Are tears worthy for forgiveness?
By jemzchix
@jemzchix (116)
Philippines
August 24, 2011 7:48pm CST
Good morning myLotters! We all know that most men often hide what they truly feel and avoid showing to the male and female their tears. But there are times that men just simply break down, and cry. especially on situations wherein they have conflict with their special someone. And most of the female just really get so awed or carried away by crying males.
But, if given the situation that they have cheated or have done something gravely wrong towards their counterpart, would crying and asking for forgiveness be an excuse and be worthy for forgiveness?
We women, we seldom see them shed tears, so, are those tears a sign of sincerity and utmost regret to what they have done?
Men, how do you react to men who cry, especially with it comes to dealing with their relationship?
4 responses
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
seldom do we see men cry and i guess the notion that men tends to not show emotions that would cause such. i have a friend who is very emotional and usually cries a lot especially tears of joy, a sincere act of appreciation, and on this note, i guess tears only signifies sincerity and if one asks for forgiveness, then i think it should be given.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
there are instances where some do, especially who are really into messing the truth and taking advantage [probably the playboy or gigolo type of guys], and these guys probably are really onto just playing around to prove their machismo or probably have no conscience at all, lol!
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
19 Sep 11
To me there is no difference between men or woman who are crying. I don't think we have here very emotional women crying about nothing each time (like I see in so many american talk shows like Ophrah W, dr Phill etc).
For me just tears has nothing to do with real regretting something, there are people (men included) who easily shed tears and frequently it has nothing to do with the subject at all. I never saw a man breakdown because of a conflict with a special someone, I did see depressed men cry and break down. And the reason was seldom because of a relationship.
I know enough men and also both my ex were cheating. Only my latest ex shedding some tears but it doesn't really touch my heart. It's all one big comedian. He is doint it the same way as little kids do if they don't like to get punished.
No need to give forgiveness then.
If a person feels sorry it has to come from the heart. Not by words (it's easy to say I am sorry so forget about it we are friends again), not by shedding some tears (that is what I call abuse the other person by using him/her feelings) but by the whole behaviour.
@yentongs (29)
•
26 Aug 11
Not all the time, no. Because some people are much too manipulative for their own good, and they would use tears to try to get what he wants out of someone, or to get a person to his side or some such. Aside from tears, you should gauge one's sincerity through other means. Spend time with that person, talk through your issues, observe his gestures, know what he does on his time when he's not with you. It's true that men seldom shed tears, but I know of a guy who is very emotional. He can be sincere, but he can also be manipulative if he wants to:)
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
9 Sep 11
base from my experience..my guy keep me a secret, i dont know if it is cheating or not (i actually call it cheating already),sorry but i will not be discriptive on that issue(it's a very long story)but when i figure it out it was hard for me and decided to break-up with him without confronting him,but he tries to see me and explains evrything on what he has done..i simply understand his reason but still its very painful for me and still wants to break him up..after he heard my final decision his tears started falling and started to cry hard..as if he was a little kid that day begging for something he wanted..when i saw him on that situation,my heart was soften,and started to hud him to make him feel calm,,after that i decided to give him chance and start all over again..
