living with the parents

Romania
September 7, 2011 1:21pm CST
would you accept living with your partner';s parents? if not how would you tell him without hurting his feelings?
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5 responses
@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
7 Sep 11
For me I wouldn't live with my partner's parents. I think those situations cause too many bad and uncomfortable situations. Now if we had absolutely no other choice like say there was a disaster and we had no where else to live then I would live with them only temporarily.
• United States
7 Sep 11
No way...Unless there was a commitment between us...and a 3 caret ring on my finger.. I would just tell him this is the way it is and if he loves me he will accept it...
@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
7 Sep 11
Wow! A 3 carat ring? You don't expect much do you?
@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
8 Sep 11
I agree - sometimes you just want to walk around in your house without worrying about what other people think.
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
7 Sep 11
Sometimes it is better to hurt someones feelings, than to hide the truth. I would never live with my parents, or my wife's parents. You should not be living with someone you are not married to. Why? Because parents are never going to treat you like they will the other. Or the other like you. I have never heard of someone living with their parents, or their spouses parents, that ended good. It always results in bad things. If you have no choice, then work towards getting away. Living with parents is a bad idea. Living with someone you are not married to, is a bad idea too. Nothing but problems. For thousands of year people understood this, and when you love someone you get married first, and you move out from your parents home. Now we ignore those things we learned for thousands of years, and then wonder why our relationships don't work.
• Romania
8 Sep 11
you're totally right. and all the examples that come into my mind of people living with their parents eneded badly. if I didn't have any option than I would probably accept it but temporarely untill we find a posiblity of living alone
@jdex_143 (1094)
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
As for me, I wouldn't live in the house of my partner's parents. I don't like that. I want us to live in our own soon if we get married.. I think, he already know now that I do not want to live with anybody else even if it's his or my parents.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
8 Sep 11
It depends on what kind of grandparents they are and in what kind of house we would live. I don't have grandparents anymore so it's no issue at this moment and my grannies would have never liked it! They both liked their own freedom/household. How to tell them without hurting them? Ask yourself what the reason is why you don't want to live with them and how it would be to live with them. Which kind of troubles you both might have to cope with? You can't always save other people their feelings but I do think being honest about how you feel about that and sharing your thoughts about it with your grandparents is the best thing you can do. Living together has to be good for both sides, if not don't do it, no matter what they say or what they think about you.
7 Sep 11
yea...i support living with parents is boon given by god to every one. because from the childhood we enjoyed a lot because mom cares while in giving feeding and do's and not to do's and dad palys say what s da right/wrong and at the age adult we know the facts .. we get an idea in da society.but parents make his/her child ib better way. and da patner is rest of life makes life colourful...