have you ever been lonely? how does it makes you feel?

Philippines
November 19, 2011 10:44am CST
hey there! Have you ever felt alone? sad? unsatisfied? like, you want to do something so bad but you just couldn't do it at this point in your life. it's either because you're still too young or too old. but then again maybe there's something holding you back that's why you can't let go and let loose. Loneliness kills people that's what others says....but not all the time it's true because if all your life you've been lonely...then you'll grew to be immune to it and sometimes be much comfortable with it. how about you? have you ever been lonely? what is loneliness for you? are you fine being lonely?
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14 responses
@umabharti (3976)
• India
19 Nov 11
when i feel lonely i just be at mylot.i try commenting and as soon as i get notified i am no more lonely as there is some one else who is responding to me .So most of the time i spend at mylot.It is not that we have only one friend or have friends but not in touch or something like are busy.But here at mylot its so enjoying that once we are in here we do not feel lonly anymore.
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
yeah i feel you too! when i feel lonely, I try to open up my account on social network like mylot. and though I don't have much friend here in myLot just thought that when I discuss something and someone like you guys comment on it makes me happy and pushes away the loneliness I feel even though were strangers. =)
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@umabharti (3976)
• India
22 Nov 11
yes the virtual world is also very good and it also helps in taking off the lonely ness from us.i enjoy mylot a lot and i giveup my lonely feeling by being here ,i dont feel anyone a stranger as i feel the person is same like as we are ,and has the same interests and feelings as we are.
• United States
19 Nov 11
I'm lonely a lot of the time but I get over it by having a lot of fun and embracing my loneliness! When I have lonely nights, I mylot and play xbo to make up for the lost social aspect. I try to avoid being lonely by finding what my friends are up to, and then I'll join up with them so we can all have a good, fun time together. But since I'm more of an individualistic person, I really don't mind being lonely, but I'd rather be accompanied by m companions or at least somone to talk to. If I have at least that, then I'm usually satisfied!
• United States
20 Nov 11
I think it's good to be by yourself at certain times. It helps you develop an identity and find things that you enjoy doing yourself. I need a balance of being by myself and socialization. If I don't socialize enough, I will become very depressed. I have a unique personality, so I'm not extremely social, but I'm not anti-social. When I am lonely, I try to minimize thinking about that and occupying myself with activities online or music. I think problems become exacerbated when we ruminate about them. I feel like some people are too social, and they don't develop themselves enough because they spend too much time socializing. I think that it's something that requires a healthy balance, because neither extreme is good. It's ironic that social networking was supposed to bring more people into our lives, but I feel like many times it does the opposite. Drama can readily occur through social networking. Instead of trying to resolve differences, people turn to social networking to find someone to replace their friend.
• United States
19 Nov 11
...if all your life you've been lonely...then you'll grew to be immune to it and sometimes be much comfortable with it. This. Exactly, definitely, 100% THIS! You know what? I've never, EVER been much of a people person. Introverted and isolated more like it. I never got along with people offline OR online. Family life? Sucked. School life? Hated it. Online life? Let's not go there. Love life? Are you kidding me?? All I ever experienced were negative times, and those were the only ones I remember. Rarely were there any positive times. I only remember the bad, painful and negative times and keep the good ones out so I don't let history repeat itself. I barely have any...oh who am I kidding? Other than the ones here at MyLot, I don't have ANY REAL friends at all, and it's best I keep it that way. At least when i'm all by myself alone, I don't have to be burdened by other people. I'm free to do what I want, where I want, when I want, and how I want it, but within reason and law. Without any friends to slow me down, and when i'm away from my "family", I get more time to learn new things without people interrupting or butting in to disturb my train of thought. I get to practice a new skill. I can take up a new hobby. ANYTHING is possible. So yeah, i'm immune to being lonely. Matter of fact, i'm more than comfortable with it. I ENJOY it a lot. In short, I enjoy solitude because being a social person is a curse to me. More bad times than good.
@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
19 Nov 11
There is a big difference between being alone and feeling lonely or lonesome! I like to be alone, more as being around with other people. I like myself, I find my own company more interesting. I am not afraid anymore since years to be left over, to live alone. I always have something to do. I don't need people to keep me happy or busy or fill my life. If you get that far you are never lonesome anymore. The fact is you have to be with you first, love yourself first, care about yourself first, know yourself first before you can do or say the same to/about others. Loneliness does not exist for me anymore. For me it's a big luxury to be alone.
