My Girlfriend makes me Crazy...

India
December 27, 2011 11:54pm CST
Recently my Girlfriend has started acting a bit strange. Whenever we call each other...the conversation ends up in a fight. This is causing serious problems because now her voice itself irritates me. I don't know when this is going to stop. The thing is that we are both short tempered. So we both loose it almost at the same time. Can you please help on how o solve this problem...
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16 responses
• Indonesia
28 Dec 11
hi, russel, sadly you don't tell your fully problem and when it start?? may I know how long you've been together?? if you both are newly dating I can understand that misunderstanding will easily occuree between you both, but if this relation has go along and this always been your main problem, so you should face it seriously, both of you may not match each other. you can find the way out if only both of you want to open each other and speak deeply
• India
28 Dec 11
we are in a relationship for the past 2 years
@adhyz82 (36263)
• Indonesia
28 Dec 11
sometimes with longer time with your lover, you understand each other, or you more know about her shortcomings, about her bad habit maybe.. are you and your girl is in different place russel??
• Indonesia
29 Dec 11
Adhyz is right, russel, 2 years is enough time to know each other and understand each other and for me it seems like she start stuck in a moment and need some refreshing. May be you both should spend more worthy time together to place you’ve both never visited for the whole day. What do you think?? Have you try it? @ adhyz : what if you were in his position and in fact your girl always start to arguing and fight in phone?
@iklananda (1204)
28 Dec 11
As usual woman is always make a lot of trouble to us.
@adhyz82 (36263)
• Indonesia
28 Dec 11
and woman can said that man always make trouble for her.. so??
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
31 Dec 11
Ya really, what kind of answer is this?
@brew2x (3096)
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
Hi russell_21! Most girls really tend to overreact. Sometimes we also tend to complicate things. Have a heart to heart talk with each other as early as possible before things get ugly. Both of you should stay calm. If ever your talk ends again with a fight then both of you need some time off to think things over. Relationship is also a commitment and needs a lot of work. If at the end of the day both of you are determined to work out your differences then you can give it another go. Goodluck to you!
@adhyz82 (36263)
• Indonesia
28 Dec 11
but sometimes the girl always want to control the man..so what is your solution for facing the girl like that?/they always want to be winner if there are debate
@brew2x (3096)
• Philippines
29 Dec 11
I think you have to meet in the middle. Not only you that need to make adjustments but also her. In a relationship it is a must to learn how to give and to take. You cannot always say yes because you will be fed up some point in time. Talk to her and make her realize that you need her help in order for things to go well. Is she still young?
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@aprilsong (1886)
• China
28 Dec 11
Well, you said she has been a little strange, and you often quarrel with each other. Have you tried to find the reason. You know, girls are more sensitive than boys, sometimes they can remember a small unhappiness or small mistake you made many days before. The resolution is to solve it, or else she will remember it all the time and be angry with you without any reason(in the eyes of yours). I think, first, you can think carefully about the content of quarrel, has she mentioned anythings? can you remember what you have done let her unhappy? If you can't find out what is wrong with your deed, then ask her for the reason, but remember the attitude is very important. You should do that in a sincere attitude. Tell her that you need her, and don't know what caused her unhappy, if there is anything wrong, please point out, and you can correct your mistakes. etc. Well, in relationship, i think, understanding is very important, as you have said, you are also a short-tempered person. Well, maybe she has been also in pain recently because of the quarrel between you. Sometimes misunderstanding can make two person in pain. And at this time, it needs one person stand out to break the ice, i think, it should be you.
• India
28 Dec 11
I understand what your trying to say and what you said is absolutely right. But what if the problem is a very serious matter and cannot be solved? And one more thing... We are in no mood of breaking up
@aprilsong (1886)
• China
28 Dec 11
Well, if two of you don't want to break up, then you still love each other, i think the most serious matter is one of the couple change his or her mind and not love any more. Nothing is more serious than that, and if there is love between you, there is chance you can fix it. The problem maybe you two have the same characteristics, and neither of you want to "surrender" and say sorry first. Well,you know, so many people lose their love because they are too dignified. I don't think to show weak in love is really weak. I do hope you can take step first, and no question is question if she still loves you.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
Hi russell, fights are normal. even I and my boyfriend kept fighting on the phone since we're far from each other. I also came to the point that I feel so irritated whenever I hear his voice. I guess you both need to take a break for a little while. I mean just don't call each other for the meantime. One of you will miss each other and decides it's better not to argue anymore but just keep understanding each other.
