How do you teach your kids?

Philippines
November 17, 2011 9:16pm CST
My baby daughter is going to school by next school year and so I'm teaching her some basics like the alphabets and numbers. She is very much the opposite of her brother. I remember when I'm teaching my son before,his concentration is with me and the things I'm teaching him. But with my daughter,oh my! She listens for a while then plays with other things! I don't want to force her from what I'm teaching her but I wanted her to learn. But from what I've observed,even if she doesn't concentrate fully on my teachings,she's getting it! 'cause one time she saw a number outside and she said,"Mama,just like number seven"! Haha,and I said,"It is number seven baby!" I just wish she knows all the alphabets and numbers when she goes to school. How do you teach your kids? Or how did you teach them?
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21 responses
@tamirs (1807)
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
hey mtr,i think you are doing great. i wasn't able to teach my daughter before she went to school because i have work then. Now i am teacher her full time.I can say its really hard to teach kids these days because there are lots of things that's taking their concentration. Thats is why i let her do some plays first before we concentrate with our lesson for the day or else she will just think of playing while we are studying. But i can say you are doing good,anyway she will be more like going to playschool in her first year right.? Enjoy your time with your daughter . :-D
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
Hi tamirs! Oh,my baby even if we're done with our playing but when bored with my teaching(I assume she's bored,hehe),she will try to make a way to play again. She would suggest or ask me some other questions just to make me stop,haha! I think I'm doing good,I hope,lol!
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
Haha,they are that smart,funny kids! By the way,how old is your daughter? My baby is turning 4 by January next year so she'll be in school on July.
@tamirs (1807)
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
That's true,even my daughter always do that,throw questions at me to make me stop teaching her.And moreoften she will tell me stories just to keep away from our lesson. lol Kids.. :-D
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
i did that to my daughter too and sons, before they enter kindergarten, they know the basics. Just make sure it is fun and they will surely remember it. I have books i could recommend you. How old is she? https://www.facebook.com/#!/media/set/?set=a.496053554493.274968.830084493&type=1
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
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• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Done my new friend! I didn't know you're also from my country,yehey!
• Australia
19 Nov 11
I would just teach her little bits when she is giving you the attention...don't push it when her attention goes elsewhere...she will eventually pick it up.
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
Hi there! Yes,I agree with you,that's why I just let her do what she wants to do and just continue on my teaching 'cause I know even if she's playing,she still listens to me and eventually absorbs it.
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
Hi manoj07kumar! Welcome here! Giving freedom to kids make them enjoy their explorations and they will learn from it,for sure!
20 Nov 11
That is an excellent idea. We should always give freedom to kids along with our teachings.
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@anil02 (24688)
• India
18 Nov 11
Hello, I think we should not be so serious about the education of kids. Its seems your baby is much younger. So don't force her learning in you style. Let him free.
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@anil02 (24688)
• India
19 Nov 11
Hello I am agree with you, But we must be care for likes and dislikes of a inosent child.
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• Philippines
20 Nov 11
True enough anil!
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Hi there! Oh,I'm not forcing my baby to learn many things at once anil,that is why I just let her do what she wants whenever she doesn't want to listen to my teachings. I know she's too young,I just wanted her to be well-prepared when she goes to school,at least she knows some basics like the alphabets and numbers.
@beingwell (3625)
• Thailand
18 Nov 11
Very cute story, my friend! I don't have a child yet but I still remember how my mom taught us numbers and letters. :) She taped our room with a masking tape (the one that doesn't stick to the paint). Then she wrote 1-10 and A-Z on the tape so we can practice reading and looking at them during play time.hihihi.. Seems to work 'coz we turned out to be very smart!!hahahaha!! Lol! Good luck with your lovely daughter my friend! I'm sure you guys would do fine!
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@beingwell (3625)
• Thailand
18 Nov 11
Oh, I know! That's because she sees your "teaching" time as her playtime.hihihi... That's good, right? Anyway, don't worry about it my friend! She's doing very well!
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• Philippines
18 Nov 11
Waaa,I don't know if that's good my friend,haha! 'Cause it'll always be a playing time,if that's what she thinks,haha! Anyway,I'm sure she'll do good when she's in school,I hope,haha!
