Is jealousy a sign of deep love or insecurity?

August 25, 2011 6:07am CST
I have been married to my husband for 6 years now and these past two years i wonder about this absurd bouts of jealousy. Absurd because i know that he loves me and i have no reason to be jealous, i just don't know what is wrong with me, i pick fights even though it is such a senseless thing.. i just wanna know is this normal? does it show that i love him more...? is it going to get worse? or are these my hormones going astray :P
4 responses
@marguicha (90283)
• Chile
30 Aug 11
I think that jealousy is a sign of insecurity. If the partner gives reasons, there are other ways to deal with them. Some people like to flirt or are used to utter warm expresions. But that is to be discused between the two spouses. Even then, when you get married (or get a partner, you must love him/her as he/she is, and in spite of what he/she is. If you are not capable of accepting the other, donĀ“t get involved as it is not the person for you.
30 Aug 11
i know marguicha, i think i am just a little bit insecure.. because my husband is doing nothing for me to mistrust him...thanks :)
• Indonesia
26 Aug 11
Hello woman!!! You know I never like jealousy, okay maybe jealousy is like a spice in relationship but I dont believe it is the sign of deep love. for me jealousy is sign of insecurity, it can destroy a relationship, it can change someone's personality, a never ending fight. You said in these past 2 years the jealousy caused you to pick fight for no reason but I dont think it happened for no reason. there must be something that changed in the past 2 years, try to find out what was it and so you can find solution for the jealousy. I understand living away from husband is hard,maybe its because you miss him too much. Well, one thing I need to tell you dont let the jealousy controlling you.
26 Aug 11
wow, such wisdom sprouting from your lips... thank you woman.. you have a point and will keep what you said in mind.. what is important in the long run is your love for the person.. :))
• United States
25 Aug 11
I believe that jealousy is a sign of insecurity. I also feel that past experiences play a major role in how much one is willing to trust their mate. It appears that this is all based on trusting the partner and knowing that they are not going to break that trust no matter what. Jealousy destroys more relationships than many other things. If one cannot trust then there is no basis for a relationship at all.
26 Aug 11
yes, it maybe because of the distance and even though i trust him i can not help myself.. i will try to be more understanding..
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
25 Aug 11
Do you have a child? If not, do you have a lot of time at your disposal or is your husband surrounded by his friends or is he very close to his parents/siblings etc..,? If you have a busy life, are engaged in your own activity you would not have too much time to think of many things and fights may not be frequent.
25 Aug 11
kalav56, yes, we have two kids... he is a seafarer he is away like 9-10 months and stays here for 3-4 months... how come i don't feel like this before..why now when we are already suppose to be passed the stage of jealousy...