Can you stay in same house?Without talking with your partners or parents

India
September 24, 2011 3:40am CST
Yesterday my friend was saying me she is not talking with her husband since last week. When I heard this, I shocked I cant live even for single day without talking with my husband. Even sometime he annoyed on me but in next moment we talk to each other in simple manner. I dont how the people can spend more days without talking with their boy friend or husband.I have seen even some parents or child also not talk with each other for long days. Even they are staying in same house but distance is more between them.
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• Philippines
24 Sep 11
I think that each people who live in the house has different personalities..There are people who live in home just to be silent,shy to talk, or just do not talk . Or board to talk, not interested to talk,or not like to talk to the person...or not close each others. but for me,if i am in the relationship i will talk ,or even in the fights maybe my partner will talk..
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• India
24 Sep 11
You are right befriend if the family members are less talkative then they can live without talking but in my family no less talkative person so enjoy quarrel also hahaha...
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• Philippines
24 Sep 11
yes they can live without talking.yes am enjoy to talk sometimes laughing with my sisters, and so.But there are times i did not talk because busy.But you are not laughing ha..you are busy to laugh now ha
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@siliguri (4051)
• India
24 Sep 11
Hi fanta(my favourite cold drink) This is the new topic for this week "HOUSE" If there is quarrel happen with any of family member or friends i stop talking with them. This thing mainly happen to my younger brother and we both don't talk to each other i know this is not good habit as we are live in same house but i don't like to talk with him or any of the family member or friends after arguing to them you can say it is kind of my nature. Yeah i start talking but after some days of quarreling. friend i will try to get rid of this bad habit.. Keeping smiling
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• India
24 Sep 11
Wooo cute siliguri how you know this is new topic but your forget week is not end and my interest will start on monday but Saturday and Sunday mix topic. So I started this. Yes quarrel is common in every family but due to quarrel no talking for long time is not good. I am smiling haha...where is your camera for my photo haha..
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@Jotomy (6172)
• India
24 Sep 11
@Sreekala (19264)
• India
24 Sep 11
Hi fanta, I too can’t spend time without talking with the family members. I felt much hurt if somebody does not talk to me properly at home. In between me and my hubby, I may keep silent for 10 minutes to show my disappointment on his behaviour. I do this when I felt hurt his remarks and don’t want to reply to the remarks. But soon we compromise (lol). One week, not talking each other... I can't imagine..
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• India
24 Sep 11
Hii cute sree I also cant spend more than half and hour without talking with my family members even some time quarrel between MIL and me but with in 15 minutes we feel normal. I know quarrel is also a part of life. One week ohhhh no very much time
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24 Sep 11
Hello Fanta, I think it's easy no not talk to your spouse or family especially if there has been a quarell. Sometimes it's better to not say anything so you don't regret the things one may say in a heated argument.
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@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
24 Sep 11
For a day or two I think I can but not longer than that. You see I am a talkative person and need to let the conversations out LOL I enjoy talking and it would definitely be difficult for me living under the same roof with people not talking to me.
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• India
24 Sep 11
Hiii girl If you are talkative then how can live without talking for a day or two days it is bad even we are fighting or quarrel with our family members but talking is most important for changing the mood. I cant live more than half an hour.
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• South Korea
24 Sep 11
Hehe I don't know how but I have not talked to them once for a whole day coz I was upset. Yeah I don't think I can go for more than 1 day though
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
Yeah, I did. I know it's not right but I need to...to let him know that I'm mad. I'd rather choose to keep silent than making blah-blah or use profane language which is normal when you're totally pissed off.
• India
24 Sep 11
Yes jenith it is not good why you choose silence not necessary to do blah blah but at least you talk in normal mood like ha haha...
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@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
26 Sep 11
I can't resist to make blah-blah if I'm in a bad mood. It's too hard for me why they can't simply understand little things. I just can't imagine explaining to them something that even a 5-yr-old can already understand without asking/explaining. :(
• United States
24 Sep 11
I couldn't imagine going a whole day without talking to my fiancee. We have to talk to each other otherwise it would seem a bit lonely. I talk to her throughout the entire day. Whether we ask each other questions or just casually talking. I just don't know how people could go even a day without talking to the one they love.
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• India
24 Sep 11
You are right hells if we cant talk to our partner then feel alone.
