friend request from ex-lover

Indonesia
December 17, 2011 8:40am CST
Bum...just like lighting strike and mark bolt on the ground..We never thought that our ex lover will find us at Facebook or any other social networking channel..It happen today with me, when suddenly there's message coming in and inform that ex lover want to connect and include in our networking. This will be concern since I do not want to share anything and allowed him access my current private live..I saw many people has their ex lovers in their network and seems no problem..I knew that the relationship could have been saturated and forgotten but still annoying to have them in our network.. How about you? Can you share ylours fo fwm
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8 responses
• United States
17 Dec 11
It depends on how the relationship ended. I have a few ex flames as friends but some that I have not accepted their friend request. It all is in how you feel about that person now. If you do not want them in your circle then do not accept. They should not be offended seeing as they are an ex after all!
• Indonesia
18 Dec 11
Well, you have good points..somehow it all depends on how we feel about our ex..if we ended up the relationship without any problem and no hurt feeling between each party than should be no problem. Someone may feel offended or jealous if still have that kind of feeling..
• United States
18 Dec 11
These are the kinds of ex's you definitely do NOT want to accept. They will just cause drama. I am sure you don't need the negativity!
@soulist (2987)
• United States
3 Feb 12
If I had a friend request from my ex I wouldn't accept it. There is a reason he is my ex and I don't want anything to do with him. I cut him out of my life and I don't want him to be able to see my profile or pictures there is no reason to.
• Indonesia
8 Feb 12
Well, that was fair enough..We treat our ex lovers differently..One person can handle and become a good friend while others cannot, especially if we broken up with tension..So if we saw them in our friend list, I cannot imagine how bad our feelings and better to remove or avoid them to be in our friend list..So just get rid them off from our life would be better than taking care and hurt our feelings once again.. .appreciate your response..
@KrauseHome (31928)
• United States
6 Jan 12
Well, my childhood Sweetheart is a friend of mine on Facebook, but since he has been Married now for close to 30 yrs. I feel nothing wrong with us being friends. I do have an Ex Fiance and boyfriend here who are friends. One my husband has personally known longer than I have known him, but we had no idea when we first met. I just usually post nothing totally personal on my wall, and if they were to ever start getting too creepy I would unfriend them for sure.
• Indonesia
8 Feb 12
Well, you have good points.. Meaning you have really responsible in using facebook, so we can always contact with them but no personal feeling..I also have ones but we are not discuss anything about personal life..meaning we should not want to know everything and comparing them with our current partner or spouse..it will be ended up with problem later on.. .appreciate your response..
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
1 Jan 12
I think the problem could be if you have a current partner, having ex lovers on your social networks can cause concerns..I think you have to put yourself in a partners position, I know I would not like my partner having an ex on theirs as I have seen what this can lead to...twice...social networks are good so long as it doesn't create problems in any way in your life..
• Indonesia
8 Feb 12
Well, you have good points.. we should also questioning our selves before accept our ex-lovers..We should be fair enough to our spouse. If we feel unhappy if their ex-lovers become friends in facebook then why we should also add our ex into our friends list..you are right, the social networking is really good to connect with our old friends but do not taking it seriously otherwise will be affect to ruin our current relationship.. .appreciate your response..
@adhyz82 (36290)
• Indonesia
17 Dec 11
my silly question is do you still love her?? if no, so it`s OK if you accept her friend request.. maybe you must consult too with your wife..
• Indonesia
8 Feb 12
well, off course no my friend..haha..however, sometimes that could be problem if we keep in touch to close and the good memory back and could be generate feelings..I think the problem with some us, sometimes we hide our past from our spouse include our ex lovers identity..If we have no problem then should be fine to accept those friend request..better we also always consult with our spouse rather than she or he questioning if we start chatting or post wall to wall…appreciate your response..
• India
9 Dec 12
Hi friend, there is nothing wrong in adding our ex in our friend's circle. It will help us to keep in touch with them and know about their current status, it is really hard to forget about our ex even though we are separated. This kind of social site friendship will help us to know their activities
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
hi, for me i think there's no wrong to accept the friend request from ex-lover,because for me my intention is i want to show that i am very happy now without him in my life and i want to show the good changes come to me when he was gone.
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
13 Mar 12
I also experience that my ex added me on social networking site but i did not give it any meaning because we become close friends in personal. But i also feel glad that he is the one that added me in social network. I also see the picture of her girlfriend now when i accept his friend request but its okay because i know i already move on. Sometimes we chat to each other.