I get mad about everything.,How about you??

Philippines
September 3, 2011 3:15pm CST
My problem is that i get so mad EVERYTHING!!! My parents aren't all that strict, but whenever they tell me i can't do something, i feel like punching them out. I've never actually hit anyone, but i really feel like it a lot of the time. If my younger sister forgets to give me a phone message or something, i completely lose control and chew her out. Then she starts crying and i feel bad, but i don't know what to do. sometimes i yell so much that my throat gets sore. T_T also, my bestfriend has started getting on my nerves. He doesn't have a girlfriend, and sometimes he says bad stuff about mine, like how he saw her flirting with this other guy. I got really mad at my girlfriend, but it turned out it wasn't even true that she was flirting, so she got mad at me, and we broke up even though i still like her. Then I got really mad at my friend for telling me a lie in the first place! Is there something I can do to not get so angry about everything???
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12 responses
@ankitbhat (269)
• India
4 Sep 11
boy you need to slow down and rise abve all this anger thing else you gonna burst you cant sulk at every damm thing you need to learn how to enjoy the life man stop being such a morose and respect your close relations whether it is your parents sister or your girl friend or even friends just enjoy the life because anger only ends up in regret
@ankitbhat (269)
• India
4 Sep 11
boy you need to slow down and rise abve all this anger thing else you gonna burst you cant sulk at every damm thing you need to learn how to enjoy the life man stop being such a morose and respect your close relations whether it is your parents sister or your girl friend or even friends just enjoy the life because anger only ends up in regret
@ankitbhat (269)
• India
4 Sep 11
boy you need to slow down and rise abve all this anger thing else you gonna burst you cant sulk at every damm thing you need to learn how to enjoy the life man stop being such a morose and respect your close relations whether it is your parents sister or your girl friend or even friends just enjoy the life because anger only ends up in regret
@ankitbhat (269)
• India
4 Sep 11
boy you need to slow down and rise abve all this anger thing else you gonna burst you cant sulk at every damm thing you need to learn how to enjoy the life man stop being such a morose and respect your close relations whether it is your parents sister or your girl friend or even friends just enjoy the life because anger only ends up in regret
• Philippines
4 Sep 11
Oh, don`t get mad at everything. There is always a reason for us to smile even with small things. Like with your parents you don`t have to get mad at them always to the point that you wanted to punch them, i know you don`t want to so whenever they tell you about something, just accept it because the know what`s best for you. When your sister forgets about something, just don`t get mad easily, instead talk to her and remind her of those things she needs to remember. But an exemption for your friend because he really did something that could let you get mad. Even I would also get mad. He makes up stories and it was a lie. I think for you not to get angry at everything, always think of happy thoughts and practice to smile. A simple smile could light up your day.
@rose1717 (190)
• United States
4 Sep 11
Personally I think you should go to the doctors and see what they think. It is not a normal response to get so angery at everything. I'm wondering if it maybe something like depression or something.
@xtin1207 (13)
• Philippines
4 Sep 11
Learning to control your emotions can probably help. I do cope with anger issuse by trying to avoid confrontations. When I get mad, I take myself someplace where I can cool down, relax, and think about the issue once my head is cleared. Anger can cloud your judgement and can make you do things you might end up regretting.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
4 Sep 11
Hi JovyCute and welcome to Mylot! Well, I was out and on my own at age 18 so I didn't get all that angry at my parents for much of anything after that. They really didn't have any control on my life after that because I had control. It sounds to me as if you have some anger issues and could maybe benefit from visiting a councellor. It's normal to get angry but your way of expressing your anger is really self-destructive.
• United States
4 Sep 11
Its called being a teenager and those hormones inbalance/stuff. You'll get mad without any too good of a reason due to it. Thats why teenagers are hard to deal with during that age. Its not exactly their fault either. Don't worry, it's part of life. Just don't go overboard.
@RoSe0x1 (110)
• Egypt
3 Sep 11
after all of what you said...it is still something good that you,yourself feel that you are wrong and that you have a problem to be solved..that is a good step :) look,im a nervous character too and i used to yell at everyone and yell at my parents but when i became older i found that those parents i was always their passion.they have done everything to made me happy and never yelled at me but to make me a better one :) they also standed all my rudeness when i was young ..why dont i stand them? things go like this,dear..you have to think with you self to find what others did to you and think what do they deserve from you as for your sister,,,we all have this problem..but remember...if you expelled her from your life,she is gonna get someone else for her to help her and you wont have any idea about him! so try to be beside her and treat her as u want to be treated as for your friend and your girl friend...not everyhing we listen by our ears are true...thats why we have eyes to make sure things are real...you should have made sure of what your friend said before accusing your girl friend ...if you still really like her..go to her and apologize and show that you really care for her..show that with passion..she will understand :)
@vittos (121)
• Bulgaria
3 Sep 11
Maaaan, you should slow down, even by reading this I can feel the tension in you. You won't see any good from getting mad all the time. I am telling you from personal experience. I use to get mad a lot, I mean really A LOT. If you say hello, I get mad, you ask for the time I get mad, you don’t speak at all, I get mad. The only place I was playing it cool was in the night bar I use to work at, but that was only because I had to get pay in the end of my shift. You can’t imagine how many times I wanted to kick the $*@$@ out of some group of drunk men (and sometimes women), or an annoying drunk girl on the bar, telling me a story about her ex boyfriend or her best friend etc. Finally one “beautiful” day, I ended up in a hospital with a hard disease, I was 25 back then. The doctor thought I was taking steroids or drinking too much coffee, but it was neither one. Then he said, that I should either change my life and stop getting mad about elementary things or I will probably not live to see my 50's living like that. This is serious, don’t waste your life getting mad about things that will not decide your faith. Just try to laugh more, there is a lot more to life than that. You are still too young, don't start now, you have plenty of time to think over situations and decide what is right and what is wrong. Take care.
• United States
3 Sep 11
As a parent who is not old enough to have a child your age, but one who has a stepson who just turned ten and his body is starting to go through some changes and he experiences less intense, but similar situations. Sometimes when hormones start kicking in full tilt and we are inexperienced in how to respond to them, it can be easy to let them take over and allow yourself to become VERY angry. You're like a shaken soda bottle or a boiling kettle, eventually something's gonna burst. However, if you extremes in emotions seem to be stronger than those around you, you may have something else going on. My stepson has ADHD and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. His dad was diagnosed with ADHD (adult onset, is generally diagnosed when one is in high school) in high school. While every individual is different, sometimes these extreme emotions can be made to feel more so when a biochemical imbalance is taking place. My husband experienced stuff similar to what you are describing before he was diagnosed. My stepson experiences rage as well. My husband went on medication for a couple of years and went to counseling. After his first year of college, he has learned enough in counseling, that he was able to stop using medication. He was slowly weaned off of it with medical supervision. We are told by my stepson's psychiatrist and counselor that eventually may be able to do the same with his ADHD medication and also be able to reduce his dose (if not completely eliminate) of anxiety medication. If you feel like your responses to normal situations are extreme, talk to an adult you can trust, about it. Hopefully, your parents, but if not a family friend, aunt or uncle or school counselor. Everyone needs a little help some times and to be healthy, you have to treat your WHOLE body, which includes your mind. Don't be afraid of people in behavioral health offices, it is those who look down on the notion that you should worry about. Good luck!