Domestic Goddess Question
November 10, 2011 3:01pm CST
If you are doing well enough as the domestic goddess of the house, like,dishes,laundry,scrubbing floors and bathrooms well, cleaning carpets,and window treatments, dusting out china cabinets and other closed in spaces, organizing paper work,books,music,movies,all entertainment items,keeping the pantry well too, family photo's, all craft and sewing items, work out items, clothes all organized, family pets well enough cared for, the recycling organized from the garbage, wood brought in for the house wood stove. You manage all of these things of the house including gardening, and being the family photographer,and craft and health food and fitness adviser. Doing and being all of these things now then come to see you also expected to help pack hunting meat to the freezer and unload trucks of wood cut from the woods, also to sew items by hand instead of store bought. Plus, you must do all book work to organize the bill paying for the household and make sure it is paid too. Then, getting the medical things for family members and all healthcare and hygiene products well supplied within the household many different medical and medicine type items as needed for person's there too. This is mostly expected for one person to maintain always if in a more country type of setting this seems like a bit of a heavy burden here alone what if your health either mentally or physically goes wrong somehow who do you trust well enough to step up and do all of these things correctly enough too. Close family, what if they are just as bad off or worse in some ways too as you are. Everything seems to just stay the same ways always and severe depression or even hopelessness and loss of a dream set in as well. Is this domestic goddess thing the right way for every person, or just a select few. Thanks,A.B.
12 Nov 11
Oh me too, I just help a tiny bit from now and then. Yet, I can see where woman used to be expected to do so much more too. That is all I meant the men in our family do quite allot on there own now. So that we don't mind to help out every now and again not all the time though. There is some things they still don't like to do though however. I feel the same way about the wood stove but some people are very old fashioned still today. We do go visit warmer places too for a break so it all evens out in the end. The person who did choose to be more responsible for all of these crazy amount of chores is no longer with us and the other person is too elderly disabled and retired to do it anymore too. So much is left with me and my parents now. We have my cousin who helps so much all the time too. It all does work out most of the time too. Thanks,A.B.
15 Nov 11
I am doing this all and I have a bad health. I just came over an other hill and during the times I am in a lot of pain there are many things I can't do. This means my days look like this: I try to get my kids at school, go back to bed, take my meds and stay there till the alarm tells me to drag myself back to school to pick them up. They have to make their own food (I can't cook), I don't clean or do the laundry or stuff like this and I hope for the best. If I am very sick i stay in bed with lots of medication and everybody has to take care of him/herself (no matter how old/young they are). Sooner or later I will be a bit on my way to the hill, then I scrub and clean and try to do everything I was not able to do in the past days or weeks.
12 Nov 11
I agree absolutely with you and I truly wish that more woman myself included could do all of these things too and more even. Sadly it isn't in the cards for all for whatever the situations my be. For myself I have noticed I become too easily distracted at times almost like a 2 year old with ADD. I will be sewing then think,why not paint,walk the dogs,cook something more healthy, do more yoga,do house cleaning,organize,it's just a constant whirl things I know most woman are muli- taskers these days and I just don't quite get it completely just how they manage all of this stuff either. I am so ADD all day plus with helping MOM care for my disabled Dad and grandpa not too much ever seems to be getting done that needs to be either. Like laundry always behind on this, forget about great money management just a bit of that happening too. This is why I do wish so very much for others to be able to do much more and better at it too so one day they may show me or help me out maybe in my old age too. The children truly are our future too. The people who deny this or won't except it are just so crazy to me too. Thanks,A.B.
10 Nov 11
I think most people think that nobody else can do as well as yourself in many areas but sometimes it is just that people do things differently and maybe not as often, I am looking after an elderly lady at the moment and I see her getting so upset that things are not done as well as she did and I can see her getting so upset at this, but to me I think these things that you should not expect too much of others to do as well as you do, better to just relax and look at life with a smile...
12 Nov 11
Such a great upbeat and positive comment here on this, i love it! better said then done at times though, I just have to quietly walk away for a little while collect my rational thoughts more then come back to this person or situation and try to remember nobody is perfect and perhaps this person never did all of these things either and this is truly what is so upsetting that you can and they where just too unable. I too live with and care for an elderly family member i was CNA Certified for a few years too and learned quite allot my Mother is still a CNA now. We do our very best for our family and our selves but we all fall short at some times we are only human after all thanks so very much here for sharing too. thanks,A.B.
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30 Dec 11
I think that carrying heavy loads, and stuff like that should be for a man to do. i do everything, and I enjoy it. I have learned to do everything on my own and not expect help from my husband, family, or anyone. It'd be nice however to have the extra money to hire some help every now and then. I think that is something that I would like to do from time to time because I deserve it, and when I have a 2nd child, I will surely need to hire a housekeeper to help me out for the first few weeks, and a sitter to look after my daughter when I am delivering.