A different person...
August 9, 2011 8:57pm CST
My husband and I has been married for more than 10 years. We now have 3 kids. He usually spends time at work during weekdays and stays home during weekends. He's a good family man, he provides us well. However, he seldom talks to us. We would talk but most of the time it would be just trivial topics. He's often quite when at home, just watching TV or taking a nap. I thought probably he's just tired because of work. But one time, he brought us to a company picnic. I was surprised to see him very energetic and clown-like with friends. He's definitely not like that when he's with us. His friends even would say things about him that made me think if they are really talking about my husband. We've been married for so long but I feel they know him better. I want to talk to my husband about this matter. But I'm afraid he might take it negatively. I just want him to be open to us, in the first place we are his family. What should I do?
• United States
11 Aug 11
Hello my friend, I understand is difficult, but nothing that don't have solution, I think the first thkng yo do is talk, talk about those stycky subjects, how; Fisrt you have to find a good time to talk, with not distraccions.near,like TV or children playing, but don't wait a long because you need yo talk with him soom, if yoi wait for the best time it may never come. So do it. It would be great if you begin your conversation with a pray. This is like a invitation to the holy spirit to save your marriage, When you begin your conversation with try to avoid past issues, while trying to resolve new ones,. Talk to him like a parnert no like you are his prosecutor I know is not easy but you have you try it, because maybe he wants to have this kind of conversation with you but he is not brave to do it. And I know it can be a vehicle that drive both of you closer to God and God give you the answer that you want in your marriage. Blesses my lotter friend.
• Garden Grove, California
18 Sep 11
time to start communicating and set aside a time to have a heart to heart talk with him.ask him to feel as free to be himself with 'you his wife as with his friends.be gentle but firmly put your concerns across telling him all the time I love you so relax with me and lets share more things. it should work too.