Friendships That End

Canada
November 21, 2011 10:00am CST
For the past little while I've been giving the friendships in my life some thought. Today I decided to stop all communications with people who I always contact in various ways. They can be acquaintances in my life but that's it. I get tired of making all the effort and getting nothing back but excuses. I feel good about this decision. The part that saddens me is the friendships that failed. Some I truly miss. Today is a new day and I feel really good about my decision!!! I hope you all are having a truly amazing day!
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@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
21 Nov 11
I did do that years ago and I still don't regret it. So much more time and freedom for me and so much happier. It all was just a way of good energy I gave to so many people who don't appreciate it and would never be there for me. Go for it and make yourself happy!
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• Canada
21 Nov 11
It was a hard decision to make that's why it took some time. I've been a great friend to any of the people I've been friends with. I just found that when I needed a friend everyone was to busy. I am very happy with my decision. If any of these people come back into my life they have to prove they are worthy of my time and friendship. I doubt it though. People can't own up to their short comings or forgive. Those are the ones who will not get a second chance. Even though I miss their friendship.
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@SIMPLYD (80400)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
We cannot call it a friendship, if the effort of having to communicate is just one way - from you. For friendships to flourish it has to have, a two way communication too just like any relationship is.
@SIMPLYD (80400)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
SHe knows about it , my friend, but she is just trying to appear not to know, so you would let that pass.
• Canada
6 Feb 12
I am happy to report that she didn't realize what she said. Didn't mean the way it came out. Friendship salvaged. I never wanted to lose a good friendship that is over 15 years old. So allot smiles these days!
@SIMPLYD (80400)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
It's good to hear that the friendship was salvaged. It's sad if a friendship for a long time would just die that way.
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
If they don't seem to be interested in you or don't find ways to get in touch, then I guess your decision is right. You can always find new friends, who are much more better. Failed friendships can really make you sad but don't be. If you feel good about the decision and if you think that's what's best for you, then just move on.
• Canada
22 Nov 11
I actually do feel good about ending relationships that I consider to be toxic. Life is hard enough without having to deal with crap from other people. They somehow thing their time is more valuable. I get friends who I've invited out and they say well my friend may call and if she does I go out with her. When I heard that my stomach knotted up. This is someone who I've been friends with for 15 years. She all but told me I'm not worth her time. So I've taken steps to show her I now feel the same way. It makes me sad but it is what it is!
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
I agree with what you've wrote. If they don't make any effort at all, then I can say that they are not worth your tie and effort. Friendship works both ways. It involves giving and taking. If only one person is making an effort, then that will never work.
22 Nov 11
hi:) just recently I also think that thing about friendship and makes me realize that it's not good to have many friends and do many things just to impress them, so now I only have one, only my best friend and I'm pretty happy when I'm together with her compare to so many but only a fair weather one.
• Canada
22 Nov 11
I have found out over the years the only best friend I have is my husband! He loves me for me and accepts me for me. Flaws and all. I am truly blessed.
@mariahhh (1328)
• United Arab Emirates
22 Nov 11
You made the right decision. You will really feel sad because they were your friends, but it is what it is. It is hard if you keep on giving them everything but they return nothing. Those are not true friends. That also happened to me. It's like my friend was forcing herself to go out with me, and I feel like I owe her one. But whenever she needed me, I was always there for her.
• Canada
22 Nov 11
It's sad when people are not mindful of others and what they say can hurt so deep. I've done that with friends. Forced myself to hang out with them when I didn't want to. Dreaded to see their phone number on my call display. Dreaded emails. That is when you know you have to walk away.
@r3jcorp (1384)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
It is very unfortunate when something you've been cherished a long time ago just ended on nothing. and if the reason for it is MONEY, then the more it is unfortunate! But money is the root of evil, that's why relationship ends something because of this. Anyway, if we feel that we have done all the best and we have no evil intention, I guess it is not our lost... A time will come when they will finally realized that they are losing a fortune for not taking care the friendship with us.
• Canada
22 Nov 11
Money has ended some friendships. They some how think it's a gift. With the way the economy is can we really lend friends a little bit of money and they in turn think it's a gift. Especially when they know you are out of work and both the friend and the husband is working full time?? That really annoys me to no end. I've just cut people out of my life that have used me for favors and such. They are no where to be found when you are in need. I just had enough of always being the one that is always available and ready to help out. I value my friendships and I wish more people would.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
22 Nov 11
You know what, I also made such decision a month ago, a girl I really like before, but I knew that she never love me back. All she wants just to use me, and have me pay for her things. Now, I may foolishly tell myself all I had done for her in hope to change her, is totally fail. So, I announced it to stop the friendship with her. I no longer receive her phone call, and I won't see her again. That is the decision I made, and I felt good about it too.
• Canada
1 Mar 12
I am so sorry to hear that. It is very unfortunate that most women these days only date men for what they can do for them. I know this well with my single friends. They are only after men with money and won't give a good guy a chance because he doesn't have the money to give them what they want. I much rather a man who at the end of the day is good to me and loves me for me. I'm glad you stood up for yourself and demanded better!!!
@GemmaR (8526)
21 Nov 11
You should be really careful about who you choose as friends, because you have to be able to trust them with detailed information about your life if you're going to have them as friends. You should only let people into your life who you really like. Far too many people let "friends" into their lives who then go on to hurt them, and this just shows that you need to be a lot more careful with regards to the people you choose to get as friends. I love all of my friends because I took great care when I chose them to be my friends.
• Canada
21 Nov 11
I agree. It is amazing how people prove they are your friends. I'm very careful with sharing private information with anyone now. They have to prove themselves before I divulge anything personal. Bitten to many times because I'm to nice!
@Mashnn (4503)
21 Nov 11
That exactly what you needed to do. You don't force friendship on people who seems not to be interested. Life will still go on without those friends.
• Canada
21 Nov 11
Perfectly said thank you!! Have a great day!!