a child of a friend...

Philippines
November 16, 2011 10:13am CST
A friend of mine is married for over a 5 yrs now. She is very talented and with her profession she is the best... But still after being for over a 5 yrs she still don't have her own child. She even stop working for the sake of finding time to have a child with her hubby... But still time past and till now its zero. she previously stayed at home again for about another 2 months to take chance to have one again...but sad to say that nothing happens... Now she go back again to work abroad... Would there be any probability that she will be a mother of her own child even she aged already, with the same man he loves?? What are actions to take and pre-cautions to make? Dear all thanks for the help..
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5 responses
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
16 Nov 11
Hi there... The lady needs to spend time with her husband... Working shouldn't be a problem. They need 'to have it' as much as they can... Making love is the only way to have children. If after 5 years, it is not working then they need to consult with doctor. And if nothing works, there is always the option of adopting a child...
• Philippines
16 Nov 11
Hi mr pearl! You know i already said same line to her, but she said she already done it and bore herself inside their house for about half a year trying to spend time with his hubby... The saddest part of it.. SHe left home and now counting days... Maybe after trying she will consider an adoption for her to have a child.. Anyway being a mother is not only by carrying baby in the womb right? But carrying it to the heart as always...
@SIMPLYD (81505)
• Philippines
17 Nov 11
Some couples adopt a child. After one or two years, the woman gets pregnant and have her own child. I think, it's the Lord's gift to them for adopting an unwanted baby. They just have to make sure that they will still love the adopted child even with the emergence of their true biological child.
• Philippines
17 Nov 11
After a talk to my friend, she gladly consider an adoption.... She just tell me that she already accept that maybe she is destined to help her nieces and nephew and be part to what their parents cannot provide for them...Ü
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
17 Nov 11
Hi Mmgonzales, Welcome to Mylot! Well, the problem could lie with either her or her husband or it could be simply that their timing is off. There is no way for anyone other than a doctor to determine just why it is that she hasn't been able to conceive. I think that if your friend really wants a child then she should consult with her doctor. He will help her determine the problem and how to solve it.
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
Hi sid, thanks for a warm welcome.. She and her husband already did consult a doctor..i do also advice them to have a test tube baby.. But of course money also matters to them..maybe It is possible that the time is off for them or they are just stubborn thats why things happen that way because they are far from each other..
@Rosa26 (2620)
• United States
16 Nov 11
Yesterday I saw a TV show where the couple spent 8 years trying to have a baby, and after a lot of treatments and analysis,they quit,the woman was over weight the doctor said that the reason was because the man doesn't produce enough sperms,but one day she decided to loose pounds because she was getting for her weight, then she had a surgery to reduce her stomach and after that lost 90 pounds, and she kept feeling bad of the stomach and always thought that was a consequence of the surgery, but one day the pain was as bad that her husband took her to the hospital and there she had her baby girl called Erika by them,she says that the reason she got pregnant was because she lost all of those pound, so on case that your friend is in overweight maybe if she loose some pounds this can help,of course she have to go to the doctor first.
• Philippines
17 Nov 11
Rosa, i guess with that span of time my friend had 3 more yrs... :) My friend is not as chubby as me and perhaps in due time she will have the joy of having a child..
@tamirs (1808)
• Philippines
16 Nov 11
I think they both,Husband and wife,need to go to a specialist to check on their condition.There could be a problem with their sperms or their body. I also have a cousin with the same situation as your friend.They girl works abroad and the guy stays and works here in the Philippines,they were married for about six years when they both seek guidance from a specialist,because every time the girl goes home for a vacation ,they always try to have a baby but nothing happens.The doctor after having them both check saw that the sperm of the guy is not so healthy to go to the egg the girl has.Doctor gave them vitamins, medicine and gave them date where working for a baby is almost 95 percent possible.it took them months of 2 months before they got so lucky to have what they are yearning for.:-) They named the baby Aimme from the word "aim me" .She is now 4 years of age and very talented little girl.
• Philippines
16 Nov 11
Tamir, really it is so encouraging that your friend have got one... I really wants her to be happy thats why i dont loose hope for her to have her own child...Thanks a lot!!!
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
17 Nov 11
I think your friend needs to consult a doctor. They can give suggestions on the things they need to do while on the act of making love. The proper position and the proper techniques would be suggested by the doctor. I have a female friend who got married with a guy 13 (I guess) years younger than her, after their marriage they consulted the doctor about it because she's really afraid that with her age she won't be able to conceive a baby. Now they have succeeded and the baby girl will be turning 2 soon.