I love him but He's a player,what do i do?

Nigeria
October 20, 2011 4:38am CST
I'm in a relationship with a guy who finds it difficult to date just a lady.When i met, he had a girlfriend, but she was in another country, he asked me out,and i questioned him about the other lady, he said when she returns,He will tell her that he's seeing someone else...i accepted, he's such a warm and caring guy. One day the lady he was dating came looking for me at my work place, i wasnt around and she took my phone number...i reported the case to him, he said theres nothing as such and i shouldnt believe the rumour until the lady calls me which is not possible. Two days later, the lady called me, and told me they were still dating and she 's in the country(not outside),she said she got to know about me when she picked up his phone one day and saw the BB conversation between us which was more like lovers, she questioned him, but said we were just friends and later he said that we are almost getting hooked and that he's sorry he was going to end everything that day, and from my conversation wiv d lady, i slept over in his house that same night but i noticed he was behaving funny.I talked about the other lady,he knew i caught him,he denied everything the lady said,and he told that he is sorry for lying that she was out of the country and thats bcos he wanted to be close to me, and he was sorry for pretending that it was all rumour, he did that to cover her shame.in a nutshell, the lady broke up,leaving me wiv him,he suddenly changes,he wasnt as caring as before anymore.I told him about my graduation,he said he was going to come, but that night as we were talking on BBsteven is a very gentle guy,he doesnt talk too much and he;s nice.he looks so soncere when he talks...and he keps telling me he loves me and he doesnt want to loose me.....what do i do???
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13 responses
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
hi Bibispark...well if your saying that his a player but his sincere and nice, then most likely that guy is an expert on what his doing. If I were your close friend, I'd probably tell you to not get involve with this kind of guy. But at the end of the day, its still going to be your decision. So good luck! Hope things would turn out well.
20 Oct 11
hi..i see this guy is very good in managing women's emotions. honey, trust your instincts. it should not be always 'to see is to believe.' One worst thing a person could do to himself is to fool himself. If i were you, i will put an end to this relationship NOW. Before things get worse and you will get stuck. Wait for Mr. Right. That is if you want a serious relationship. But if you take him as just a fling, well you have all the right in the world to maneuver your life the way you want to.
• Nigeria
9 Nov 11
thanks for the advice,
@ralphs (209)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
That is BS . just leave him you know why ? he will dump you again and again until you think that he was just playing you, he's an a.hole. believe me.
• Nigeria
9 Nov 11
thanks ralphs for u opinion
@kaichoukebz (1190)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
Just simply forget the feeling and remember what you deserve :)
• Nigeria
9 Nov 11
thanks kaich
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
Bibispark I don't think that kind of guy deserve someone like you. If his gentle and nice but would do such things to you I guess his not really that sincere. You have to accept the fact that his not going to be honest and loyal to you. If I were you I'm going to let him go and go on with my life. If his really sincere to what he said that he don't wanna lose you why don't he prove that? On my own points of view that guy just want you because he want something else and i think you know what i mean by that. He is such a waste of time.
• Nigeria
9 Nov 11
may be kathy, i;ve really been doing a lot of thinking
@7thspring (233)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
HI!This is a tough one. If I were you, I'm gonna stay as far as I could knowing that in the end, he might just break my heart. :(
• Nigeria
9 Nov 11
thanks spring for the contribution
@Judy890 (1633)
• United States
20 Oct 11
Hello Bibispark2, So he had another woman, and told you that he would tell her that he's seeing someone else and you accepted that? You should've told him something like "If you're seeing someone already, I don't want to ruin your relationship" One reason why I think you should've said that is, because I feel like you were being selfish and not thinking about his woman she probably loves him and doesn't want to lose him. I was in a similar situation, where this guy I was with told another woman that he'd break up with me to be with her and she was encouraging him to dump me, I found out about this after the break up. If he can easily say he'll break up with her for to be with you, he will do the same when he meets another woman and dumps you for them but you say he's a "player" so I see no reason in being with him, he's not committed and you'll get hurt be-careful and sty away from guys who are taking and date single honest committed men. Wish you he best of luck
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
20 Oct 11
Bibispark2 Oh I wish I could tell you he will be true to you and things will be fine so don't worry. I can't do that if I am to be honest with you. You already see he has been playing you..why would he ever stop?? He hasn't been straight with you, he lied so you can't ever trust him. I think you know what you need to do...find someone who respects you and cares more about you than about himself playing field. All the best..this isn't going to be easy..but it's the right thing to do for you in my opinion.
@lelin1123 (15644)
• Puerto Rico
20 Oct 11
RUN FROM HIM NOW!LEAVE HIM NOW!! ONCE A CHEATER or LIAR ALWAYS a CHEATER and LIAR!! I was with a man the father of my two beautiful girls who cheated on me left and right. I left him after 11 years and felt I wasted my time dealing with him and his lies. Don't waste your time with someone like this or you will regret it later. The only good thing that came from my relationship was my two girls. My ex would always tell me how much he loved and cared about me but in the next hours or so he would be off with some other girl, probably telling her the same thing. Please stop saying he is so gentle and sincere, its all an act. Wake up before its to late and you are having a baby and you end up raising that child by yourself. Good luck and God Bless
• India
20 Oct 11
Hey Bibispark2 , You are really played by that man. Just use your common sense to understand that. He handles many women at one time. He is not pure in his senses. I think he use women for his wishes. Be care full dealing with such guys. HE should be an absolute pretender. You are very well trapped in his acting. So smoothly just scoot from this relationship.
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
If your boy really loves you, he should quit being a player and get serious with you in your relationship. He must change himself. What you should do is that you think again if he is serious with you and decide whether you should accept him or not. Think twice so that you will not be hurt and so that no tears will be wasted.
@ShepherdSpy (8562)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
20 Oct 11
It sounds as though You've gathered enough evidence of this guy lying to keep you and several other women in play...So, he's nice and does sincere well...but it sure looks like you can't trust him when he's telling you what you want to hear while you know he's giving the same line to someone else! It's your call....good luck....
• Singapore
20 Oct 11
Gosh! This guy is a playboy. I am quite surprised that you were not moved by the fact that he has been lying to both you and the other lady at the same time. To me, trust is something you need to build. From here, it does seem that he cannot be trusted. What he is doing is covering one lie with another lie. I'm hoping that you actually see this because you need to understand who you are dealing with. If you think you can live with a liar, go ahead and have a relationship with him. He may look sincere, but he just loves getting all the attention from all the ladies he meet, sleeping with different women. When the other lady broke up, I hope you did not feel triumphant that he chose you over her. In fact, I think the other lady did the right thing to break up with him. If you really think that he is the one for you, think agin! You will regret not leaving him now!!
@sexyice (874)
• Latvia
20 Oct 11
And thats always boys need just say "I love you and girls melt". I think this is just game, after month or two you crying in Mylot and will say - "My heart are broken". I don't laugh about you - no dear I know how are boys. And I know if you leave he now you soon find new love... I know, you think - sexyice light write it, but how can I do it?! Easy say him - all over, then cry 2 days and next week go party and then you understand - you start new life and you fill find guy who protect and respect you...