why some women choose to be the other woman?

Philippines
September 17, 2011 8:39pm CST
in our society today, we hear various stories of a family wrecked because the husband has other woman. I just can't understand why there's such kind of woman who cling onto married men. I have an acquittance of a woman in such a situation, she shared that its not money that she's after for from the man she's with, she reasoned that she just fell in-love to this person that she choose and decided to be the other woman. You, what do you think are the various reason why some women choose to be the other woman?
5 responses
@ybong007 (6658)
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
I always believed in what they say that "It takes two to tango", and in the case of the "other woman" I don't think that it is the woman who is solely to blame. For me, it's a case on whose more to blame. There are countless reasons why a woman would want to be the other woman in spite of other people will say behind her back, it could either be for financial reasons and some as simple love. What I find funny about mistresses is that they are always referred to as the home wrecker. Women would always blame the other woman as the cause of the problems as if everything that took place is of her own doing. But based on what I see, it's always the man who do the first move, it's him that showers the woman would promises, gifts, and even the moon and the stars to be with him. Based on those predicament, it's the man to is to blame because if not for him then the other woman wouldn't exist. It's also based on those predicament that I can say that a lot of "other women" are just victims themselves.
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
Good point there. Men also are at fault why this so called "other woman" exist. Sometimes women becomes victim of the situation, but there are those who even after knowing that their man is already taken, they still prefer to stay ate their side inspite and despite of the consequences.
18 Sep 11
Based on the interview I made with woman who has relation with married man, these are some of the answers I got: 1)The are full of excitement with her situation. Especially when dating, trying to hide from people who knew them. As if they are playing hide and seek. 2) Married men are more sweet since they already have idea of what a woman wanted. 3) Married man can give what they wanted since most of them have work. 4) Sometimes married man confide to them the problem with the wife and they felt needed and secure since they knew what the man dont like or hate about their wife. 5) Some women wanted married man because they said married man has more sense when you talked with them than single men. What ever their reasons, women should always remember a realationship with a married man will automatically ruin a family. And if ever they are on the foot of the wife, they also do not like to experience it. Just remember the saying " Do not do unto others what you do not like to do unto you". Respect the ownership of others and always remember the 10 commandments.
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
Whew! what a reasons they have. You're right respect to other right is the right thing to do.
@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
18 Sep 11
i never understood this either. I could never share the person I was sleeping with. Also, if they are thinking that they have fallen in love with this guy and that he is going to leave his wife...what are the chances that he will remain faithful? Once a cheater always a cheater seems to fit in well here.
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
Good point there..faithfulness really is an attitude. One cannot expect some to change once their with them.
@momz2gd (295)
• United States
18 Sep 11
There are many women that have issues with men. Perhaps she was abused at one time of her life. Women have a nurturing nature and maybe another woman likes that. It can be hard on families, but nowadays we must be accepting of others.
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
That could be one of the contributing factor.
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
18 Sep 11
Some woman are the other woman because the man they fell-in-love with keeps telling her some day soon it will only be them! He will divorce the wife and alot of times he doesn't do it but when the wife finds out then it happens! I think aome woman like being the other woman becuase they think they can't do better then what they have! A low self-esteeem thing. Then there are woman who just don't care! They are hopeing for money or something else! It just isn't a good thing no matter how you look iat it!