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
Haha! I believe you are really smart friend! I bought posters for her,one is the alphabet poster and the other one for numbers and pasted those in our room. I usually teach her at night when there's no so much noise,usually before sleeping time,hehe! And I also have alpahabet flashcards for her my friend with pictures. Luckily,she knows most of them already,yehey! But I really don't understand why my baby doesn't show any concentration when I'm teaching her,waaa!!! I just hope when she's in school already she wont be like that,oh my!
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
18 Nov 11
hi mtr, all children are not the same and so your son and daughter. You are really doing a good job of teaching her alphabets and numbers but when she is not concentrating just don't pressurize her for repeating / listening to you. When my daughter was about that age, at that time (now she's in IX std) i got few books from the book store and she learned for reading and writing Alphabets, 1-10 Numbers and Hindi alphabets too even before joining the school. Well, but my son (now he is 10) learned only to read few. Yes the modern parents opt for e-learning i.e teach them online as they enjoy sound/ visual too and in a play way method. Your daughter looks so cute and sweet.
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• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Hi viju! Wow,you have an avatar now,good for you! It is just so small,hehe! But it's better than before. I bought a few books for her too but mostly coloring books with alphabets and she already memorized the terms or pictures in the book,yehey! So while she's coloring,I'm explaining it to her and gladly,she's remembering it,haha!
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
Hi friend! Hmmm..I think you should know first how and what's the basis of his moods. If he has moods to study because of one thing,know that "one thing" and try to give it to him so he will always be in the mood to study. These days,forcing our kids which they don't like is hard to do. My son who is already working now,is also not that serious with his studies during his colloge days. But I'm so happy he is always with high grades even if I don't see him study. Maybe,your son is studying in their school and you don't see him. Just don't make him feel pressured 'cause that's one reason why he looses interests with his studies.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
19 Nov 11
Thanks MTR... sure i would upload a new avatar soon. That's fun and fun n learn tricks are really useful for the kids to remember. I personally feel once she's off to school, she will learn all by herself and (she will teach you as well as many kids has this habit of acting like her teacher at home) get to the top. These days i am having a lot of trouble with my son's studies as he's very moody and i have tried almost all the gifting/bribing/punishing etc etc.. but he seems to study only when he's in a mood even if it is 11.30 at night. His mid term exams just started and i really hope he'll do better as the courses are too much. Any suggestions / advice/s / comments for me??
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
18 Nov 11
I think it is good what you are doing, it gives your little girl a step up, I was a slow child at school and I put it down to the fact that I wasn't taught like this, I think my mother thought I would just learn all this at school but now when I think about it maybe a few lessons before I went to school could have made a big difference.
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
Hi there! I guess your parents are just the same as mine,they are what I call the "old age parents",lol! Now I consider myself as a "modern parent",hehe! I wanted my kids to be well equiped when they go to school,at least they know some basics so when ask by their teachers,they know it somehow. Nowadays,kids are so smart and I wanted my baby to be leveled to them. When you became a parent,I know you're going to teach them too before going to school,goodluck!
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
Hi jurseegurl! Wow,you are creative enough! When my kids are still in my womb,I do play and listen to musics 'cause my pediatrician said that they react to what they hear and somehow learn from it. I always hug my womb to make them feel that I love them. I like the way you teach your kids,niece and nephew,they are lucky to have you! You are right about what you've said that the more we force them,the more that they refuse, that's why I don't force my daughter. I'll try to be creative as you are,jurseegurl,thanks for sharing me your way of teaching. I will greatly enjoy it for sure,and my baby as well!
@shibham (16977)
• India
19 Nov 11
So, amiga. My angel is going to be a sweet torture to you in your teaching period? lol. I do believe that she will learn faster even out of your imagination. Let be her a school girl first and watch what she will do? I have 100% faith on my crystal. Take care of her. Have a nice time ahead.
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• Philippines
20 Nov 11
Haha,oh no amigo,I don't consider her as torture,lol! I am learning so much patience with her instead,lol! I know she's a smart girl amigo,and thanks for believeing in her capabilities. Have a nice day too!
