I'm stuck!

December 4, 2011 8:30pm CST
I wanted to do a lot of things in mylife but it feels like I don't have a freedom to do this things. Whenever I have a plan and ready to make things up, their always there for me, not to support me but to disagree of what I am doing..Showing that I am always wrong..That I cant do it! They say "we know what is right for you." Do they really know? They don't even know my feelings! I'm stucked! I'm always thnking the brightest side whenever they're giving their advice but still I am not satisfied. Have you ever experienced the same way?
8 responses
• Singapore
5 Dec 11
As you grow, you need to learn to trust yourself and your instincts. Some people around us may advise against your plans maybe because they feel that you are too ambitious and may be disappointed if you do not achieve them. In a way, they are trying to protect your feelings. So look at it positively. For me, if you feel that you are ready to implement your plans to achieve your goals, look for ways for you to do so. Focus on your goals. Sometimes we have to ignore the "noises" around us that say that you can't do it. Start believing in yourself, abegail! All the best!
• Singapore
22 Mar 12
Thank you for the BR dear!
• Philippines
5 Dec 11
Actually, i am on the other side of yours. Sibling next to me seems to felt that way same like yours. We keep on giving her advice that she keep on ignoring. on my side i give all the option and its up to her how to choose things. Even though i may give my advice atleast its up to her the last decision. I know i do not know what her feelings but i am not on a situation where i am in my peek of emotion. If my sis decide without analyzing the situation then perhaps she might fall. i just show the other face of the coin. anyway the consequences will still fall down on her. if those who give advice to you shows the other side, better to see the other side. If you still feel that you are stuck then move and do the best thing for yourself. People around you give advice. its up to you to decide and move.
8 Dec 11
HI MMGONZALES! Their non sense advice are very strong it makes me weak inside..It really affects my concentration on hitting my goals. Well I am not that sensitive still I really want to do things that I know what is right for me. I guess what i need to do is to pursue this goals of mine and to prove that they are wrong..I am big enough HAHA(^_^) THANKS!
@EavesJ (95)
• United States
5 Dec 11
If you have goals set, you should do everything possible to achieve those goals. As long as your goal isn't for hurting people or yourself. Don't let anyone put you down and tell you can't do it. Fight for your right to grow and become or do what you want to do in life. Talk to someone that cares and just insn't going to give you the advice to make you forget what you want. Those are the people who arn't happy with their lives, so they are trying to keep you in one spot. So never mind the negitive advice those people give you. Follow your heart.
8 Dec 11
THANKS EAVESJ! I'll fight for it! Hope I can do whatever I want very soon!HAHA
@djbtol (5501)
• United States
5 Dec 11
You do not really specify who 'they' are. If they are your parents, then you want to capture their wisdom derived from love for you. If you do not understand their perspective, then spend some time chatting about it. Does no good to get mad first and then walk away. Seems like you might be stuck under their authority. Be patient, eventually you will be free. Now you must learn and prepare to the max so you can enjoy your life more later on.
• United States
5 Dec 11
I am not sure who the "they" is that you are talking about - your friends, your family, people in general. However, you are an adult, and you get to make your own decisions, so you should do what you feel is right, even if others do not agree with you - it is your life. Of course, I am not sure what country you are in or what your circumstances are, so sometimes it is easier to say that than to actually do it, especially if your culture is one where women are not treated equally.
@ramonah (213)
• Romania
5 Dec 11
I have experienced this, but only until I was 18 (adult age in our country) and left home to prove to everyone that i CAN do everything they thought i couldn't, and I did prove it. With only my mind and my time to spend i did everything i dreamed of and now i'm good and done well for myself. I don't necessarily suggest you do that, it's just what i did and it worked for me. When i realised i was stuck i just waited for that moment to unstuck myself.
@SIMPLYD (72944)
• Philippines
5 Dec 11
if it's the parents youa re talking about, i think you should just listen to what they are saying. Try to discern them and then make your justifications why you like this and that. They will understand , if you only will give them your justifications.
@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
5 Dec 11
Well the best would be to prove them wrong. You have to earn their trust, and show them that you are mature and responsible enough to make decision on your own. Look for the root cause why would they give these kinds of remarks to you and change them. As much as possible try not to make any mistakes for a while. The most difficult part in this, is getting their trust, and once you have it, make sure never to betray their trust afterwards. Goodluck.