pissed off at my father
By jazel_juan
@jazel_juan (15747)
Philippines
October 2, 2011 9:27pm CST
Last 2 weeks, my son Juanzen my 4 year old was sick, he was having cough and colds and was diagnosed with bronchitis. I had him checked with his pedia and was given antibiotics.. and i asked if he should rest and i doc said he should and should gain back his energy before going to school. so i did that.
Two weeks passed now and its monday so its school time again, as what we do before i had him prepped up for school..and he just stayed at home waiting for my father because he is the one who always bring him to school ( he volunteered for that last june!) and i went to work..now just now, i receive a text message from my sister in law saying my son did not go to school because my dad is ashamed 
to bring my son to school because he was absent for so long.
I AM PISSED OFF AND MAD AND FUMING. i cannot decipher why he is ashamed, i mean why would he be ashamed for Christ's sake, he is still 4 and in kindergarten and there is nothing ot be ashamed about because he was absent because he was SICK! Sis said because he does not know what to reason out - what the *-ck!!! he knows my son was sick, he saw my son sick. What else could he tell the teacher? Plus the school was aware, i called and texted them. He is freakin stupid! i am pissed right now. what do you guys think? i mean its so shallow right? my dad is just sooooooo grrrrr sorry just taking it all out. Plus the fact that he is one arrogant person, yes as his daughter, thank god i did not acquire that trait.
to bring my son to school because he was absent for so long.
I AM PISSED OFF AND MAD AND FUMING. i cannot decipher why he is ashamed, i mean why would he be ashamed for Christ's sake, he is still 4 and in kindergarten and there is nothing ot be ashamed about because he was absent because he was SICK! Sis said because he does not know what to reason out - what the *-ck!!! he knows my son was sick, he saw my son sick. What else could he tell the teacher? Plus the school was aware, i called and texted them. He is freakin stupid! i am pissed right now. what do you guys think? i mean its so shallow right? my dad is just sooooooo grrrrr sorry just taking it all out. Plus the fact that he is one arrogant person, yes as his daughter, thank god i did not acquire that trait. 3 people like this
9 responses
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
3 Oct 11
Hello Jazel, I remember you told me that you're dad's a military? i hope he's not ashamed simply because he got a perfect attendance while his grand children did not.
.He never should have made that promise to begin with. I can understand you're situation that he didn't do something important for his grandson because his statement was unreasonable
.He never should have made that promise to begin with. I can understand you're situation that he didn't do something important for his grandson because his statement was unreasonable@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
3 Oct 11
yes he was from the military and something he is proud of..i used to be proud of him being a soldier because i know he was very good at it..but now? i am not, its just something that does not reflect in his acts outside the base. He gets mad because my kids are not achievers..they are just different. my son is into sports and games..not academe..my daughter is an artist, she loves to paint.. so it is something he does not understand... but i also cannot understand why he is ashamed of my son being absent, its not right and he is only 4 years. 4!! 
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
3 Oct 11
any one can be an achiever in their own way. maybe this was the downsideof the 70s - 80s when our country was so proud we get to have parents llike that. lucky for me, my parents loves me even if i don't have a job.
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@sql_cell (1427)
• Indonesia
3 Oct 11
You do not get too angry, to your father. At least, your dad, ever volunteered, deliver your child to school. Although, your father, knowing your child is absent from school due to illness, you still have to say to your father, not to be embarrassed, because your child is sick. As a younger, we should be soft to the parents. It's annoying, have to explain again, something that is clearly understood. But, we must be patient with parents.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
3 Oct 11
yes but sometimes it has limitations..respect has limitations especially if they do not respect you back
@GardenGerty (157652)
• United States
3 Oct 11
I would be pretty upset as well. I hope your son was not too disappointed. You will have to get another way to get him to school if your dad cannot do this for you.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
3 Oct 11
Yes GG i am very upset till now i am..its just something i do not expect from them but then i should not be surprised my dad was that way even back then, he is horrible. He is a very proud person and he would not be proud of you if you would not be an achiever like an honor student or something..
Yes Gav, i did sort it out now, i will be the one to bring my son to school i have to make sacrifices even it it means being there at school early and will also have to be the one to fetch him too.. just have to make sacrifices.
Yes Gav, i did sort it out now, i will be the one to bring my son to school i have to make sacrifices even it it means being there at school early and will also have to be the one to fetch him too.. just have to make sacrifices.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• United States
3 Oct 11
Oh wow, I wonder what on earth made him feel ashamed. Most people get bronchitis many times during their life. I used to get it four or five times a year when I was a child. I truly don't understand your father's reasoning... I would be pissed off as well.
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
That's just generation gap. Kids often wonder what's its like to be an adult. A parent also wonders why kids seem not to run out of energy forgetting that they've been kids ones. Adults also wonder why the oldies are acting like kids and the oldies on the other hand often complains that they're always misunderstood.
• New Zealand
4 Oct 11
It seems like you don't communicate enough, perhaps you need to sit down and talk with your father about things like this, don't get heated or accuse him of anything or you will end up arguing and nothing will get solved.
Perhaps work out a plan so this doesn't happen in the future?
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
3 Oct 11
I would certainly be upset with the reason that your dad gave you. It's just so shallow, as you said it. But that's no reason to burn the bridges of relationships, there are just times when people (mostly our family members) are just too shallow. It's good too if we could just try to cool it off and understand their side or perhaps keep a blind eye for this situation.
I know it's difficult, but it's inevitable.
Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@Maver1ck (2)
•
3 Oct 11
Hi,
Well I had been in this situation, but not exactly the same kind. So I know how it feels. I totally understand your frustration as a mother and your irritation as a daughter. There are times when we just want someone to understand our position or bang our head against the brick wall. In this case I think the better way would be talking to your dad and understanding his perspective. Its easy to judge him based on your sister-in-laws text but it will give u a better judgement if you speak to your dad. I understand that he is arrogant and it will be a difficult conversation, but I am also sure something good will come out rather than not talking and hoping this would resolve it self.
Let me know if this helps.
@stuckonu (726)
• Philippines
3 Oct 11
Sometimes as people grow older, the more that we cannot decipher their motives. I notice that with my parents too as well as my grannies. Just let your anger cool down, don't be too harsh with your father. I know it's annoying and all but he is still your father and as a father too, I will be hurt if my daughter talks back at me (although she's too young to that now). Just give him a little more understanding.
