If you had bad news would you wait until after the holidays to tell people?

@writersedge (22579)
United States
November 23, 2011 1:52pm CST
My family takes bad news during the holidays very badly. My Dad died Dec. 13, 1993. My Uncle died a few years later Easter Sunday. Some people wait to tell others bad news when they know it will affect them very badly. Would you wait until there was a better moment?
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
24 Nov 11
I probably would wait if it could wait. I hate being the bearer of bad news anyway. I do remember being very upset though with my grandmother because she was holding out on me some pretty serious stuff. I would have jumped on a plane right then had I known and I'm sure she knew that. She would have loved me to do it but she also worried herself that I was worrying over her.
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
26 Nov 11
If you can do something about the bad news, I understand, but if you can't do anything about it. . . .. Sounds like you could do something in that situation.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
26 Nov 11
I could have been there but that would have been about it. I wanted to though..be there. I am glad that it worked out at that time to where I got to see her again though. I am the kind of person that doesn't want to bring other people down. I know if I am holding out, that's why. Maybe I got that from my grandmother.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
26 Nov 11
Maybe you do take after her in that way. Thanks and take care.
@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
24 Nov 11
if it could wait, why not right? why spoil the holiday spirit and having a good time for bad news that may not be so urgent. but if it were urgent, or somewhat an emergency then thats a different story. accidents don't stop for the holidays dont they? :)
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
26 Nov 11
I't not an emergency. Not an accident either. No accidents don't stop holidays, but they sure making people go flying to the emergency room!
@KrauseHome (34153)
• United States
25 Nov 11
Personally, even though this is the Holiday season, I think personally the Best thing is to tell people when things happen so that it will be easier for them to take and accept. I feel that when you wait for a later, or better time there could be more resentments and that would not be good either.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
26 Nov 11
If my brother didn't get really morbidly depressed and become a pain in everyone's butt, I might agree with you. But if I said anything, that would be the end of the holiday and this season would become like living in a morgue.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
26 Nov 11
Also if my other brother didn't get drunk every time some bad news came a long. . .. I really don't care if they have hard feelings. I'm only going to be on this planet so long and then I'm gone. So I don't need their morbid depression and drunkenness. I need to celebrate life, no matter how long I've got.
@pergammano (7756)
• Canada
24 Nov 11
In my world....there is absolutely NO definitive answer to that question!!! Have tried both tactics...have been the recipient of both tactics..and neither way is good...or bad! I am thinking that it is more the recipient...and their reactions. There will be a million responses, either way! Good--you have kept the holiday spirit..there are those that would say it was false! Some people get mad when something this serious is held from them! Don't know!
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
26 Nov 11
I have family who would make the entire day sad and morbid if I had bad news. I'd rather have us all be happy until after the holidays.
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• Canada
27 Nov 11
Yes, I have gone that route, too....then been screamed and shouted at for keeping this serious information to myself. Called all sorts of names from "selfish to egocentric!" I think the answer is situational...and cannot be definitive!
@dodo19 (29203)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
23 Nov 11
Yes, I probably would tell them, as difficult as it may be. I think that they would deserve to know the truth about the matter. Sure, it may not be the appropriate time, but I feel that it's still the right thing to do.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
26 Nov 11
Sorry, I meant this for the person above, not sure why it ended up under yours.
@celticeagle (115442)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Nov 11
Yes, I would. I am sort of a procrastinator anyway and bad news wouldn't be at the top of my list of things. I have been blessed with healthy(physically anyway) kids and no genetic stuff. Well, the females have a cyst on the ovaries early on but that is far behind us now. And cancer took both my father and mother. We all have psychological maladies. Depression, bi-polar syndrome, mood disorders, social anxiety, and such as that.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
26 Nov 11
So it's ggood to let people enjoy what they can when they can, esp. if they have all those psych difficulties.
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@celticeagle (115442)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Nov 11
That is very true.
@markphil (285)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
If I have a bad news, I always tell it immediately to my parents and to the people around me whom I trust. I know they could understand me especially my weakness and eventually help me with my problems.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
2 Dec 11
When you're young and have people you can count on, that's the way to go. I have told the people around me whom I can count on. But since one will get drunk and stoned and the other will get depressed and work with power tools, I wish I could get away without telling either one of them. Take care and thanks.
@Xansus (950)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 11
If its for day or two ok it might wait but something like this cant wait any longer in my opinion . Yes we will be sad and the holidays will not be as happy , but now or later getting true it it does not matter . And well being together over something like that is better , beside going after holidays and everyone for himself working with the facts . But well thats my opinion , i hope i dont get in such situation ( but thats life ) , but everyone get eventually .
@beamer88 (4268)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
If the bad news can wait, I would. No sense in ruining the festive moment. Although it might make me a bit uneasy knowing I'd have to tell them some bad news eventually.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
26 Nov 11
Very true, that's the way I feel, uneasy about it all.