Away from everybody

December 8, 2011 8:45pm CST
I don't know if I should feel good about this, I am away from everybody... my parent, brothers and sisters and relatives ... and I don't miss them.
10 responses
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
When you are so close to all your family members and have shared nice experiences with them, you will surely miss them specially on occasions. I think, you are not that close with your family.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
12 Dec 11
It's natural for the older sibling to act like that to the youngest. They grew up protecting her while she was still a child, and will always feel that way. If i am in your place, i would be honored that i am pampered. Though, of course i will tell them to leave on some aspects of my life such as decision making.
9 Dec 11
I am not close to most of them due to age gap, I am the youngest and they think that I tried to outsmart them..
10 Dec 11
You are very right Binggaling, my siblings always think of me as a girl who thinks she's an adult.. even at the age of 37!!!
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
how long have you been away from them? it could be that you were not far long enough to miss them. when you do, just give them a call and visit them if you can.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
12 Dec 11
does this mean that... you don't want to see them anymore or you don't feel the need to see them?
12 Dec 11
I don't know when will I see them again.. or would I wanted to? I don't want to get hurt anymore..
10 Dec 11
We are very far apart, I went back last June just to found out that I have created one big drama.. I've been another country for almost 4 years.. will not be back for Christmas or ever...
@allknowing (130064)
• India
9 Dec 11
So you are not missing your family - very interesting indeed. This trend is picking up and more and more are depending on society to interact and get their satisfaction. Why not anyway. If you don't get satisfaction why stick around them unless they need you in which case this scenario needs a second look.
9 Dec 11
By the way they treated me , I don't think they need me.. it's like I constantly need their approval. Now that I've moved away from them, it's like I have achieved a little victory here without asking for their approval.
@allknowing (130064)
• India
9 Dec 11
Since you say they don't need you its fine then. Many a time those that are free of family shackles do much better than those who are constantly told what to do and what not to do. There are people out there in the world who could be far superior to the family that we are born in who could help without treading on our toes. All the best Rana.
@allknowing (130064)
• India
9 Dec 11
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@srjac0902 (1170)
• Italy
10 Dec 11
The reasons for your such feelings are known to you. May be you inner attitude is that what I mean is that you are a type of person who does not express feelings in the form of emotion or nostalgia. For you being in company or not being in company is not a matter that aflicts you. Whatever be your reasons, missing or not missing is not a question. But doing what is right is a matter to consider. A relationship can be expressed in many ways. These expressions cannot be assumed according what the dictionery says. It is your disposition. Feeling good or bad is not the question but caring for the parents and siblings is a part of life.
@srjac0902 (1170)
• Italy
10 Dec 11
The deep pain in life perhaps is not being loved by the partner. But the parallel level pain is not being considered by the parents, specially by the mother. Daughters have a unique relationship with mothers and mothers with daughters. And when that is lacking then it is useless to use prejudices. Be silent and leave everybody to be themselves. But from your part, you be caring without expecting in return anything. Bcause you are receiving such a treatment, you go beyond positively and only a human being is capable of doing this. Even though you are far away, let your goodness float without taking revange. Never touvh that argument. Because they are Parents.
10 Dec 11
I do care for them, but they make me feel second to nothing especially my mum, she tend to compare me with my other sisters. Sometimes she made me feel like I was the extra in the family.
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 11
Now that I see what's happening. Rana, you must have had a wonderful family with your husband and children. To a stage that you felt that your life is complete. Because of that, you think that you don't need your parents and siblings. That's why you don't miss them. I don't know how good your relationship is with them but maybe it's not so good.
9 Dec 11
I always the one who pushes myself to be with them and they in return pushes me around like I'm not one of them.. I have 10 brothers and sisters and I'm the youngest.. they treated me as if I'm the extra that they don't need.. I'm only good with 2 of my brothers and one sister.. the rest have no interest in me and my children..
10 Dec 11
Or you'll be the punching bag of the whole clan..
• India
9 Dec 11
Do you get an answer if you ask yourself 'why you dont miss them'..i.e have they been unfair to you or have they felt the same as you feel now?
9 Dec 11
I always have in mind,the answer to 'Why you don't miss them'?.. but I'm afraid I might turned out to be a cold person oneday.. I was unfairly treated for a very long time.
10 Dec 11
That's what I'm afraid of.. should something happen to them and then I realised that I didn't actually missed them..
@much2say (53954)
• Los Angeles, California
29 Dec 11
Well, I don't know your situation - but if it was not a good family life, then I suppose you wouldn't be missing them. Sometimes family members are not close - sad to say, but some can live with or without them - and if that's the way you feel, what can anyone say. My father in law has a brother that he has not seen in decades. The brother lives in the other side of the country and they don't ever communicate. My father in law says they were never close and neither care to contact the other - so I guess it's mutual. Like I said, it's sad, but what can anyone say.
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
10 Dec 11
maybe you just want freedom to your self.. because honestly i also feel that i dont miss my parents when i want to go somewhere and i want to do something that i know my parents will not allow me to do..hehe
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
thats not good if you feel that you dont miss them,,
@fakeboss (26)
• China
9 Dec 11
i don't miss my family either......... well, maybe just not that much missing... autism and self closing are not good.......... i mean, if you feel bad being around people and only feel good when you are alone,then ,that's not good............. it's ok to feel good being alone and i do because it's self-freedom be to alone...... but if you are just scared to be with others so that you want to be alone that's not good......
9 Dec 11
I'm not restricting myself from everybody, it's just that I feel that I need to put a gap between them and me.. and you are right it's self -freedom to be alone.. I'm loving it.