why they are called an "ex" right?I think being mature I would say hi and go on with my day.Past is past and obviously we've both moved on with our life.There's no need to dwell in the past if you're happy in the present
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
12 Aug 11
past is past...i like it.. but past is history sometimes we must respect our history
@con909 (53)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
probably just say hi and won't make a big issue when seeing her. that's why they are called EX/X because it diddnt work out so why make all the troubles right?
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 11
just say hello?? it means nothing i think
@JL_Beldua (102)
30 Oct 11
For me it's okay, i'm happy she found me in exchange for his life, if we ever meet face to face again, i say congratulation to them both, then i withdraw themselves on there way to not be causes of disturbance, and go to a place we did not meet, and i wish them less than they would both be happy.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
30 Oct 11
wow..you are not sad when you meet again your ex with her new boy friend or her husband..you are kind man i think