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
lucky you! maybe Ill be in your position someday! happy and not lonely =)
@didi13 (2927)
• Romania
25 Feb 12
I think some people are born alone. With loneliness that bears the soul. It surrounds years, the people, the noise, the agitation as to drive away loneliness. A loneliness that pursues them step by step, pressing them. It's like a shadow that did not get away. And it's just a sham, the loneliness of the soul can not escape, is part of you. When loneliness overwhelms my soul too deep, silent. Silence - loneliness. And every word hurts. Sometimes solitude is necessary, pleasant, soothing. Moments of solitude that you do not feel alone. Because you're you. With your thoughts. With emotions, feelings. It is solitude you desire a look. It is loneliness that accompanied the tears, smiles, cries of joy or anger, calm storms soul. It comforts, that gives impetus, as necessary, to move forward. Sometimes, a lonely painful, cruel. A loneliness that kills you, moment by moment. That you want to but can not elongate. Dance attendance on you. Trying to escape, looking for, cry for help ... but there's nobody to hear you. You're alone. As you do not want. And you come to scream in pain. And you prefer a physical pain. What could not hurt that solitude which you carry in your heart. We run from loneliness but run and people. Always trying to fill holes and then we feel suffocated. We are essentially alone. But why loneliness that, we are carrying the soul, we push so much?
• United States
29 Nov 11
Well to be honest I'm an emotional writer, meaning I can only write well if my emotions are involved, so I thrive on loneliness, or depression, or fear, or sadness. It doesn't kill me, or harm me, it helps me, I couldn't write if I didn't let emotions overwhelm me once in a while. And honestly, I'm one of those people who can me in a crowd of hundreds and still be lonely if I don't force the loneliness to go away.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
20 Nov 11
I believe that everyone experiences loneliness on some lecvel in their lives. i know that when i am feeling lonely, it is a feeling i have disxcxomfort with. it leaves me feeling empty inside. i try to find something that will fill that void so that saddened feeling can fade away.
@tiffnkeat (1679)
• Singapore
20 Nov 11
I have been alone. Sometimes alone even in a crowd of many, but never lonely. For example, I could be taking stroll in a busy street with no one I know, and I am alone. Loneliness is a state of mind. I keep myself company with my thoughts...and when at home, I chat with friends on the net. How to feel lonely? Actually, I do like being alone...if ever I do get the chance. I do also like to spend time with the family.
@wulania (1528)
• Indonesia
20 Nov 11
i have been alone and i stayed in my room, no friends, just my problems and me there. it was bad condtion. but life must go on, and i have friends to share my problem and thus my problem solved. i am not alone anymore
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
20 Nov 11
I felt it, it was a period of time that I knew I had to go through so it was by fate and by choice. In the begining it is really painful but when I got used to I begin to love that as I was single and could know my self better, I always wanted to do that before getting serious with someone, I don't think it's wise to go to get married if we don't know ourselves, that's what causes divorces. So it was a moment for deep thoughts, very profound and I don't regret. The pain of loneliness goes away after a while.
@Rosa26 (2620)
• United States
20 Nov 11
A lot of years ago I felt like you, and the best way to stop that feeling is try to become a member to any organization, can be a church,a club,or whatever organization that you can meet people. The best method to break out of solitary confinement is to seek to understand others, and help them understand you. Not all uncomfortable feelings need to be overcome, expressed, or fixed. Sometimes you’re lonely or sad – and that’s a healthy part of being human. Simply sitting with negative emotions can be the healthiest thing to do. After awhile, your lonely feelings will go away. You have to know yourself to see what kind of activities you enjoy more. People with introverted personality traits enjoy solitude and socializing with one or two others (crowds drain them). Introverts may have a more difficult time making small talk. People with extroverted personality traits are energized by people – the more, the merrier! If you’re an introvert struggling with existential loneliness, going to a boisterous bar or kickboxing class may increase your discomfort. If you’re an extrovert wrestling with separation loneliness, gardening alone may not be effective. When you’re figuring out how to stop being lonely, consider your personality.
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
hi Midnightsky! First of all, welcome to Mylot! To answer your question, yes I have been lonely and at some point I still feel lonely. I feel awkward about myself sometimes and one of my officemates told me before that I look like I am uncomfortable with myself. Up to now I don't know what she meant by that but I guess I really feel lonely whenever I am out of place. Which happens a lot of time. But I am trying my best to be happy everytime I feel down. There are several things that makes us lonely and sad but there are also many other things that can cheer us up. Let us focus on those that cheer us! :) Good day to you mylotter friend!
@jadoixa (1171)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
i think every person feels or becomes lonely in his or her life..life is not perfect..for me, i've felt lonely several times when there are things that i want so bad and cannot get it or want so bad but cannot have it at this point in time..some disappointments, and bad experiences..but what i did is just try to stay strong and think positive so after awhile it just disappears and everything is and becomes alright although life still is not perfect..well,,loneliness is always gonna be there in life, we cannot avoid it but if i can be happy or make myself happy i would rather be that than be lonely or stay lonely..i would not be fine to be lonely all the time but if there is something i can do for myself to get out of loneliness that it's always up to me..
@nwajei (9)
20 Nov 11
I guess it all depends on what you feel at a moment, at times i havd this feeling of lonliness even amongest friend. And at times i am just lonely on my bed.