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
hello cutie, I do not force my kids when they were small. I teach them through playing. Yes, you can play games with numbers and alphabets... I teach my daughter how to read through videoke...hehehe
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• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Hello dear jai! Oh,I don't force my little one to learn,haha! I just let her be if she doesn't want to listen to me,lol! Videoke? Wow,you're a family singers eh! That must be so fun,haha! Miss you!
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
18 Nov 11
hi mtr i tried this with my nephew when he was about to join school - luckily i was at dad's place for a few days at that time - anything that he held or had with him, I started telling him with alphabets... something like A for Apple if he had an apple in his hand. I think this is a better way to get around and prepare the kids as normally kids of that tender age are mostly unaware of the art of learning
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
18 Nov 11
being a teacher helps at times The kids are the most difficult to teach. They have to be taught with lots of patience - that I am sure my dear friend has, and a better strategy helps in persuading them
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• Philippines
18 Nov 11
Hello sids! I think that's a good idea! I will try it on my baby! For sure she will learn that way,thanks for that idea buddy! Take care!
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
I learned patience from my kids Sids,haha,and I'm so thankful for them.I love them so much and I think that's the root of my being patient.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
18 Nov 11
Your daughter is so cute. All children are not alike. Some learn quickly and some learn slowly. We must accept it and teach the child accordingly. You seem to be doing a good job.have a good day.
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• Philippines
18 Nov 11
Hi there! I don't consider my dauighter as a slow learner,it's just that she doesn't want to concentrate on what I'm teaching her,oh my! But you know,whenever she feels I'm sleepy already and she's not yet,she will always tell me to teach her the alphabets just to keep me awake,haha! she's that tricky,lol!
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
Oh,she really is a smart child and very talkative! We sometimes jokingly call her a "radio" since she doesn't stop talking,we would always say kindly turn off the radio so we will have a moment of silence here,haha! And she will sing,waaaa!!!
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
18 Nov 11
Nice. From what you have mentioned, she seems to be an intelligent girl and smart also. It is good to teach to alphabets, numbers and a few rhymes also. have a good day.
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• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Hi sis! I guess you just have to provide her with some educational toys so while playing she can also learn. Put a lot of visual aids inside her room and from time to time you can teach her even while dressing her or combing her hair. Kids now a day has been so busy doing everything, your kid is still young and will go a long way. And you are a great mom so nothing to worry.
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• Philippines
20 Nov 11
Hello sis,happy to see yoou again! Hubby is coming on Tuesday,yahu! Take it from a good teacher,hehe! I do have some educational tools for her,I even posted some of it on our wall in our room,haha! So that from time to time,I can teach her. Thanks for the ideas sis,will follow it! Miss yah!
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
19 Nov 11
You are a good mother, because you don't all the work to the teacher and that is how is suppose to be,there are a lot of site that help you with kids to teach the the phonics, sorting,matching,etc.., Those are some of them: http://www.billings.k12.mt.us/literacy/kindertipfolder/kindertip36alphabet.html http://www.babycenter.com/404_whats-the-best-way-to-teach-my-child-the-alphabet_6897.bc And there are a lot of more that have good info about that.
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• Philippines
20 Nov 11
Hi rosa! I love my kids so much that's why I'm trying my best to be a good mother. Thank you for the links you've given me,will check it out!
• United States
19 Nov 11
Well, I don't have any children but when I want to teach my nephew something, I make an experience in life a learning moment. When there is an important life lesson to be learned, I give some context to relate to his problems and then I suggest the solution and various steps that can be taken to achieve the solution. When he needs help in school, I give him one-on-one tutorials and provide as much knowledge as I have to assist him. Since education and literacy are being emphasized dramatically, he is catching up to my current skill levels rapidly. I'm afraid that one day I will be no longer capable of helping him on his assignments. :(
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• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Hi there! I'm sure you can still teach your nephew whenever he needs help from you,you're a good teacher and will always stay as that to him. Keep it up!
