Would you accept a former suitor on facebook?

@eileenleyva (11022)
Philippines
August 29, 2011 2:58am CST
I live by the code that what was in the past stays in the past. But with facebook, old suitors had even become online friends. Would you accept a former suitor on facebook?
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19 responses
@maximax8 (28958)
• United Kingdom
19 Sep 11
On Face Book I am friends with an ex-boyfriend. He came to visit me for a weekend in 2009 because we stayed friends. He has a girlfriend and we are not ever going to re-kindle our relationship that we had years ago. I have the email address of another ex-boyfriend and we send about 12 emails a year. He has been dating his girlfriend for the last 3 years. I can say we are just friends.
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• Philippines
2 Sep 11
I live by that code too. But on facebook, my old boyfriends added me up and I accepted. I believe he found out about my facebook existence via our mutual friends. So we're now facebook friends. But that's just about it. We don't chat, message, comment on each other's walls, nor "like" each one's statuses or posts. So we're not really "friends". I know...it's weird. :D
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@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
1 Sep 11
It depends. Old suitors may belong to the past but their status are different now. They are friends. As such, with different status, how can we say they are our past? I would gladly accept them online if we left peacefully, but if i know they are back with malicious intent, there's no way i will allow them to do so. Humans are unpredictable creatures, and it's up for us to decide what to do.
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@tessa9 (1086)
• Philippines
1 Sep 11
I think I will accept his invite but I don't have a facebook haha (I know I still live in the olden times at the age of 20). But if he starts insinuating other things and not just being friendly then I will immediately delete him.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
31 Aug 11
I am married and have been so for the past seven years and I've been with my husband for going on to ten years now. However, I will admit that my ex is one of my facebook friends and I also talk to him in person on a fairly regular basis. My husband doesn't have a problem with that. However, if it was something that would really bother him, then the situation would be very different. You see, I would never knowingly do something that would bother my husband.
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@neildc (17253)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
31 Aug 11
i don't think there is a problem if he only want is to be friends. but i don't believe every girl will agree if the former suitor will start to court her again.
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• Philippines
31 Aug 11
Hi there. I did accept them as friends as long as they would not be reminiscing on the past. Hahaha. Honestly, initially I was afraid to do so because it seems like the ghost from my past. However, when I think about are past relationship, I believed I fairly dealt with the situation and tried my best not to hurt them. I just drifted away so that I would not be able to hurt them. For ex-bf, that's where I have issue of. My ex tried to add me in FB and I denied it. My motive is to remain safe and not to cause distress or problem with his wife. He is married already and I don't want to be the cause of trouble between them. Also, I believe I deserve to have a much better relationship in the future if there would be. Have a nice day.
@gtdonna (1740)
31 Aug 11
Well true the past should stay in the past, but I do have quite a few suitors as my Facebook friend and they have shown me nothing but respect
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@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
30 Aug 11
That has never happen to me on Facebook and i doubt it ever would! I didn't have alot of boyfriends back in the day. I haven't had one in a very long time,which is fine with me! Even if I had someone,who is an old boyfriend,look me up on Facebook,I would not except them! I just don't care to live the past when it comes to that! I would delete them and if they would continue to try,I would block them.
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@ElicBxn (60894)
• United States
30 Aug 11
well, yes, because I've only had one and I broke it off...
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• India
30 Aug 11
Hello my friend eileenleyva Ji, All such sites are purely and in real good pass time without attching personal life strings. They do not have any roll over my daily routine. I am not affected with them. So I do not have such feelings. Thanks. May God bless You and have a great time.
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@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
29 Aug 11
hello eileen, i am a very open minded person. an ex is in the past and if you parted ways civilly and in a very good manner and have stayed as friends, i dont find anything wrong with it. unless your husband has an objection. ann
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@louievill (20365)
• Philippines
29 Aug 11
I think for men the discussion would be more like would you accept a former girl friend or somebody you courted and rejected your love, fair enough?, I always go by the code that " time is a great healer" so why not but depending on how long and how deep the wounds were LOL, now nobody would like to open old wounded hearts through FB would they?
@salonga (27957)
• Philippines
29 Aug 11
I'm married and very much contented with it so I don't mind adding a former suitor as FB friend. Former suitors can always be my friends anyway. Even my husband would not mind either because he has no more reasons to get jealous for he trusts and he knows me fully well.
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@stanley777 (7178)
• Philippines
29 Aug 11
So, he is just your suitor then and not have been your boyfriend.I think it's okay to accept him as a friend in FB.It's also good opportunity to revive the old friendship you shared with him before.Also to know what he had been doing for the past year that you have not seen him.
@tong_jd (29)
• Philippines
29 Aug 11
Why not? Just because they want to be friends with you in Facebook doesn't mean they want something else more than that. Perhaps, they just want to catch up with you after all, you were friends in real life, or at the very least know each other personally. But if that suitor did something bad for you in the past, you have all the reasons in the world not no FB-friend him.
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@ybong007 (6658)
• Philippines
29 Aug 11
I'm sure this discussion is for the ladies only but here's my unsolicited two cents ...If it was a former suitor then why not? The important thing is you've known the guy personally.
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• Ireland
29 Aug 11
Well personally I wouldnt because my current boyfriend wouldnt be too happy! But if I was single.... I don't think I would either. It would depend on the reasons of why the relationship didnt work out, and how he treated you. Move forward! thats what I say!!
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• Philippines
29 Aug 11
If you are single and they are too, why not?
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