When someone flirts with you, and you are in a relationship..
By redphile
@redphile (2264)
Philippines
September 4, 2011 11:48pm CST
What do you do when someone flirts with you but you are in a relationship?
Do you tend to go along and go with the flow?
Or does it ever cross your mind that you are in a relationship and will not entertain thath person who is flirting with you?
how do you handle it?
Because as for me, I know that I am in a loving relationship and I will never entertain any flirtations from anyone even if they say that he is the hottest guy in the planet. I know how much I love my boyfriend and will never do anything that will sabotage our relationship. Even in my past relationships, the only hot guy for me is my boyfriend. Thats it. Thats how much I value my relationships. Sometimes things happen and you dont end up together, but I know un my heart that during that relationship, I have done my part to be faithful to the one I am with.
your thoughts mylotters?
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19 responses
@Amanda81587 (3042)
• United States
5 Sep 11
When someone flirts with me i just laugh it off as a joke and move on. I am always around my boyfriends family so if someone is going to flirt with me it is one of his cousins and I just let them know that they will never have the time of day so stop trying. I actually had my boyfriends cousin call me when my boyfriend and I broke up one time. I told him move it along because I do not date family or friends of an ex boyfriend for the sanity of the both of us. I think he was surprised! My boyfriend better know he has a keeper!
@Amanda81587 (3042)
• United States
11 Sep 11
We do not flirt with each other but I do not allow his family to flirt with me either, I am not sure if you misunderstood me or something. I wish he would flirt with me. We are having trouble right now with his attention. He seems to not give me enough of it and more to his four wheelers and trucks. So we are on a little break right now away from each other.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
Oh sorry bout that, but then for me, flirting with your partner is also one way to keep the spice going, so try it out take the first move, when you are out on a date or in a bar or wherever. You should try something out to keep it going. The family , yes youre right do not let his other family members flirt with you, that's awkward eh.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
Haha that's nice! Well it would be great that you only flirt with each other, you and your partner, because that means that you are still excited with each other. If in 3 or 5 years together you are still like that, then I believe that you will stay happy together. Flirting is an exciting activity but for me it only works if I am attracted to the person I am flirting with, and right now I am only attracted to my partner.
@labli09 (70)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
if someone flirts with me, i would also not entertain him..i am so faithful to my boyfriend even though he's a thousand miles away from me..i often avoid temptations around me..even though how much i miss my boyfriend, i would never let other men flirt with me..i don't want to loose the trust that my boyfriend gave me..i love my boyfriend so much and i will never do things that could make me loose him like this one..
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Well that just gives you good self control that even if your partner and I are not always together, there is trust between you and that you will not break that trust with stupid flirtations with unimportant people. Going away with having to flirt will make you think that he might do the same thing to you. Cheers to you and your boyfriend!
@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
When Im in a relationship I am never flirt to someone or anyone aside with my boyfriend, all my eyes and my heart is totally occupied with him and no one will intrude that. I am the faithful one in terms of the relationship. If you want to flirt with me, you will never win.. I dont entertain the thoughts and the person who is flirting with me, because if that's the case i will think also that my partner will do the same. and i guess its not right for him also to entertain those kind of thing.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
Honesty is the best policy :) If we already have our partner, you are right, our heart and mind should only be focused on your relationship and never mind people that are not important and who might ruin your relationship. You also have a point that if you do flirt, I will also think that my partner will do the same.
@pibi713 (187)
• China
6 Sep 11
If you go out with someone who flirts with you when you are in a relationahip, you are cheating on your lover.If someone does that to me, I won't forgive him.
@kry893 (222)
• Canada
10 Sep 11
Oh no, I wouldn't even dream of entertaining any flirts when I'm in a relationships because I like being loyal to my partner. Sometimes, other people, if they know that you are already in a relationship, they will try to get your attention away from your relationship. Sometimes, they do it just to ruin what you have and you just never know their intentions. Stick to your loved one. Flirting outside of a relationship isn't fair to your partner.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
Yes, life is not fair already so let's not add to it right. We should be fair to our partner I agree with you on that. Flirting is one way of ruining your relationship with your partner, and its something that you can try if that's what you want to happen. But if you want to stick to something real, something that is for keeps, be faithful to your partner, and stop flirting with unimportant people.
