What would you do in this situation?

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Ok this is a bit long winded so I am going to TRY and break it down as small as I can so it is in simple terms lol... I had a boyfriend, who I had a child with.. My son is now 10 almost 11 years old. His father left me when he (my son) was just 3 days old, to go back to his ex. He was 21 years older than me, not that age matters to me in a relationship, but just putting this down so you can see where I am coming from, I am 31 he is now almost 53. Since he left me, I brought our son up on my own, with the help of my parents when I was working. I lived alone, and had to work full time, to pay all the bills. He stayed in contact with our son, and visited him most of the time, so everything was fine. I met someone new 6 years ago which did not cause a problem between the relationship between my son and his father. I then fell pregnant, and had another baby, with my new partner, my youngest son will be 3 in January. Soon after me having my youngest son, the relationship between my eldest son and his father went downhill, he stopped coming up to visit as much, and my son began to feel let down by his Dad. Of course I argued with his Dad that he should see his son, and not make false promises, he said he would , and I left it at that. He then stopped seeing him for weeks on end then would suddenly see him again. I then found out that his Dad had met someone new, and realised this was the reason he had put his relationship with his son on hold. When I asked him he denied everything. He then (a few months later), got married to this girl, and she announced she was pregnant, well where I live it is a small town, and obviously I heard about it. In the last year, he has seen our son 4 times! When it was his birthday, he gave my friend who I live with, a card with money in it for my son. When I told my son to ring his Dad to thank him, he did not answer the phone. I contacted him Christmas Eve, and asked that he brought a card and or present to our house and give to our son himself (he lived a 10 minute drive, so it was not difficult to see him). He did turn up, and spent an hour with our son, before leaving. I thought things would change in the new year, but nothing. he has seen his son a couple of times and that is it. What makes me mad, is that he knows my number, but yet, not only can he not visit our son, he cannot be bothered to so much as ring me, to speak to him and see how he is. I have since moved, and am now even closer to his Dad it really is a 5 minute drive if that now. So I have friends who say, that I shouldn't bother with him anymore if he can't bother with his son, it shouldnt be me that phones him asking him to make time to see his son... but I do feel guilty because My eldest see's that his little brother has a Dad that cares about him. My partner is so good with mt eldest, but I know that it can't feel the same for my son, because he is not his real dad. So what should I do? Should I contact him and again try and get him to come and see his son, or should I just leave it, and let him get on with it? I feel so bad for my son, he deals with it so well. If it was my dad that treated me like that, then I would be in pieces. Please give me your thoughts on this Thanks :)