things to do when you are down.

Philippines
December 29, 2011 8:16am CST
Hi guys, its been a long time since I last posted a discussion here on mylot. I've been terribly down and wanted to know what you guys do when you feel terribly down. I'm like terribly sorry for myself. So, here's the thing, this came from the relatives of the one I really like. They thought I'm ugly. Well, I know that for a fact. I'm not pretty. When I first heard it, I thought it was just fine, but now, its sinking in my mind. And its starting to hurt. Can you suggest me some stuffs that I can do, except committing suicide of course.
9 responses
• India
29 Dec 11
Hey mabeldaclan, God has gifted every one with variety of abilities including the beauty. Never think that you are ugly and do not hurt by yourself becuase god has created you with all the abilities and all the blessings. If he does any mistake in you he just corrects it by giving you new abilities. Look out the present world now there are many people including small kid who have no feed and no shelter to live. How to they live ? These are the basic commodity then how can they live without it but still they live in this world by hoping a good tomorrow. So may god bless you to have brightened tomorrow with all the blessings.
• Philippines
29 Dec 11
Thank you for your response. I've felt a little better. Indeed, I have other talents and abilities specific only to me. I'm good at one thing, that others are not. I have been selfish and discontented. I haven't thought of the blessings that I had that other people have been deprived of.
• India
29 Dec 11
Keep smiling dear Don't hurt yourself
@umesh9889 (201)
• India
29 Dec 11
i like to listen music and have cups of tea when i am down, i think of my great days and i also love chatting in messages with my friends..
• Philippines
29 Dec 11
I can't talk to my friends now that we are on vacation. Thanks to social networking sites and these types of forums. At least I have a outlet of what I feel. What music can you recommend?
@yahnee (1250)
• Philippines
29 Dec 11
There are people who are very insensitive towards the feelings of others. If you are not pretty or beautiful, then try to improve yourself. Emphasize the most striking and attractive parts of the face and the body. Do something about your hair,your make up and your clothes. You will feel more confident when you know you have you have a pleasing personality. Treat yourself to a new attire including new shoes if you have enough money to spend for the purpose of making yourself pretty. I don't believe that there is a person who is ugly. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I am not pretty either and I have also heard before from my own mother in law that I was not suitable for her handsome son because I was not pretty. I have learned my lessons from this since my ex husband was handsome but an irresponsible person who turned back on his responsibilities. How I regretted being attracted by the outward appearance of the person. I hope I have cheered you up. Don't be sad and don't feel bad.
• Philippines
29 Dec 11
How I wish I can improve myself. Well, I don't have much money right now, but, I'll definitely do that once I have my allowance. I'll buy some new stuffs for myself -new clothes and new shoes (new heels). Confidence. I'll make that my wallpaper so I can remember that everytime I turn on my laptop. .and though some people are handsome, or pretty, being irresponsible is a big turn off.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
20 Aug 12
I get a lot of abuse from strangers, being totally mean and nasty about my looks and it does affect my self esteem, how dare they? Do they realise the damage and upset they cause by their remarks? The way I view it, is that I've had a few minutes in their presence, usually they are strangers. If they are like that, what are they like to other people? to their friends and relatives? I wouldn't want to know them. I am sorry the remark come from one of your relatives, are they pretty? Probably not, deep down inside they feel ugly but they make themselves better by pulling others down. Sad thing to say is that you can choose your friends, but you can't choose your relatives, you are stuck with them. One tip I was told by my therapist, is to write a letter telling this relative exactly how you feel, let everything out, how you felt, how they made you feel, how hurt you are. Then burn the letter. Sometimes just getting all those unwanted negative thoughts onto paper and out of your head helps a great deal. Personally I would disassociate myself with the relative, time is to short to waste on people who put us down.
@indi15 (883)
• India
30 Dec 11
Hey come on do not loose hope. Moreover no body can take decisions about what you are. just think about your relatives, you feel find so many things wrong with them. Don't bother so much about what others say about you. Just try to do things you enjoy to do, watch movie, go out, listen songs, what ever you like.. Your life is very precious, do not think about negative things.
• India
30 Dec 11
hey, i too most often in my life feels low may be becasue of the less exteem i am having thats make me annoying and makes my behaviors wild. somehow i am manage to control my anger beacuse i am mature now. in those times whenever i feel low i always finds myself in the books reading philosiphical things and inspirational things that make me feel rejoices.
• United States
29 Dec 11
Hi mabeldaclan, don't let anyone to discourage or make you to feel bad about yourself. As thewonderboy said, god had blessed each one of us with a unique figure. In his eyes we are all beautiful both inner and outer. My advise to you is to always keep your chins up by believing in yourself and to remember beauty is from the inside instead of the outside. One day that relative will come back to you realizing the words they've said to you. Keep your heads up, chin high and be happy.
@cher913 (25891)
• Canada
29 Dec 11
i ofen dont feel well due to health issues but i have learned to fit things in when i am feeling ok and not to feel sorry for myself when i cant do anything. fortunately, i love to read and do crafts so those i save til i am feeling bad about my situation.
@maximax8 (28256)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 11
I suggest that you look at old photos of vacations or other happy times. I think listening to upbeat music might help you. I believe that you could go out for a long walk and breathe in some fresh air. I think sending a nice email or letter to a friend that likes you might make you feel happier. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Personality is more important than good looks in any case. Your relative was very rude to say such a nasty thing to you. I hope that soon you will be feeling much happier.