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• United States
24 Sep 11
Yes. I would feel very alone and ignored if my fiancee wouldn't talk to me.
@romscabs (311)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
That is hard. I wonder how you cannot talk to anyone in your house for a week? That is bad. I can't begin to do that. In my case, if I don't want to talk to anyone at home, I just go somewhere else and come back later to sleep or come back the next day. I heard about some couples not talking to each other for a long time though they are living on the same roof. I guess those people have a big house and they can have a separate room and don't care with each other. See if you have 4 or more rooms in a house and you get mad to anyone in your family or your partner, it is easy for you to use the other room alone and never talk to anyone. But that is hard and I probably cannot take it. It's better to be separated than live on the same roof and not talking for a long time.
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• India
24 Sep 11
Haahhh.. roms you are right they have big house and separate room for each other. If room is less then no chance to keep silence and without talking ahah...nice response.
@gk655321 (236)
26 Sep 11
I can go for long periods of time without talking to people but that's just because I'm not much of a talker.
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@bachyyy (195)
• Bulgaria
26 Sep 11
I can`t spend even a day without talking to my family or my friends.I can`t imagine what would be like if I couldn`t connect with them for a weeks.Parents,who don`t talk to their children for days are not parents for me.
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@anil02 (2886)
• India
25 Sep 11
No talk is not a solution of any problem. We can resolve our conflicts with everyone with conversation. Some time it may be possible stop talking with someone for one or two days. But more than it is not possible for me.
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@earthsong (589)
• United States
25 Sep 11
Sometimes, when a conflict is so terrible its just best not to talk. But I agree with you, I can't imagine not talking to my husband for days on end.
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
24 Sep 11
I think that the silent treatment is pure torture. I couldn't do it to someone that I care about and especially if I care about the relationship. My ex used to give me the silent treatment whenever he was upset. Most of the time I didn't even know just what it was I did to upset him. I can't tell you how many times I apologized for whatever it was just to end the silence between us. one time and the final time, he went weeks without speaking to me. I refused to apologize as I had no idea what I'd done and I'd grown tired of the childish game. I tried many times to talk to him and got snubbed. I packed my stuff and dealt with it while I looked for a place. I moved out and on. That was 11 yrs ago and to this day, I still don't know what his problem was. It's not a good way to keep a relationship strong.
• India
24 Sep 11
Hiii sid great thought yes silent treatment is more torture. Ohhh no friend this is sad incident but really how our family members can live without talking with us. Silence may be create worse situation so talking is a good way to solve the problems or to end the quarrels. Thanks to share your view..
@oXAquaXo (607)
• United States
24 Sep 11
OMG yes, the silent treatment is horrible. When my parents are upset with me, they refuse to talk to me, so I then refuse to talk to them. Then the silence gets really frustrating, and in the end, one person is forced to talk to the other, and life goes back to normal. But during the time when we can't speak to each other, life is AGONIZING, because sometimes, you learn something interesting and want to tell them, but then remember that your parents, your best friends, aren't talking to you, and it's a terrible, sinking feeling.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
25 Sep 11
Yes, it is so hurtful. I would rather that the person shout at me and get it out of their system and then we can at least sit down and talk. I know that sometimes it is best to keep quiet when angry for a little while and calm down to a point where you can talk things over but when it goes on for extended lengths of time then it just hurtful.
@ronadelle (1547)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
Like you, I really cannot take it without talking with people that I live with. Knowing that we're living under the same roof, avoiding someone is very awkward for me. It doesn't feel good. And as much as I want to feel better, it's better for me to initiate the talk and be of good terms because it's the best thing to do. As an old saying say, "Never let the night pass without settling a dispute with someone."
• India
24 Sep 11
Yes rona this is awkward for me also I cant stay in same roof without talking with our family members. I shocked when I heard my friends not talking with her husband since last week how strange or danger
@ronadelle (1547)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
Yeah, I wonder how do they sleep at night or pass the day without talking to each other? Anyway, I think that this isn't new at all. I just hope that they settle whatever misunderstanding they have against each other. And to think, a week has passed and that makes everything worse. People, people.
• India
24 Sep 11
Haahhah.... fanta is laughing what a question how they sleep at night i will ask them and then I will give the answer ahah...I start a new funny discussion about mylot business meeting book your seat otherwise no chance haah....