@cowgirl03051979 (918)
• United States
6 Sep 11
Used to I didnt care if i was in a relationship or not. I just liked seeing how many men i could date before they all found out about each other. then i met a man that i really fell in love with. when him and i started dating i absolutely refused to flirt or even picture myself with anyone else. even though him and i are broken up now in my mind i am still his gal. i still refuse to even look at anyone else.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
Aww that is sweet, but yeah sometimes there will come a time that you experiment and some of us love the limelight or having the attention of all the boys around. But you will really find that one partner that you will love and cherish for all your life. Me too, I refuse to look at anyone else because I am already with a great guy that I know is for keeps.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
5 Sep 11
Sometimes i find it annoying when people flirt with me and I am with someone. Especially when they can clearly see that I am dating someone. I am flattered when I get flirted with and when I am talking to someone who is flirting with me, I make it a point to mention my boyfriend in the conversation to clear any misunderstandings.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
That's kind of rude and people like that should be turned down. They dont seem to realize that they may ruin a relationship with what they are doing. THey can clearly see that you are with your partner or even if he or she is just a date but going with his or her flirtatious activity would be something not good.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
5 Sep 11
I am in a relationship and i have never entertained any person who shows interest in flirting with me. not even if they are attractive because i know i am attached, and of course that meant that i should not be flirting with any other guys, other than my boyfriend.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
Well for me, no one else is more attractive than my boyfriend, even if the whole world says otherwise. If I love a person, he is the only one that my eyes see as beautiful, because love makes your relationship beautiful, and that's how I see love. Flirting with other guys means that you are not contented with the relationship that you currently have. If you just want to have some fun then a serious relationship is not for you.
@kaylachan (58181)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
5 Sep 11
Most of the time, I rarely notice it when someone is trying to flirt with me. If it's someone I don't know, I'm defencive most of the time or shy. Either way, it's difficult for me to trust anyone enough to know what they are trying to do. If someone's nice and friendly, I'm kind in return. But, if they ask me out... I'll decline. Quite often this has driven people away. But, I look at it this way. If they can't handle just a little bit of rejection, then they aren't worth my time or effort. Beside there is more to me then what's in-between my legs. And, aside from me... my man is the only one who gets to see/touch that area.
@watergirl (567)
• Philippines
5 Sep 11
true, if you really value your relationship, you should dismiss any and all flirtations. However, there are people out there who can't help but flirt with others even if they are already turned down.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
Maybe because those who flirt has not the person that is right for them. That's why they flirt bit if you are in a relationship, why in the world would you need to flirt in the first place? If you want to have some fun, you have your partner to share the fun with.
@jennigoff33 (332)
• United States
5 Sep 11
I would never cheat on any boyfriend. But regardless a majority of individuals flirt and don't even realize it. I see no harm in others saying anything to me. I will not feed into it and will ignore it. But it is hard to say that being in a relationship that both parties will not be tested by others. In fact, some just want to see if they can get what they can not have. Individuals are so diversified, the best thing to do is to ignore it. Because even if u try to be rude or nice about it sometimes regardless you may still get hit on.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
People love the challenge, I know. So some people would really go out their way to make sure or to try and test how good they are in picking up the victim who is the one in a relationship. And the one who is in a relationship would be deciding whether or not he or she will give into the temptation that starts with flirting.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
5 Sep 11
Hi redphile!
It's the same for me, too. If I have a boyfriend, I will not flirt to anyone who's flirting with me. And besides, when I have a boyfriend, he's the only one for me, the only hot guy, cool guy, the most handsome of them all. 
I would never bother to look to another guy even if that guy is promising me the stars.
In the first place, if I love my boyfriend, I will not do anything to hurt him nor our relationship. Why would I destroy something that is making me happy? 
I would never bother to look to another guy even if that guy is promising me the stars.
In the first place, if I love my boyfriend, I will not do anything to hurt him nor our relationship. Why would I destroy something that is making me happy? 
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
5 Sep 11
hello,
I love your idea and I do agree to you! because I know that I am in the relationship so I wont entertain anyone just to ruin our harmonious relationship. A certain situation like this cannot be tolerate right? It is always in the person if he/she will entertain. I know if I dont give attention to that flirt I know he will stop on his own. Yes, at least in my own way I am faithful either the relationship will last or not.
@iamsummer (192)
•
5 Sep 11
That is witty to chrish the friendship have set up between you and your boyfriends ,don't let the one who flirts with you make a influence on you two.Comparing with make a friends with him or her,why don't you just keep him or her in the right distance,keeping in tough sharing your interests or blue.You can treat it as your intimate.In one's life,we need someone to share who mood,you can let him or her be your one.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
I have learned that in life when you have found the love and partner of your life, he becomes not just your boyfriend or girlfriend but also your new best friend. More so if you have been married already. The one that you will live your life with should be the only one you can share your dreams and fantasies with. :)
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
5 Sep 11
This happens often in life.
when some flirting with me I like but if I'm in a relationship I do not know how I received.
I'd done the same and I flirtuvaa on but nothing else.
just because of the entertainment is very enjoyable when you know that there are many men or women they like and want to be with you for a moment and laugh together.
nice day!
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
It is enjoyable yes but you dont know what will be the consequences of your actions. You might fall in love with the person you are flirting with or it might affect the relationship that you have with your partner. You are happy, laugh all you want, but then if I do that I will feel guilty because I feel that I should only be flirting with my partner.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
I am not confused with flirtation and relationship. I'm just saying that in a relationship, both parties should be faithful to each other. Flirting may lead to another and it might destroy a relationship. I don't believe that it is still healthy or okay to flirt if you are in a relationship.
