Peter Pan Syndrome - "I'll never grow up!" - Is it wrong?

Philippines
September 7, 2011 11:28am CST
One of my friend told that I have "Peter Pan Syndrome" because I commented from a discussion about being mature "I'll tell you what I think about it "when I grow up!" ". They were talking about how adults should face reality and forget fantasy in order to live happily! I think that is BS! I have responsibilities and I do face them but I am never giving up the fantasies and dreams! Off to never never land!!!!
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16 responses
• Philippines
7 Sep 11
Dreaming is not bad at all. Never mind what other people says they don't know what you really feel. although you believe in some fantasies and dreams atleast you still don't forget your responsibilities. That's what makes you happy and motivate you in life. So never give up your dreams. Having a dream makes you unique. makes you different to others. makes you more younger. makes you believe in something that is impossible but you are able to make it possible. It doesn't loose your hope in every goal to want to achieve. If you are capable of making your dream possible. What more making things possible in reality? You are much capable acheiving things in reality. Never stop believing. Keep on dreaming and you'll inspire other people around you. People like you brings color in a dull crowd.
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
Thank you very much! Very nice and sweet words of encouragement!
@Bluedoll (17068)
• Canada
7 Sep 11
As long as you have a balance between your creative child and your serious adult self you will be fine. I say ignore the comment and let Peter listen to the tiny fairy.
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• Philippines
8 Sep 11
Thanks! You can come with me to Never Never Land if you want to! But we need to go back here before dinner
@sizzle3000 (3040)
• United States
7 Sep 11
I'm in my forty's and I still haven't grown up. Neither has my husband. I think that growing up is for the older people that have given up living life. I mean the more you just play around the younger it can make you feel. You just need to know at what times you need to be mature. Like when it comes to spending money or saving it for certain things. There are always times you have to be mature but you don't have to be 24/7.
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• Philippines
8 Sep 11
Yes, you are very right! Mature decisions doesn't necessarily mean acting old. Like I am saving money right now by not spending too much on not so important things, so we can buy a 40" TV. Can't wait to play my Wii console there!
@marguicha (95033)
• Chile
7 Sep 11
I think the bad part of the Peter Pan Syndrome is to refuse taking responsibilities and deciding that aging parents should take care of the person until they die. That has nothing to do with being imaginative and being capable of feeling the wonder od the universe around. You are not scaping to Neverland, friend, you are capable of living on this Earth and enjoy it! You are no Peter Pan. You can fly as yourself!
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
We can go back and forth from Neverland to Earth
@marguicha (95033)
• Chile
8 Sep 11
The real Neverland, the significant one, is on Earth. Peter Pan´s Neverland is an escape, a way to evade responsibilities, a way to stop being a person. But you can fly anytime without evasion, just being yourself. I still do.
@Triple0 (1907)
• Australia
8 Sep 11
But imagine there was a Neverland, wouldn't that be cool?! You get to meet Captain Cook and the ticking crocodile! =)
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
8 Sep 11
Well, in that case according to your friend I have this 'Peter Pan' syndrome as well. Like you, I dealt with any issues everyday, but I like to fantasize how if my life is ever changed into something that I've always dream about. If that makes me a dreamer, I would gladly tell you all that it makes me happier. What else do you need in this world apart from being happy?
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
Yes, just be happy. If dreaming makes you happy, why not do it right? I wonder what kind of fantasies you have!
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
8 Sep 11
Don't you just wish to know it? But I am not telling you....
• Philippines
9 Sep 11
How about some clues?
7 Sep 11
There's a big difference between Peter Pan Syndrome and keeping the inner child alive. The former is bad, as it denies all responsibility and erases the line between silly fun and real life. The person tries to live like a child all the time (which is just bizarre, especially seeing 40-year-olds skateboarding everywhere and wearing hoodies as if they're teenagers). The latter is good as it keeps the dreams and fantasies - and FUN - alive in life. These are the people who take their responsibilities seriously but are willing to have a go on a skateboard or ride a merry-go-round. They laugh a lot and see no harm in stories and silliness but recognise it's not real life. I'm definitely in the latter group!