• India
28 Dec 11
Yeah...thanks for your advice...Hope thing get sorted out soon
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
31 Dec 11
It sounds to me like you need a little break from each other to figure out if you are really meant to be with each other. Sometimes when you are with someone it is very hard to tell the difference between love and habit. Everyone has arguments but if the arguments are more frequent than the good times, well, that's not good. What causes the arguments? Is it something that you could work out? If not, maybe it is time to move on.
• India
29 Dec 11
You know the issue "Short Temper". Both of you sit together and address it. Both of you must be willing to take your relationship beyond this roadblocks. If you both agree to get a solution for your problem, then think and analyses the possible reasons.Simply both of you try to stay calm for someday s and then work on this.
@wardon (10)
• China
29 Dec 11
it's hard to solve this problem.God bless you!
@adhyz82 (36263)
• Indonesia
28 Dec 11
i think it`s normal russel.. how old are you now?? what about your girlfriend?? what the conversation always make you and your girlfriend fight each other?? and who is the first said "Iam sorry"?
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
I think the two of you should not interact in any way for a certain period of time, call it a 'cool off period' It doesn't mean you have to break up. Or it could be that she's experiencing some hormonal changes that mostly affect her moods.
@choconut (298)
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
hi russel, try to talk about the root problem, ask her what might have caused her to act like this, maybe because you're being busy all the time or she's busy most of the time. Whatever the reasons are i know there must be something bothering her or something she sees in your relationship that makes her very irritable. God bless, hope you fix the problem (",)
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
Hi russel, I think you need to have space first. Let it pass. Then have a thought of what causes the problem and work on it. Try to also have a talk with each other and LISTEN to what she will tell you that make her irritated quickly. Acknowledge YOUR mistake - this is one way of making her also acknowledge her mistake. Then tell her what do you think will be best for both of your bad temper and settle what both of you will do in case bad temper strikes again. Try to make good of what you promise. If I may advice, if one of you was in a rage try not to clash with each other by LISTENING and give time to settle and get cooled. If she's done talking, then it's her turn to LISTEN while you air your side. That way both of you can listen and understand each others' wishes and come to an agreement in the end. Remember don't clash.
28 Dec 11
quarrels are unavoidable in love .but if you both are always in a fight ,you must find out the reason.maybe you just misunderstand each other,maybe you don't stand the same angle.once you find the tendency of fighting ,you can choose not to get her phone ,and make efforts to let her alone till you both are calm .girls usually are unreasonable troublesome,you have to make every endeavor to ingratiate her and make her happy .is girl terrible ? no , she just hope you love her with heart and soul forever.this is my opinion ,and i hope you two will get on well with each other afterwards.good luck to you
• India
28 Dec 11
Hi Russell, well what i think the fight between you both is the issue not getting solved and it seems very serious about it. Because you are trying to make her understand from your side and so is she doing job, but ain't working because there might be barriers right? So think if the matter is too much serious is better you guys don't talk about that issue, talk about something else the moments you guys spent with each other and so on. When topics like these approach you should be the key person in handling the situation and making things normal. As a friend said in your discussion girls are very sensitive and things get stucked in their head very fast. All i can suggest in the end is that if there is a time horizon for the issue than wait for the ultimate result and then discuss rather than fighting everyday. All the best take care. Hope you guys have a happy loved life.
@chiyosan (29910)
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
Well i think you do make her feel crazy too.... I feel that you are in a very stressful situation but i do hope both of you can and will be more patient with each other.
@SIMPLYD (80325)
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
It's difficult to be fighting over the phone. It could go endless, because you only know that the other one is already so angry. You don't know how to take the chance of pacifying her, because you cannot see her body language. Maybe next time, when you see that a fight is coming, you should try to warn her that the conversation is going nowhere, so it's better to cool it off. If one is angry, then the other one should try to pacify her. That should be vice versa.