I Don't Want to be a Burden

I think she wants to live with you because she wants to be with you al the time. Why would you feel that you are a burden when you are earning yourself, though se is earning more, you said. I'd say talk to her about your situation, tell her that you feel for her and want to be with her but you do not want her children to feel that she is the one earning for the "family" because you can only give less than what she can bring in. i am sure she would be able to understand you. just try to talk to her.

i think you have to figure it out if you really love her and if she really loves you..and if both of you does..you both must be in a normal relationship, like not living together for now..she still have to introduce you to her kids..and you must have to establish your rapport to her kids..im concern more with the kids..'cause they get the difficult part in adjusting..considering they know you're not their father, perhaps? and for your case, i don't think so she'll consider you as another burden..as long as you won't give her problems, you won't be a burden..and if everything goes well with you and her, and also with her kids, then i guess you both can live together if that's what you want..or get married..

Hmmm... I don't think there's really an easy way to reject someone's wishes, but I do understand where you're coming from. I do get that women with kids have more tendencies to work harder and it would be right for you to feel that you'd be a burden. However, I don't think it's because you'll be a 'burden', I am thinking that perhaps you just don't like the idea of being tied down to a relationship, much too that she does have kids and living with them in one house would be a lot of 'changes' to you present situation. I do get her as well, we do tend to want to settle down. I too would like my partner to propose and get married already. But for an apparent reason, he keeps on telling me that he's still saving up for us to be married. I don't really think it's about him 'saving up', well perhaps it is, but deep in the back of my mind, I feel that he just like this 'freedom' that he's in right now. Yeah, it saddens me to think about such, but what can I do? I too would be depressed and sad if I were in your woman's shoes, but what could she do? I think it's better that you tell her honestly because there's no easy way to break someone's heart. Any other way, she will get hurt eventually. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

Let her live in her home and oyu in your.Just have relationship.That would solve problem.

Have you met this person? or is she just someone from online? You say you have never touched her, yet she wants to get married? This doesn't seem quite grown up to me. I think you need to get to know someone really well before getting married. I don't blame you for not wanting to get married, but I don't think money should be the issue. As long as you can support yourself and she can support herself and her children, then all should be okay there. But I would never commit to someone who I didn't want to know intimately, because marriage is an intimate relationship.

it is a hard situation. why don't you settle with an alternative..rather than moving with her?.. tell her honestly what you feel if you live with her. you can explain to her the advantages and also the disadvantages of living together. if she gets angry or gets depressed when you do not follow her wishes..I'm sorry but i think she is manipulating you to agree with her..if she loves you she would understand your situation..you only want whats the best for her and for her children

When there is a relationship problem then should have some counselling.Should take steps to avoid it or to make it understandable. If she is insisting that your should get marreid and you dont want to be a burden then either you should leave or she should understand . May be she needs some one to be as her protector,though she is earning she is not satisfied as she is interested in u. I dont know how come she manage the costs as she has two kids and has to run the family. You both should have a talk regarding the financial status and other related matters in such a way that nothign goes wrong.

Hey Rambansal Take right direction to think, she loves you,means everything from you all loved, I just simply know it, if someone loves me so much i will love back on him Try my best to bring joyful care and share for his life that's my responsiblity!

Hello Ram, If you both really love each other and not marrying just because she earns more than you then i should say its not fair.You can take your time to search some new ways to earn more in that time so that you may feel comfortable. But due to this reason reject someone who loves you i don't think its wise to do so when you both need each other.Also there are lot of couples in which the female partner earns much higher than the male partner so its not the only reason to reject her love for you. I think you need to work out first if you love her and really need to live together or will be able to adjust with her.

Well, you already said so yourself, you love her. I guess there's no problem with that. If you love her, then why not marry her. With marriage, it doesn't really matter as to who earns much more money. What matters is that you both love each other and you support each other.