@dpk262006 (55919)
• Delhi, India
24 Sep 11
Hi! It is very very difficult for both of us to keep quiet, even if we had a tiff or some heated arguments. If we enter into some arguments, after few minutes, we start talking to each other as nothing happened. We are normal human beings and getting angry on any issue is quite normal for us but that does not mean that we should stop talking to each other. In my view if stop talking, it will create more tension and ill feelings for each other.
• India
24 Sep 11
Hiii laddu Wooo great after few minutes start talking to each other thats nice. Yes you are right stop talking means the situation may be worse and create more tension.
@dpk262006 (55919)
• Delhi, India
24 Sep 11
We Have a soft heart for each other and we do not have stone hearts. We won't achieve anything if we hurt each other while not speaking.
@koperty3 (1877)
24 Sep 11
I remember one time I had really bad argument with my partner ( We don't do it often) and after that I did not speak to him more less about 10 days. I was so angry ans the truth is that I missed him so much. But we needed this time to " clear the air" between us and think straight. As answer for your question I'm able to be silent and live in the same house with my partner.
• India
24 Sep 11
Hiii koperty Ohhh no really you were stay 10 days without talking with your husband it is very hard for me. But you are right even we not talk to our family members but miss them lot. Your ability is great but not good friend because even no other family member is talking with us no problem but without talking with husband I cant imagine..
@koperty3 (1877)
24 Sep 11
When I was so angry that I really would arguing with him for long time I decided to not talk to him. I did not want to hurt him by my bad worth so not talking was the best alternative that time.
@SydneyJ (903)
• United States
25 Sep 11
Sometimes me and my mom are the same way as your friend and her husband. We sometimes dont talk for days, my mom typically stays upstairs and I practically live downstairs so that's probably how it ends up happening but with a wife and husband I think it would be different since many of thier belongings are so close with each others
• India
25 Sep 11
Hiii sydney Ohhh no really you can live without talking to your mother it is impossible for me. You are right between husband and wife silence means relationship end. But parents is also important for us but you know the problem better so I cant say anything.
@oXAquaXo (607)
• United States
24 Sep 11
Whenever I'm upset with my parents, we usually try not to speak to each other. But occasionally, we're forced to speak to each other because of certain situations. During those periods of time, I vow to never speak to them ever again. And then, we slowly warm up to each other and begin talking to each other again, as if the argument had never happened. I can't imagine not talking to my parents for too long, as they're my best friends, and more importantly, my family. Happy mylotting!
• India
25 Sep 11
You are right our parents are our best friend so we cant live without talking with them and it is not good for longtime no talking.
• United States
24 Sep 11
Yes couples who live on the silent treatment will cause the relationship to fail. I can tell you that with my ex-husband we both use to do this. I believe I sort of grew to accepting that speaking to him was a waste of time and in reality it was a waste in the relationship as a whole. No good can come of it and will cause the relationship to slowly distance with time. Your friend has to figure out a way to calmly explain to her husband that something is wrong and or what the problem is. What is going to happen is that with time the silent treatment will last longer and longer until the entire relationship is beyond repair. No I cannot do like your friend no matter how hard I would try, this talking chatterbox needs to speak at all times. lol
• India
25 Sep 11
You are right dancing girl due to silent treatment the relationship may also lost or behind repair. I will suggest her and I know after talking the problem may solved.Some husband is also danger some time still I cant understand the relationship some time happy some time worse.
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
That really can hurt me and i am experiencing that way now.. I can hardly live without talking to him but it happen now. Anyway he is not living with me but we are in distance. I hardly live that way even to my friends coz i dont like to live alone in the world. Now if there something happen inside the house i am also feel bitter if there is something wrong between us my husband and me,, i really got affected. How much more if he your partner and love life i am dying to talk with him. I feel not better if there is something wrong around me. Why make life happy if we can ,,,
• India
25 Sep 11
Hiii mods Dont worry now you are happy then leave old memories. Some time I cant understand why life play a game with us and hurt us.
@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
Hi Fantabulus! How are you? Perhaps you would want to start another discussion.. Can you in the same house? Withouth talking to your in-laws? ahahhaha!
• India
24 Sep 11
Hiii gracee no chance without talking with MIL because she is very nice women like my mother. Even some time I cant talk with my husband but with MIL in chance they loves us.