Right time to get married

South Africa
August 12, 2011 4:18am CST
Hello When do you think is the right time to get married? Do you believe you and your partner should date for a certain amount of years before you get married? Do you believe you should live together first? What are your thoughts as to what would be the best time and also share your experiences. Thanks all!
11 responses
@GemmaR (8517)
13 Aug 11
I think that if you have to ask whether it's the right time to be married, you're not ready enough. A lot of people decide to get married far too early these days and then end up having to pay for a divorce when they finally realise that, actually, they're not all that well suited for each other at all. I have been with my partner for four years, and we've just got engaged. We don't plan to get married for another two years though, so we'll have been together for six years when we do finally tie the knot. I think that's good, because we know for sure that we're a good match as we've been together for that long.
• South Africa
15 Aug 11
Thank you for your comment, however I am not asking to find out wether I am ready but rather to find out what other people believe. I want to know how other people view the situation and how they feel they would go about it. I understand that you are saying that if you have to ask wether you are ready then you proably are not and that is helpful to know too. So thank you for your answer. I think if two people love each other then what is the rush? You have all your lives and even even if you don't (touchwood) atleast you know that you had a love that only some people dream of and dont get to experience which is ufortunate. Thanks for response and I hope that all goes well for you and your partner!
@ryudo05 (34)
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
The right time for getting married does not really concern the right age or right amount of money for the wedding or to support the family. What matters most is the emotional maturity of the couple to take responsibility in bringin up their own family. Even if you have enough money or on the right age doesn't guarantee a stable and happy marriage. Dating or knowing your partner longer has advantages. But the truth is, you'll get to know your partner even more even after marriage. Your married life will be filled with times of learning more from each other. I married my wife six years ago. We dated for a few months, gone steady for 5 years and decided to get married after that. Right now we are still learning more of each other on things that couples really do not show their partners during the courtship up to the boyfriend-girlfriend stage. It is on the first stages of your married life that you will understand and love your partner even more.
• South Africa
15 Aug 11
I understand where you are coming from. We learn something new in every aspect of our lives and that includes our relationships. You will always learn more about another person because it is probaly impossible to know everything about someone. Each day is a new day to learn more and learn something you didn't know. Thanks for the answer!
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
28 Nov 11
There is no right time to get married, because you are never as ready as you think you are when you do it. About the best advice I can give is to just do it and hope for the best. LOL
• China
13 Aug 11
Personally I think you can get married any time if you get along very well together after 1 year. Too young or too old is not good to get married, I think 24-28 years old is the good age.
• Philippines
13 Aug 11
I think there is no certain time and age to get married. I can say that Im ready to get married if Id be able to settle my family, found a stable job, have my own house or lot at least,be able to saved money, insurance ( currently working on it), have a general check up(I'll make sure that I'm not sick, Im mean seriously sick that is hard to cure, I don't wanna give headache to someone Im gonna marry), and of course, Ill make sure that he is "the one" that Im gonna be with forever. You know, getting married aint a joke. You must be hundred percent sure or else there's no turning back. I don't want a broken family.
@menenako (22)
• Philippines
13 Aug 11
for me, the best time is 25 years old... get married when you already fully enjoyed being a teenager...when you already do all what you want as a single...coz when you get married already you cannot do all what you want (ex...party party, going home late) because you already have husbant to think of...and of course your children..you will do your household chores for your family..unlike when you're still single you will probably depend on your parents... experience (not mine but my co worker) he get married so early without even enjoying his being single or as a teenager... now he and his wife always get quarrel because the boy always go home late because after work he joined or mingled with his single co workers going to overnight in the beach...party party... and others...
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
12 Aug 11
I think it won't be a matter how long both of people gotta to date. If you knew that person, you knew that person. If you feel he/she is the right one, You just have to go for it. For my personal opinion, I won't against idea of living together first. To be an experience to see if both of you can be living under the same roof. And both of you can tolerate each other's fault.
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
Right time to get married? hmmmm I don't have that much of an experience in relationship, Im still young.. but in my opinion, the right time to get married if you yourself is ready to have a family on your own, you love your partner of course!, and if you have enough money to support your family, and if you're strong enough to handle problems because problems is part of our life...
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
The right time to get married if both of you is ready enough to face the new chapter in your Life. Both physical, emotional,financial ready.Or maybe if both of you are self full filled, done all the things in single hood life .Married Life is different from BF_GF relationship
• India
12 Aug 11
Personally i feel... u gotta date alot in the first place... Get to know the person with whom your gonna spend the rest of your life with... I would'nt reccomend a livein relationship...it would just make things complicated... get engaged and then after engagement ideal time to marry would be 2 yrs...
@Adornado (103)
• Philippines
13 Aug 11
For me there is really no right time to get married because it really depends on you and your partner's relationship chemistry and also your financial status in life and if you have permanent job or permanent business but nowadays many couples get married at an average age between 23-28 years old.