Busy doing nothing?
By Humbug25
@Humbug25 (12540)
September 18, 2011 4:54pm CST
Ok so take today for example, when I got up I got my kids up too. Got them breakfast, we got washed and dressed and bags packed for their activities. I made a packed lunch for the four of us, put on the washing machine before running out the door and into the car. I drove half an hour to a neighbouring town for my eldest son to play football/soccor then took a 10 minute drive to drop my middle son off to gymnastics and drove back up to football to catch most of the game with my youngest in toe in the wind and rain I hasten to add. Then it was back to gymnastics with the eldest and youngest. Once finished it was the half hour drive back home, crack on with the ironing of the school uniforms whilst helping the eldest with his homework and then prepared dinner. Then it was sorting the washing, eating dinner and shower for the boys. We then watched a movie together, as we always do on a Sunday night and then off to bed.
So why is it that when I finally find the time to ring my father and I oppoligise for not ringing sooner because I have been so busy that when he asks, 'busy doing what'? All I can say is ermmmmmmm?
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
19 Sep 11
We ladies and guys that stay home and take care of the home and family...doing all the necessary running and all else that needs to be...we are tired!
Other's that don't do this think we do nothing! If they traded "jobs" with us and did things just as we do and not do it just halfway or just enough to get by they'd find that going to work for 8, 10, or even 12 hours a day is easier than what we do all the time.
So I don't know why when he asks "busy doing what?" That you have nothing to say. lol
I'd tell him taking care of all the running and all else I must do. 
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
20 Sep 11
I know exactly what you mean. Many times they ask this or something similar just because they don't know of anything else to say.
I think if you did tell him just exactly what you did that day he would be surprised and have something else to ask or talk about next time he calls. lol 
@Humbug25 (12540)
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20 Sep 11
Hi ya moondancer
I think that maybe I am thinking of which day to choose to tell him about hahaha His question is full of sarcasm and although I think he knows I am a busy single mum, I think he just asks it through habit but is not really interested. Maybe I will give him a proper run down then he will never ask again haha
Cheers
Cheers 
@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
19 Sep 11
LOL, that is funny. Isn't that the way things go. Sounds like you were quite busy. Hope you have a wonderful week. Hugs
@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
21 Sep 11
Ahh, Parents, they can always stump us one way or the other. Enjoy him. Hugs
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
19 Sep 11
Busy looking after 3 boys, now that is a full time job in itself! Phew I don't know about anyone else but I actually got tired out reading all that! Do you have any time for yourself? Any quality time, any rest? any chance to sit down and breath and actually relax? You are looking after the boys, but I question who is looking after YOU? I don't think people realize my friend. Somehow if you explained this all to your father he would glaze over, men don't realize do they LOL!
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@Humbug25 (12540)
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20 Sep 11
Hey wolfie
Yes it is a full time job but in the new year they will be putting me onto JSA and pressuring me to seek employment. I am not work shy in the slightest but I worry that I will be worse off and won't be able to get my kids to their activities because I have no one else to rely on to get them there. My mum comes up from time to time and helps out, she knows how hard it is as she was a single mum herself but we were a bit older than what my kids are now.
Cheers
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
19 Sep 11
You need to tell him busy doing, exactly the way you just told us....You sound like you had a busy day. I sure wish I had more things to do. I did nothing today...and I mean nothing. It is 9:10pm right now and I am still in my housecoat from this morning. I did take a shower but never got dressed. hee hee
I did manage at least to take a shower and brush my teeth and blow dry my hair. I didn't bother to get dressed because I logged into mylot and got busy posting. Then I got sleepy and took a nap that lasted 4 hours. I can't still can't believe I slept for 4 hours, not like me. I guess I needed a catch up sleep.
I also managed to go outside and water my plants today. That took a whole 15 minutes as I had to water the ones in the front yard as well as the ones in the back yard. I never even made supper. When I woke up, on the couch, my daughter was home and cooking supper. How nice for me.
So I thought I might do a little mylotting before I go to bed. Now I'm the one that was busy today, doing nothing.
