Should I allow my daughter to study tour out of town?

Hello viju, You are right, the winter season is the time for picnic/tours in schools and colleges. I am not sure about the type of issues in your family so I can’t judge the situation. I have two questions for you, are you sure about the safety of your daughter on tour, can you afford the budget, if the answer is ‘yes’ then it is good to allow her to join the tour. My son is studying in 5th standard in a reputed school in this city. We have been receiving circulars from the school for adventurous journeys and outstation tours since he was in class III. I really wondered to see the notice as I am not sure about the kids, can they go out for 3-4 days without the supervision of their parents. I know teachers may be there (here not the class teachers but some teachers are taken the responsibility and they will accompany with students). This year also they are planning to visit Ahmedabad on December first week and it is 4 days program. They will go by train and the budget is Rs. 5000/- per student. I simply rejected the proposal, the reason; I just can’t imagine sending my son out for 3-4 days. May be it is a mother’s concern but I felt he is too small to go out without parents for 3-4 days. I told him you can go when you are in higher class.

Hello viju, your daughter is 14 now and at a very impressionable age. How you take decisions for her is what will matter most for her as well as you in the coming future. If budget is not an issue with you and your daughter really wants to takes this tour, please do send her by all means. That will send her a positive signal to her that you trust her completely and you have only her happiness in your mind. But before that speak to her teachers and assure yourself regarding their safety arrangements and acquaint yourself with those who are going to accompany the children on this tour. Also, speak to your daughter and establish a few ground rules, what exactly you want her to do and what you don't want her to do etc. etc. This is the time when she will be learning things on her, finding her way about, this tour may help her build her confidence, learning to adapt to different people and different situations so overall, I think this is a fine learning process. If you do not send her, she will miss it all her life, like I do, I was not sent to a similar tour when in school, because of budget constraints and I still regret not having gone. :(

Hi Viju! You should allow her to go on tour or picnic. This way she will get an exposure and how to handle situations independently. Afterall this needed to be learnt by her later or sooner.

Hi Viju Read the responses and am not sure how do I help you here. When I was a student, I never went to any study tour anywhere and only once for a one day-picnic. It wasnt the monetary issues but it was simply my Zero Interest in going on such trips without my family. And I never ever felt bad or missed this "going with friends" thing. Now about your problem. I must say that the amount they are charging is higher. Remember - they are on a school study tour and Railways does give groups and study tours great discounts. Again, I read that you are near Bhopal and that makes things easier. I know the fun and expectations of your daughter. So here is my idea - When is that tour scheduled? (Dates). In case you and family is free, why not get a reservation in the same train on the same dates? That way, your daughter doesnt miss her friends on the journey, gets to visit Jaipur and again return along with her friends? Also, you and family too will have time together and the kids will enjoy the travel and their holidays

I think you can allow your daughter to go for tour. I think tour helps to refresh the mind of your girl. Which can makes your girl to refresh mind from studies. I think you can sent her to Jaipur with her friends. I think tour also helps you child to get more knowledge about places in Jaipur. So tour plays an important role.

Hi! There are things for you to consider if you can allow your child to go. ...Ensure her safety ...what are the things will do ...get the phone number of a teacher (in case of emergency) Your daughter is 14 so I think she can handle herself. If your intuition would say no, let her understand why you don't want her to go. ^_^

Being a parent it is sometimes very hard on deciding something. I still remember those days when I would go on a trip like from school. They are really worth going and this is what binds her with her class. Missing trips like this , as a kid, would actually isolate from rest of her class mates. Trust me these are few things which ultimately become memorable. It will definitely make her feel good as well. regards, narthan

Though our family had a lot of struggles when I was a teenager, my mother always tried to make sure that my siblings and myself had the opportunity to attend various school and church trips, in-state, inter-state and even international. Though I know that these trips did give her some financial burden, I don't think that she would have traded giving us those opportunities because we learned far more outside the classroom than we would have learned in the classroom.

Such interstate study tours are very useful for students, you should send your daughter, the principal must be sending guides with the group, while teaching for 44 years in colleges i have arranged many such, it is part of the syllabus.Best of luck. Professor

if those educational tours are really necessary for the curriculum of your daughter , then by all means permit her to go. You family issues should be set aside , and let it not hinder her from enjoying it. It's part of her growing up and learning of new things and places.