Would you quit your job so you could stay with your kids?

@CRSunrise (2964)
United States
December 2, 2011 11:22am CST
I've been wanting to stay home with my kids even before they were born. However, we've never been able for me to really do so. We could never afford it. When my daughter was born, my husband wasn't working. After my first son was born, I got to stay home for about four months, but then had to go to work. After the birth of my second son, I actually thought I could stay home. When he was almost 5 months old, I had to go back to my job because my husband's job closed their doors. Maybe in a year, I can stay home again. It'll just depend on what our finances look like, and where my husband is working.
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14 responses
@JeninND (65)
• United States
4 Dec 11
I did quit my job so I could stay home with my kids, for 9 years! I loved it, they are only little once, and it was worth the many sacrifices we had to make: no satellite/cable TV, no cell phone (for me), no car (we sold one and shared a car), living in a tiny home. Most of my career friends thought I was crazy and made fun of our poor surroundings, but I didn't care - my kids and I were healthy and happy. If you have to go back to work because there's no other income, then so be it. Your husband is staying home with your son then, right? This is great, too. He should keep looking for a good job while you work, then when he gets one, you can quit and stay home again.
@CRSunrise (2964)
• United States
5 Dec 11
We're both working right now. He gets more hours than I do. I only work about 15-20 a week, so I get to see my kids plenty. I'm home with my baby during the day. My oldest son is home from school at lunch since he's only in preschool, and I get to see my daughter for an hour or so when she gets home from school. I get to see her more on the days I don't have to work. I just make the best of it that I can.
@GemmaR (8526)
2 Dec 11
I think that your children are the most important things in the world that you can ever have, and this means that you should spend as much time with them as your possibly can while you have the chance to be able to do so when they're young. Children change so quickly that if you spend just a couple of days away from them, you can find that they've completely changed by the time you come home again. I would quit my job, providing that I could afford it, if it meant that I would be able to spend more time with my children at home.
@Jhovarie (1169)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
children are the most important but with out the food they cant survive.. job is important also so the we can provide food for them.
@jasmeena (850)
• Indonesia
24 Dec 11
It would be better for moms to find part-time job,not full time so they can have more time for their kids..are you working on full time or part time basis?
@indi15 (883)
• India
23 Dec 11
You are right it all depend on finances. There is no point staying at home if you cannot afford it, one of you has to work. Wait till the time your husband gets a good job and then you can spend time with your lovely child.
9 Dec 11
I had a very wonderful career going when I made the decision to quit and stay at home with my son. I wanted to be able to take him and pick him up from school, help him with his homework, etc. It was a very hard decision to make because my career really defined who I was. I thrived on the pressure. I've thought about going back to work, but THAT is a hard decision as well. Now, my son needs me more than ever. I think that for me, working vs. not working has been the most difficult things to get through. Good luck on whatever you decide to do. Follow your heart because we only live this one life.
@nezavisima (7417)
• Bulgaria
8 Dec 11
If I have to quit their jobs and I thought just to stay with my children. I think children are the most important thing in our lives, they have meaning. will get a job to do at home to earn extra money. but their children would do anything I would stay home for life as long as they are not good. nice day!
• United States
6 Dec 11
I stayed home with my daughter and had a child day care in my house. I worked selling bags online as well. There are things you can do at home to make ends meet.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
5 Dec 11
hi, been a working mom since day one. my situation is different though. even if i wanted to quit, there is no way that that could happen because hubby is physically challenged because of stroke. someone has to work. previously, he had odd works that give him money but the doctor advised him not to because stressful activities is not for him. so, i have to go to work. it is tough but i make the best of each time i have for my children.
@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
3 Dec 11
I would love to stay home, but I can't. Luckily, I do have steady hours, and summers off. I have found a very good in home day care provider that is less than 3 blocks from the school that I teach at. On the two days that I do not have supervision of either the lunch room or the playground at the noon hour, I go and have lunch with my daughter and the sitter and her two girls. I have a very accomodating principal, who understands what being a mother and teaching is like. I am learning to balance my time with my daughter with my work. When she goes to bed, a load of laundry goes in the machine, I spend an hour doing paper work in front of the tv with my hubby, and then switch the laundry to the dryer and then fold it in the morning.
@JHEZ924 (119)
• Philippines
3 Dec 11
I think in your case, you have no choice but to stay in your job in order to finance the needs of your family. Even if we wanted to stay with our kids, we still need to work for their living. Maybe if we're already financially stable, we could stay and enjoy our kids with more time, care and love. But for now, we really have to strive for them. Anyways, it's for their sake. :D
@junmae (1592)
• Philippines
3 Dec 11
I know how hard your situation is because I was also working for my child. I am a single mom and I entrusted my baby to my mother when she was 2 months old because I need to work as the father of my child is not supporting us. It's really hard for me because she was my first baby and I wanted to be on her side while she's growing up. Now, she is 1 year old and cannot recognized me. She only calls me Tita (Auntie) while she calls my mom Mama. I know she is too young yet and can still be corrected but It still hurts me. I now gave up my work because my mom is sick and needs me, I am happy because I will be with m daughter again.
@vivasuzi (4125)
• United States
3 Dec 11
I probably wouldn't quit, but maybe cut back to part time. Like you, I have to work because we can't afford anything otherwise. My husband works but even with both incomes we both need to work. I never thought of myself as a stay-at-home mom, but I do love being with my daughter and wouldn't mind more time with her! Plus I would have more time for things like Mylot :) Well I think I wouldn't mind a deal like my sister - she works 2 days one week, 3 days the next, back and forth. That would be nice! But I don't think I'd ever just stop working b/c I would feel constantly worried about money or about what would happen if my husband got laid off. Good thing I like my job.
@squallming (1776)
• Malaysia
2 Dec 11
Well, I hope that your husband's job will be stable again soon. Then you would be able to stay home and be with your children. Life is always not easy, but I know you'll survive.
@ygna21 (294)
• Bulgaria
2 Dec 11
Yes,that sounds like a good plan. You can always spend time with your family and I am sure you are doing it. It really is great if you get the opportunity to stay at home with your kids because this is a rally important time of your (and their) life . good luck! :)