How would you deal with unexpected events participated by your children?

Philippines
December 28, 2011 8:49am CST
I am with my mom's place celebrating her birthday. Just this morning, my daughter asked permission to attend a party that would be held next town. Her father approved of it with a promise to be home at four in the afternoon. Dinner time came and she's not yet home. All of her cousins are around for her grandmom's birthday except her. she's expected to be home before dinner as promised. It turned out that she's the only missing person during the dinner. We were so worried for she never answered the phone. When I opened my FB(facebook) account, she left a message informing us she won't be able to make it to the dinner since the group decided to have an overnight instead she can't go home alone because its too risky. Her father and me are super mad about it to the point that we wanted to fetch and scold her right now and then. She did a lot of explaining... I told her to just be ready when she gets home the following day. I am really thinking of giving her a punishment she would never forget, on the other hand, my being nurturing would not allow me to do so... How about you? How would you deal situations like this? Have you experienced same dilemma? I wanna hear from you...
2 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
28 Dec 11
I know plenty of people who cancel an appointment this includes some of my kids. From most I know by now how they respond or if they might cancel so I don't take that serious anymore and don't arrange a lot anymore. Those times are over.
• Philippines
29 Dec 11
@WakeUPKitty That's what I exactly wanted her to do. But she insisted on doing things on her own. How I wish she'll become mature enough to deal things maturely too.
• United States
2 Jan 12
I take it she's an adult and over 18? If that's the case, the only thing you can do is let her know (gently) how you feel and perhaps in the future she will be more considerate.... I know it hurts, but since she's an adult, you really cannot "punish" her. THat would just drive her further away from you :(