I learn more from those who disagree with me than those who agree.

True. There is the fact that we might find out something new regarding the things we are siding with and the things we are opposed to. A healthy discussion is really informative and mind-opening. Even criticisms and insults can sometimes open our eyes to our flaws, save the ones that just blubber out nonsense and whose purpose of insulting is just to make you feel wrong and bad.

I agree with you on this. When you don't know what you are missing, do not feel shame to admit it. I myself also not knowledgeable enough to know everything. Some critics and disagreed opinions might help me understand more, and correct my way of thinking somehow. You are right. Sometimes, I met people who only want people agree with them, not disagree with them.

you are so right. i totally agree. as long as they give you facts nicely and dont just rag you out you know it is sometimes so much fun to get more information you didnt know about. ive actually had some change my opinion on a few things with that.

True, I like to discuss things that people disagree with, as long as I don't feel like I am being accused of being a bad person or something. Then again, even that is fun on occasion, and I can laugh at it if I know they are way off base about it.

I agree. People who we agree with in any situation they have the same opinions but someone who disagree its interesting to hear there situation from a different point a view

Hell stary Yes it is true that if a person never disagree to other then how it bring out the deficiencies of the others.But if two person are disagree with each other, they argue very well.They keep their points and discuss on every aspect and after that the result comes out will be much better than if they agree with each other. But sometimes if the persons are just stubborn then this disagreement leads to only time wastage and finally they don't get any result out.

I really like to find out all angles, and do not mind those who disagree, but it depends on whether they are right or whether they are wrong and are just stuck in their opinions. Another thing is that if two of us disagree and we are civil that i easy for me to change my mind if I am wrong. Mind you I prefer that we both agree with each other and then we can continue discussing things.

I learn more as well. I like to see it from someone elses perspective, and learn something new :-)

Hi stary,I agree with you on that ! I welcome all kinds of views from others, positive,negative,explosive , just about anything...Earlier we used to have many political discussions here some of which would get out of hand, but eventually you do realise that everybody has something to contribute to the discussion in their own way.It is pointless starting a discussion with the sole idea of expecting everybody to agree with you...all the best and enjoy your evening

It's an interesting point of you. Of course, someone who agrees with you only confirms your own point of you. Those ones whou disagree, helps us to understand facts on a better way. We always can learn more from other people.

you right. but some time, a few people who's agree with our discussion tell us more detail about their opinion, why they agree.

I do not see any possibility in learning from one who agrees. We have to know who to trust, and if these people disagree with me on some things, that is when i get to see the other sides of my opinion. Then, further down, I get to open up my heart as I see another side of the situation. I learn a lot there.

This is why I like myLot. One can discuss subjects like religion and politics and not have it turn into an attack on personalities. I loved college dorm life because we used to have these kind of discussions far into the night as we tried to learn from each other, even when we disagreed. People should not need to fight when they are discussing subjects they disagree on. One reason I hate some discussions on Gather is because certain individuals will gang up on Christians or conservatives and just utter insults and talk down to them as an inferior species that isn't as smart as they are, but they never give any facts or reasons why they are right and you are wrong. I learned that these people want to do no more than try to put themselves above others so they can feel superior, so I started staying away from groups dominated by these people. They are obviously more interested in a mutual admiration society than hearing any opinion they don't agree with. Discussions should not be focused on who is right and who is wrong, but on the issues being discussed and the reasoning that brought people to their opinions. MyLot makes this kind of discussion possible.

I understand, a little comment about something nice can be appreciated but it does little for knowledge. So I disagree with your idea that discussions need to be about agreement or not. It is too much like a debate, too much like an arguement if that is all the discussion concerns itself with. Sure it works for some topics but I would much rather have a discussion with different points of view than some challenge going on between people with the focus on being about who is right. How was that?

I always liked when people disagree with me. I found it fun to debate with them but others didn't really. I tend to get loud though I don't mean to. My daughter loves it too and sadly she gets her loudness from me and she tends to interupt people. But then again I interupt her too. That and when people disagree with you, you tend to learn other facts about the issue than just what you know and sometimes the other point can change your mind if worded in a way that you hadn't thought of.

It does not always happen that way. It depends on how a discussion is carried out. more can be learned if it carried out in a calm manner. That is when the mind is more receptive, and the brain can think in a more rational way. Having a civilised disagreement helps in broadening our horizon, as long as wr are prepared to accept the fact that there are other viewpoints to an issue.

Some people spend their entire lives agreeing with people because they don't want to upset them. However, I think that people need others in their lives who are going to disagree with them because it doesn't bring anything good to people if they think that others are agreeing with them the entire time. People like that make others think that they're always right which certainly isn't a good thing for all of their other friends, as I know people like that. I normally say what I think unless it will seriously upset someone in which case I will tone it down a little bit.

what a positive outlook. not many people appreciate a criticism, even a constructive one. i welcome opposing views or opinions but it should be something that i can learn from, and not anything that will make feel ashamed or degraded. there are people who do oppose just to oppose, without even an objective.

Knowledge is well acquired if one add on or disagree with a raised issue. I go with points no matter positive or negative, but if it is negative then proof beyond doubt and I will back it up. Yes! I have seen people who get mad if they find a negative response in their discussion to the extends of referring you back to the topic.. 'read the... before you answer', I once got this remark from a certain member because my response was negative. Anyway, we must not pretend we know everything and why raise an issue which has no definite side and expect only positive side of it?

True everyone should learn from those who disagree. If one only gets agreement it is just a census of opinion or pandering.