ever had an arguement that you feel worthless and useless?

It sounds like he's a quiet type: lets all the pressure and stress build up and then something silly makes it all explode - in this case, the money worries. I know how he feels: I'm like that, too. It rarely happens but it's always bad when the explosion comes. Chances are it's not as important as you think and, once he's cooled off a bit, you'll be able to talk about it properly. As for the language thing, I know how you feel. My lady's French and when I went to live there for several years, dinners and conversation were a nightmare. Sitting there for 4 hours while people talk around you, trying to understand but struggling - it's very tiring. I was lucky because her family really tried to help me out wherever they could with words, with slow conversation and stuff but, if people don't do that, you'll feel crappy. I consider that very rude on their part, considering you're trying to learn, too. If they think you're like a statue, how about HELPING a bit? Would that really kill them? It took me a couple of years to reach proper conversational level in French (what I consider conversational, though is pretty much fluent), working in an English-speaking company with French people (to whom I spoke French when I could). Perhaps you could find a job where they speak English or another language? Or where language is less important? Or perhaps your BF could wake up and stop being so confrontational - surely he could help you learn, find a job, feel better about things? I mean, he's your BF. That's his job.

Well, sometimes our partner unable to control emotion and saying something hurting us. I know deep inside they want to keep relationship long lasting.In your case, maybe he just need your understanding and appreciation but the way his arguing was not proper.Learning language is not easy things to do. Maybe you just have to prove him by challenge your self and put target,let say after four months has to be fluent enough to speak German.Meanwhile you can do online earning, for example by writing articles..Main thing is you need to focus and calm down in this situation.hope you can solve problem soon.

Sorry to say dear but your boyfriend sounds horrible. He and his Mum had issues about money...he will always have issues about money I feel. This guy doesn't love you . Nor does he respect you and I think he is just using you. He's a mean bully. I think you are trapped there...how come you are there? Can you go home? If you can get yourself home, I think you will be better off. If you even think about marrying this guy, you are crazy. No offence.

Sorry to hear about your situation. Just ignore his anger and try to be good. Pursue to learn their language and soon as you can speak their language, try to find a job and earn for yourself. I know it's hard to move esp that you don't have money so, be patient and try to learn their language the soonest possible. take care always too

I can feel you. But not an argument with a boyfriend because I don't have one. Instead its between me and my mom! Its just like my mom. My Mom always makes me feel I am worthless even if I sometimes give her my salary. Well, your boyfriend might just be a little stressed or pressured! Try talking to him when everything is cool.

should not feel useless and worthless. You should be proud of what you. because you can accomplish much as long as you desire and courage to be able to step in some way on his feet. each sometimes being in such a situation he feels boring and useless. relax and be brave because I am sure that you can do. I wish you success and a nice day!

Hi zsarhea: Yes, I have felt the same way you do this time. And it's really sad, you feel destroy. What I have learnt from these sad moments in my life is that you should try your best to not let people affect you. I think that your boyfriend is not completely thinking about how you feel and how hard your are doing for learning German. It's not fair in my opinion . ALVARO

I don't know what your nationality is but you could set him the challenge of learning your language seeing as your learning his. He must realise that you must learn the language of where you live before you can give him all the help he needs. Finance is always a big problem when your young and if his Mum has left him debts as well it can't be easy.

Since your bf is pressuring you to speak German what is he exactly complaining about? As far as his brother don't mind him thats just his opinion. Zsarhea you know what you went to school for which was to take up a German Course & you are still learning. You shouldn't mind what other people are saying cause you are you they don't know the whole story about you taking a German Course also doesn't know why which isn't there business. I'm sure you felt alittle uncomfortable while you were sitting next to him in the long run you will learn how to speak German more you'll improve