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
18 Nov 11
Hello mtrg. I raised two of my grandchildren. When my granddaughter was about four we got her a program called hooked on phonics. She took to it like a dog afyer a bone. she learned to read before she started to school. When my grandson reached the same age he couldn't seem to grasp the letters or numbers. When it came time to register for school the teacher offered to test the kids to see if they were ready to learn. Not all kids learn to walk at the same time so why would they all be ready for school just because they reached a certain age. Well we had him tested and they suggested we wait a year when he would be more mature. We did wait and I believe it made all the difference in the world in his learning ability. Just maybe you daughter just isn't quite mature enough to focus for very long. I don't know why we expect our kids to be ready for school just because they reach 5 or 6 years old.
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Hi deebomb! It's been the traditional way in all countries(I believe)that when a child reaches 4yrs old,she is now entitled to go to her pre-school stage. But of course,not all kids are the same when it comes to their capacity in catching up with learning. But most kids have that capacity at their early age,4 yrs old. I can also see some schools here that are already accepting 3yrs old kids to their way of learning but I don't want my baby to go at that very eaarly stage.
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@r3jcorp (1382)
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
Children easily learn through visual materials like an educational cd which we could let them watch, a good book or educational games. My youngest do learn her abc's and numbers through Barney and a little toy laptop. But, I make sure that I am present everytime she needs an answer. Studying was very easy with my youngest because she is too eager to learn something new and everytime I notice that eagerness, I immediately took advantage of the situation.
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• Philippines
19 Nov 11
My son's like your kid when he was just 3 yrs old but my baby daughter is very much the opposite of him,haha! But still,she is as smart as her big brother. I let her watch sesame street series on her laptop and she's learning so much from it like singing the alphabet songs and I would always sing with her so she will enjoy it more. She is also fond in watching playhouse disney which she learns how to speak english in a right way,haha! You're lucky you don't have to exert so much effort to your kid as he is very eager to learn. But I'm very patient with my daughter and I think I just have to teach her in playful manner.
@vasumathi (436)
• India
18 Nov 11
I personally feel that we should not force childrens to study. We should teach them lessons in playful mood.
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• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Hi there! I also don't want to force kids to learn especially my baby as she's still too young,that's why I just let her do what she wants to do whenever she doesn't want to listen to me,hehe! I got some techniques from my repliers here in teaching in a playful mood and I'm sure both me and my baby will have fun while she is learning.
• India
18 Nov 11
Hi, To me, the best way to teach the kids is by being a role model ourselves for them on most things. Dont be angry with them and listen to what they have to say and they will listen back.
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• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Hi there! Welcome here! I agree with you that parents should really be the role model of them. What parents do are more likely their kids will do so as much as possible,I show good things and manners to my kids and explain everything to them very well how things are being done in a proper way. I don't get mad to my kids whenever they don't like to listen to my teaschings as I don't want to pressure them about it. Yes,we really should listen to what they want and say so you will have a good harmony.
18 Nov 11
Naturally, a kid has short attention span. I guess you need to post pictures of numbers, alphabets in their study room or in their room and teach them more often. The often they got to see those figures then it would be familiar to them and easy to retain. Try to watch educational tv shows that teach kids numbers, alphabets and spelling. You might also use games for them to make learning as fun as possible.In this way, they will not be burdened to learn because they are actually enjoying what they are doing. I hope this would help.
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• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Hi there! Welcome to mylot! You actually said good ways on how to teach my baby. I do that now. I know figures and pictures are a big help to kids at her age as they are more interested in pictures with colors. I bought her big books that have numbers and alphabets with big pictures and somehow she's remembering all those terms,happy for it. She is fond in watching playhouse disney and she learns from it too especially in Word World program.
• India
18 Nov 11
I think teaching kids is a difficult tasks. Forcing children to study will not a good way. Love the kids with chocolates is a good way. Give he some terms and conditions. I mean that, Tell her that if you study this lesson or this topic you will be awarded with a wonderful tasty chocolate or toy .I think this technique will be fine. What do you think ?
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• Philippines
18 Nov 11
Hi there! Thanks for telling me your idea but I've read about that style and it says that it's not a good way of motivation since they will always crave for a price whenever they will do good things. But sometimes I do that whenever I have to feed her and she really doesn't want to eat,oh my!