@marguicha (95033)
• Chile
7 Sep 11
I agree completly. I´m that way too, but that doesn´t mean that responsibility is avoided. I have imagination and love for life, so I became a writer. I love to eat nice veggies, so I planted my seeds. And, as I love life, I take a picture of my tomatoes before I eat them
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
Well, Peter Pan doesn't physically grow up too. So he can still wear hoodies even if he turns 100+ yo. But yes it is weird to see "old people" trying hard to look, talk and act like teenagers...
@oldchem1 (8144)
7 Sep 11
Well I'll come and join you in Never Never Land because I see nothing wrong with having a youthful attitude to life! I was 60 before Christmas but I REFUSE to act or think or look (if I can help it) like an old woman!!
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
You can be my Wendy then
@oldchem1 (8144)
8 Sep 11
Thank you!! I look forward to exploring the island and playing with the Lost Boys!!
@ybong007 (6658)
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
For me Peter Pan could be a boy who never grow old but if we take a look at his adventures it teaches us how one should face life. He is a boy but his acts are not childish. He is a leader and a lot of his peers even his enemies respect him. His adventures is not child play either, in fact, there's nothing child play going against those pirates. Those are a lot more about Peter Pan than just a boy who never grow up.
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
Yes, and he faces his problems seriously while enjoying it like it is just a fun game.
• United States
7 Sep 11
I totally feel, an understand this syndrome. I mean, Yes be aware of this like Bill, working, Women. You dont want to be crazy, or have your parents ashamed !!!! i think that why people get old and die. People forget about fantasy, as a 24 yr old Pisces. People forget about the energy's of the world. We so worried about the Gucci, are my co-workers going to like me. We forget about the little spark of life, that GOD , gave us so long ago
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
Right! That's why kids are usually happier with their lives than adults!
@toniganzon (50034)
• Philippines
7 Sep 11
There is nothing wrong with being childlike. There is a big difference with being childish and being childlike. A childish person is very immature and very irresponsible. A childlike person on the other hand is one who has a very pure and innocent heart like a child and take simple joys out of life.
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
Then being childlike is what we should be
@chiyosan (29438)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
I think there is nothing wrong with this. Even with our faith, we were asked to have a child like faith right? There is nothing wrong with this attitude... But sometimes you have to know that staying young at heart does not mean you'd never grow mature with your decisions.
• United States
10 Sep 11
I think many of the mentality of being youthful forever. I don't see anything wrong with it. We can't be completely serious forever, that would be sort of dull for me. I enjoy having fun as much as I can and find that there is no reason, at the right times and places to let my hair down and have fun in life. We are as young and or old as we feel so why not.
• Philippines
9 Sep 11
I also experience this sometimes. I sometimes wish to remain young for the rest of my life. I don't like to grow old and lose my endurance to have fun for everything. Although, Peter Pan can fly, so that's a trait I would like to have if I'm having Peter Pan syndrome.
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
8 Sep 11
And your friend thinks that a person can't be mature and yet still be a child at heart because......... Why? I'm 32 years old. I have friends who are working professionals, and I have friends that are gutter punks. I have friends with $200 hair cuts and I have friends that wear nuts and bolts in their hair and dye them every color of the rainbow. I have friends who are prude, working stiffs. Me? I'm a starving artist, and although I don't make glorious riches, I'm happy that I have time with my family. I love playing video games and coloring books and splashing in puddles... and ooooh! Did I mention that I love, love, looooove, blowing bubbles? There's no reason that a person can't live up to their responsibilities while letting their inner child live (:
@sanjay91422 (2728)
• India
8 Sep 11
I think their is nothing wrong with the fantasy thing. Everyone watch them and talk aobut them. Even if you are adult even then fantasies will always be their. Everyone have responsibilities but also a way to enjoy the life.
• United States
8 Sep 11
i dont think there is anything wrong with it to an extent i mean if you are 30 years old still living with your parents and relying on them to cook your dinner and buy your clothes then yes it is definitely a problem but as long as you can take care of yourself then no it is not wrong some of the most fun people to be around are the immature ones because they are so entertaining my parents are always telling me to grow up because i am always joking around or goofing off i tell them just because i like to have fun does not mean i am immature