How does your bf make up with you after arguement?

@zsarhea (302)
Austria
October 4, 2011 2:29pm CST
This is a continuation of my other discussions.He arrived home just 2 hours ago.He brought my fave food,a dress and a furniture.This is always him if he knew he was wrong...and buying those wont make it better.He was upset coz he had money issues but now he's buying stuff...i dont understand him.He didnt say sorry or said something about our misunderstanding.We just ate and he went straight to his computer while im doing the dishes...He's making me crazy.
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• Netherlands
4 Oct 11
I don't have a boyfriend at the moment, but in my previous relationship we just talked about it and after he would tell me he's sorry and he would be really nice to me. Nicer than normal, I mean. I think he might mean well to buy you stuff but it's not a good solution. I'm the ''talk about it'' kind of person, so talk about it and remember that words do mean more than stuff. Especially when you're living together.
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@zsarhea (302)
• Austria
4 Oct 11
thats right and material stuff wont make me feel better.It will just add to my confusions lol.Thank you for the advice :)
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@tpisces (66)
• United States
4 Oct 11
Thats how most men are if they know they did something wrong there not going to apologize don't ask why its just the way how they are. We will never understand them they will never understand us. Yes the material things its all good but the bottom line is that he didn't apologize until he realizes that he has done something wrong ("hint it may take you to acknowledge the problem/situation that is bothering you just so he can understand")
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Oct 11
hi zsarhea I am wondering does he ever hit you when you have arguments as batterers do that to their girlfriend or wife the nthey try to make up with buying expensive gifts. and so it goes as the next time there's an argument out come his fists again.they never say I am sorry as they really am not. If he hits you I would get out as that's not a healthy relationship at all.I am a window and I had a long marriage. sorry I do not believe living together is really all that great ,. why not commit to each other and marry unless he is a hitter.
@Amanda81587 (3042)
• United States
5 Oct 11
Maybe you could talk to him and tell him that buying stuff is not going to make things better especially if you are having finical issues. If your boyfriend is like mine and is pig headed and never wants to listen to what you say then I have no clue what to tell you because I still have no clue. When he wants to make up all he will do is come back home and act like nothing even happened which makes me mad. Then he will try to play fight with me and say I do not love him. He is a big baby!
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@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
9 Mar 12
When the time that my husband are in the stage of being boyfriend and girlfriend. When we are having argument he, i will walk out and he will follow me, he also call me through cellphone or he will come go to our house or he will wait outside our school just to see me and talk to me in personal about our problem. After we fix our problem he always invite me to eat in fast food restaurant.