What should you do if your sister cannot move out?

@zhawee (873)
Philippines
August 13, 2011 5:31pm CST
How can I tell my sister and her family, she need to move out other house or separated. They still leaving my parents house the kids grows up now. I can`t say anything for sister without hurting her feelings. I love my niece and nephews, but there are almost grow up now, and i don`t want to put them mind to see what to do her mother she still need my parents in financial support. she still dependent to my parents
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@thetis74 (1525)
14 Aug 11
Maybe you can slowly tell her nicely that the children are growing up and that she should at least try to be a little independent at least, but starting on some little things. But of course you need to tell her nicely. And maybe you could help her do something because we never know she might just be having difficulty being independent and needs your help too but just could not tell you all about it. Just try to offer suggestions first I think and make her know that it is not going to be like that forever and that she really also needs to help your parents too. Just make her understand as much as possible and motivate her. If she is just really lazy and doesn't want to do anything. Then I guess it will really be a problem. I hope it won't be that way after all.
@zhawee (873)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
thank you for this advice yes i already do this like your advice to me.. im talking nicely as now she move the house of my parents but the problems she always running and come my parents place to for some support like foods and money.. because she you my youngest sister and marry in the early age.. so we must help them but the important she dependent his own house hold chores..
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• United States
13 Aug 11
If i were you I would just be straight with her... She is ruining not only her life but her kids and your parents. She needs to be dependent of herself and get job and a place of her own. Tell her she'd be happier if she moved out and her kids would too!
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 11
reallysuny if I had any faily to help me and my son when we were evicted I would have been so grateful.you are right families' must help one other, thats what they are there for to help one other in times of trouble. Our friends did all they could do to help. if his parents are not upset with their daughter then he should leave well enough alone.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 11
zhawee whats the matter withyou she is family and if your parents are not making her move out maybe there is a reason, maybe she needs their help. let your parents be the judge on whether or not your sister need to move out. if your parents are okay with this then you must leave well enough a lone.some times things happen and people need help only family can give.never turn your back on your siste an her family.
• United States
13 Aug 11
That's a tough one. Maybe you could try telling them that they're going to be adults who can't depend on anyone and need help constantly like a baby. They won't be able to know how to do things, and they will never know the how great is is to kknow how to be your own person. That's the best way I could put it.
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