Staring at and Admiring Someone
By neelia_lyn
@neelia_lyn (2003)
Philippines
December 15, 2011 7:27am CST
What would you do if you caught your partner staring and admiring someone? Like while both of you were walking and a pretty/handsome person passed by and you caught your partner staring at and admiring her/him? It doesn't matter if it's only done once but what if it's twice or more?
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7 responses
@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
15 Dec 11
That would depend on how secure you felt about your relationship with your partner,for one thing...Would they still look at you in the same way,or would showing this interest be only for new,attractive people? Would you think them to be doing this as a sign of boredom with You?
An admiring glance is one thing,while Actively staring could be taken as offensive, at least to some...Either to You or the person it's directed at.
You both need to be on the same page with this if you're questioning such behaviour.
Talk it over with your Partner and find out if they'd have issues with you doing the same..
@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
17 Dec 11
Hmmm, wise input you have both have here. I throw an admiring glance to different persons once in a while but I don't make it too obvious or offensive both to that person and to my partner. It's really nice and helpful to know different views about this coming from both men and women. I'm not the jealous type but in the past I caught my partner staring and admiring a certain person every time we meet her along the way, even goes out along the road just in case that person passes by. Well, if he had tried to make a move then that's another story 
Thanks, ShepherdSpy and LifeOngoing :)
Thanks, ShepherdSpy and LifeOngoing :)
@LifeOngoing (129)
• United States
17 Dec 11
I'm glad someone brought up how secure you felt in your relationship. Also, I would say that it's important not to assume the reason that they are looking. I can think of a couple of occasions that I couldn't help staring at someone because the clothes they were wearing looked so nice that I would love to see my wife in them. On the other hand I don't normally make a habit of staring at other women even if my wife isn't with me. In my opinion it's too easily misunderstood.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
I think I have not caught my partner doing this, and he did catch me looking at a very handsome man! :P he was just bugging me the whole time we were at the mall and was asking me why i was staring at the man - i was not staring, i did not have the chance! :P
@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
17 Dec 11
Lol, at least you know he wants you to have your eyes only on him 
Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for sharing.
@smacksman (6053)
•
15 Dec 11
One should always be allowed to admire beauty. Even if your partner were the most beautiful person in the world there will always be others who warrent a good look.
Don't feel threatened about it. It is quite normal and natural.
Remember the old saying - can look; mustn't touch.
@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
17 Dec 11
Yup, admiration is just normal. I like that saying - can look, mustn't touch :D Thanks, smacksman!
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
That is something that will lead to fighting between me and my boyfriend. I just hate it when he accuses of staring others. I would deny it because I don't do it. I am faithful of him. Also, when there is somebody who will pass by especially when it is a pretty girl, I would look into his eyes and see if he is staring to that person.
@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
17 Dec 11
There's nothing wrong with admiring someone or a stranger, as long as you don't make it too obvious 
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
Well it's normal to admire a pretty/handsome person. One will really have their eyes on them if the passed by. I would not feel hurt 'though I will be a bit offended. But I won't take it seriously as I know that it's just a normal admiration. I'll kid with him and tell him go and get the girl
@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
17 Dec 11
Yeah, it's just normal. But what if that person is of the neighborhood and the admiration is mutual? And yes, we feel offended, depends on how the partner stares at and admires that someone. Thanks, enelym. See you around!
And yes, we feel offended, depends on how the partner stares at and admires that someone. Thanks, enelym. See you around!
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
This is a normal feeling for everyone.
Well,I will not care.
See, the person is a stranger- by any chance my partner will ever bump to her again.
Same with me,I also admire a handsome who happens to pass by in front of me and my partner.
It's a matter of trust.