Cheers my friend and happy mylotting,
Chris
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@Humbug25 (12540)
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20 Sep 11
Hey there Chris
It's just that when he asks me what I have been busy doing I don't seem to have an answer for him. Maybe I should I tell him exactly what I have been doing from day to day from when I last spoke to him haha, I think he would wish he never asked and may never ask again. My days are like crazy, y'know. Five days a week one of my son's has gymnastics, one son has football twice a week and the other son has swimming and cookery club. We only have one full day off a week which is a Saturday which is the day that I get most of the washing done, beds stripped and a lot of chores done because I don't have to be somewhere by a certain time. When the kids are at school I am doing a couple of courses and trying to decorate the house! Maybe I should write all this down and keep it by the phone for the next time I speak to my father hahhaa.
Cheers
@Rose888 (176)
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
Gosh!!! What kind of schedule you have my friend. I hate being pressure for different activities. I used only to walk for my job and after office go back to my house.
I think what you have now is normal for a married person who has kids with different activities everyday.
Good job my friend.
Excellent you did!
@Humbug25 (12540)
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20 Sep 11
Hi there Rose888
Thank you for kind comment. That is just one day of my busy week! I would say that we get Saturdays off but in fact that is the only day I can get a lot done in the house because the pressure of having to be somewhere by a certain time isn't there hahaha
Cheers
That is just one day of my busy week! I would say that we get Saturdays off but in fact that is the only day I can get a lot done in the house because the pressure of having to be somewhere by a certain time isn't there hahaha
Cheers
@p1kef1sh (45681)
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18 Sep 11
I think that's called a human reaction. All the things that you did are important but are not exciting. We all do them (or similar) every day and attach little importance to them. However, what you did today was to be a great Mum and showed your love for your family by ensuring that you gave them that most precious of commodities - time. So next time you call your Dad and he asks what you've done say "I gave my children my time and now I really want to share some with you".
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@Humbug25 (12540)
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20 Sep 11
Hi ya P1kef1sh
I think that most of the time when my dad asks such a question he is not genuinely interested in what I have been doing it is more a sarcastic question as I am a stay at home mum and he believes that I sit on my backside all day! Thanks for the advise though p1key and I might just use it, it might shut him up as he was never a hands on parent himself hahahahha
Cheers
Cheers
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
18 Sep 11
MEN, they are all alike doesn't matter whether it's your father, husband, son, etc.
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
18 Sep 11
You should let your dad have his grandkids for a day and see how he likes doing all the stuff you did today! Then he can call you,apologized for not calling sooner and you can say "Busy doing what"? Then he won't say that again! What a jerk and man reaction! If it was my dad I would of hung up on him for this remark! That is uncalled for!
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@Humbug25 (12540)
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20 Sep 11
Hi there blue65packer
I think it is his way of making a joke, being sarcastic y'know but it is uncalled for as he knows how busy I am and he could never cope with my kids for a day, never. He could always call me sometime too but always waits for me to call!
Cheers
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
18 Sep 11
Busy is an understatement! Some people do this to me all the time, they call me and say can you drive me and or here in about an hour. I say, I can't I am pretty busy. The first thing they say is doing what you are not working. hummmm!!
People will do this because they think that one is not doing a thing all day, even if they did and or did not have a job. Somehow they picture that your boys do all that needs to be done in their lives while you sit and watch TV all day. Maybe your father is not quite busy and feels that maybe you are not as well.
Also when they ask for a favor and we instantly do a favor they feel that we must be available with nothing ever to do. *sigh*
@Humbug25 (12540)
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20 Sep 11
Hi ya hardworkinggurl
Oh, I hear ya load and clear HWG you are so right. I even have friends that have been like it in the past so now they ask me when I am free haha Maybe I should ask my dad to come and help decorate my house as I don't have time to do it because I am too busy. Yes I spend some time on mylot but I am not on here every day, all hours and I come on here during my wound down time or when I am taking a break from doing chores. Why I feel I have to justify myself for taking some time to do what I want to do I dunno hahaha
Cheers
Cheers