what if his mother didin't accept you

Romania
October 7, 2011 10:06am CST
boy's mother could get pretty hard to stand...they think that you're not good enough for their baby, that you're taking him away from them and that they wouldn't get as much attention from their son as they used to. so what would you do if your mother's boyfriend couldn't accept you? and for guys: would you listen to what your mother says about your girl?
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
11 Oct 11
Oh well, this is a common scenario with mothers. They always want the best for their kids and you will realized what it means once you have a kid of your own. Luckily I never experienced such problem with my in-laws before. They never care who their son would marry. I am so thankful that I have good inlaws and never say any bad words or never treated me bad until this day. If ever my boyfriend's mother doesn't like me and show that she disagree,it will surely hurt but I will try to hold on with my love. In the end..it is you and your boyfriend who will live together and not his mother. have a good day
@GemmaR (8526)
8 Oct 11
I have actually had a lot of trouble with my partner's Mother in the past, as I know that she doesn't like some of the things that I have done in my life, and I strongly think that she would prefer it if I wasn't in his life. However, the two of us are very happy together and I know that we will be for the rest of our lives as we're currently looking for a home together and we're also planning on starting a family very soon as well. She will have to accept us when this is the case, because I want her to be involved in the life of her grandchildren.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
7 Oct 11
I've been in that situation 2 times. I can tell you the first one gave up on me because of his mom (and stayed living with her for the rest of his life), the second did not, but our years (8) together were terrible (horror) and in the end I left. I am used by now that white people don't like me, see the difference, say I am "that kind of people", etc etc. It says more about them as it does about me. I will never have a relationship (or be friends with) someone who will dump me for his mother (or father). If I like someone then I don't care about what my parents say about him/her so I expect someone else to do the same. If not they are a coward in my eyes and they don't love me. Kids have to grow up and start their own life, not staying with their mom (parents) for the rest of their life. I tried to be friendly, I helped out the mothers of my ex a lot, in the beginning they were very happy but as they understood we were closer (and they might loose their son) they start making a lot of trouble (and blackmailing my ex). Three of my kids have a boy friend. I never had any problem with them or told my kids to dump the guy because he is loser or so. I don't care as long as they feel good with that guy it's fine with me.
@waflay (2717)
• Nairobi, Kenya
7 Oct 11
Its very common thing in my country especially when one is having a relationship with a lady from a diffent tribe. If it does happen to me, then I would choose my life, it would be the first time to disagree with my mother or father and move on with my dear one. Life is all about decisions, and some decisions are cool when made by your own without consultation.
• United States
7 Oct 11
There is no reason in the world why I would need my mothers boyfriend to except me. Now he loves me and is happy to see me stop by. but,if he did not it would not bother me one bit. I love my mother regardless. The mother I would be concerned about would be my mans mother being I would want her to like me. which she does and it is a blessing to know her.