Mid Life Crisis
November 7, 2011 3:24pm CST
A person’s age fro 40 to mid fifties or up to 60s has been considered as middle age. At the Middle Age phase man or woman has been seasoned with life experience. The women reach the stage of menopause and at this stage women undergo a remarkable transition period. At this age the children are full pledged youth and they form their own family. In the traditional families, Parent’s consent has great importance. But after the age of 40 the parents come to a balanced way of living. If so far they had been ruling with their mind and authority, now they are sidelined by the children. The children become the main actors and the parents view the life of their children. Some say that from age 40 to 60, a person yields the maximum with full responsibility. Accumulation of wealth, future safety and store something great to hand over to their children, becomes a great passion. But a good percentage of people may begin to show tiredness and feel discontent for their past achievements. They may begin to repent for not taking responsibility of the chances offered to them. They may have guilt feelings for having wasted their life in vain and they perhaps pay dearly for their mistakes committed. Some may feel a great deal of boredom on the matters which they held so important and they had sacrificed everything to acquire. When they see the way how the children live, they may either try to compete still to dominate or appear superior to their children or they may go under depression. They may get confused by asking why they worked for so long and begin to question what is the ultimate goal of life. The famous psychologist Carl Jung essentially speaks about some phases of mid life. When the Parents who undergo mid age, they take positively all the changes and transformations of culture in their surroundings and try to accommodate their way of life in conformity to that of their children and their transforming society. The mid aged parents when they look behind how they had respected their grand parents and the parents, may find hard to accommodate themselves to the demands of the present society. Some may categorically condemn the modern signs of time and they may never reconcile themselves to the life style adopted by their modern children. While they may yearn and long to go back to their countryside where they had cherished their rich experience, their children may never like to step in to this country side. When the children now the young parents educate their children according to the modern trend the mid aged parents may retire to live aloof and far away from their children. They may get separated from their children who live a modern way of life. At the mid age the parents may begin to feel insecure and some may try to reintegrate themselves with their children. Often we come across the parents making their apartments just close to their children. Even though they cannot share the life along with the children, they do not like to lose sight from their children. But some may have great courage to stick to their belief system and take risk to live alone by accommodating themselves helplessly. If once they had loved their children now they may keep some pet animals and still feel as active parents to take care of their pets.
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8 Nov 11
Hello my friend. I do hope you're alright and well. For your discussion ,yes I think you have valid points here. Middle life crisis is something one must deal well. It is a time where depression may set in and could be the most lonely stage of life. But if planned earlier, it could be also the most rewarding.
7 Nov 11
By the time a person reach that age, either expectations are met or discovered just an illusion. If the latter is the case, there is emotional agony or outrage. Keeping expectations on check is a priority that would not be so simple to accomplish. Children should know their parents' needs and begin while they still have time. The worst thing is a parent not satisfied by their children's achievements due to wrong choice of priorities. It's all about respect to parents and sacrificing own interests.
7 Nov 11
Yes, it is good to live close to one's children when you are retired. You hopefully have lots of animals to keep you occupied and young at heart. Those little animals are call grandchildren! We love them to bits! Even when you get to nearly 70 you still lead a busy life.
7 Nov 11
Carl Yung lived in a complete different time as we are. On the age of 40 one of my grannies was old, even looked older as many 80 year old women nowadays and at the age of 56 my other granny was pregant. So nothing middle aged or menopause for her. In this time it's normal to have old mothers even if you are over 60 years old there is still a way to get pregnant. Being a parent at an older age (career first) does mean you still have responsibilities and you probably have them till the day you die. With the bad economics kids stay at home even if they are adult because they can't pay for a home of their own. so again responsibilities esp if they don't have an income as well. It's not the boredom that kills but the fact the responsibility will never and times are changed. You don't have the opportunity anymore to say: if I am finished working I will go travel the world, go fishing, spend more times with my hobyy. That time will never come since all "rules" seemed to be changed and nothing is for sure anymore.