how will you act when jealousy attacks?

Philippines
October 30, 2011 7:49am CST
When we love somebody dearly we can't help but feel jealous every time we feel, think, sense or see that he or she is giving someone else better attention. It really does not matter if we see it with our own eyes. When we start to believe something we imagine it's hard to get away from the feeling. So, when jealousy attacks you, say for example you are out with your partner in an event, what will you do? will you just keep it bottled up and blow off your steam when you're both alone? or will you stand by your partner and stake your claim by holding him or her? Will you make a scene or just disregard the feeling that somehow there's more to it that what meets the eye? For me, i get jealous( it's not often though) when i see something that is quite disrespectful considering that I'm the partner and I am there with him and he engages in something that's beyond what acquaintance or friends normally do under any circumstances. My behavior depends on the situation. Usually i tell him when we're alone..but there are times that I stake my claim on the guy to remind him that I am there and he should not be doing that. How about you? when jealousy attacks, what do you do?
5 responses
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
hi there derie! i am just like you. i put my jealous self in place and act normal but if that goes beyond the limits then i would grab his arm and remind him that i am there. just last two days ago. i had jealousy attacks. we were out for lunch with my dear then we were chatting but i noticed he was not looking at me so i continued talking and look to where he was looking saw his eyes on another woman on the other end of the table. he did not notice me doing that since i was sitting on his side. i stopped chatting when he did not remove his stare on the girl. i acted okay the whole time we were together cause i do not want to spoil the day. so the night that day i told him about that and he was denying the act that i just saw. well, i said okay but it was not really okay.
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• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Hello shanemae, that's the hardest part. acting as if nothing's wrong, trying not to spoil the day but you keep it bottled up until there will come a time that you can't control it anymore and it will come boiling over.
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
true! i agree. it becomes harder when you keep that for a long time then added with the same mistake. lucky i have not burst with much emotion when that happened.^^
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
3 Sep 12
I think of the Kenny Rogers & Dolly Parton song "Islands in the Stream." When we two are together, then the time is right for us to belong together. When we are apart, being 'apart in mind' is risky (as we may lose each other to those with whom we're together at that time), but That's reality!
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
31 Oct 11
I keep looking for the great things in me and for my values. It's not the time to turn and try to see what my love saw in the other girl or something, or to look at her, it's time to look at me or I'll abandom myself and jealousy can become insecurity.
• India
30 Oct 11
Really i can't help me in these situations. I can't say or scold my dear ones who is showing jealousy on me even i can't explain them also.But i love those situations thinking that they love me a lot...
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
9 Mar 12
When i feel jealous i just keep quiet about it. I just let him do what he want to do but when i think i think he is getting over his limitation and he is giving more attention in other. I talk to him and try to calm my self. There is a time that when i feel jealous when it comes to his ex girlfriend, i just tell to my self the more important is i'm the one that he love right now.