home problems
By lance22
@lance22 (7)
Virgin Islands (U.S.)
December 31, 2011 9:49pm CST
you know that place and family you have that drive you up the wall.And that time in your life you don't want to be around them WELL THAT'S ME !At 30 years old they still treat me as a child excuse me when I say this but THEY GET ME SO UPSET SOMETIMES.I want to leave home so bad it hurts but it's not that simple I live on the island of st.john in the u.s.virgin islands WHICH SUCKS mind you.it's small And everything so expensive most locals have problems living here.Back to the point I am youngest of 6 and the another 5 and they drive me nuts I can't take it no more if I don't leave soon I don't think I will ever be happy with them or here on st.john. I am so unhappy that OH GOD SOMEBODY TELL WHAT TO DO PLEASE!It feels like going crazy on some days I might loose my mind it's feel like no there is nothing for me here no more .
3 responses
@cotruelove (1016)
• Denver, Colorado
1 Jan 12
Welcome to MyLot
While reading your post, I have a few questions. Are you considered a US citizen? Do you have any money of your own? What means of transportation do people use to get on and off the island? Rather than stay in the problem, start looking for a solution. Sorry to say, it seems to always be a matter of money... you either have it, or you don't.
Not sure you will find anyplace cheaper that you can get to. But if I were you, I'd be working for a solution that got me off the island and someplace where I could support myself and have my own place. You never have to see leaving the island as a permanent move, but it sure could get you a whole new perspective on life. IF you are a US citizen, you have all the states to consider and you will need some money to get there. It would be better to have a job in advance especially with the current unemployment and economy. You just cannot show up and expect you will be taken care of.
As far as families are concerned in a small space, it just isn't ever easy. Sooner or later people grow up and want their own space, their own ability to provide for themselves, and they want to be in total control of their own life.
As the youngest in the first generation of my family and most of the second generation is older than I am, all my life it has been a problem. I'm old and retired and it still is. My brother acts like I'm a teenager and he is 7 years older than me. Crazy that families do it, and you know if they had to live with it, they wouldn't like it either. Hard to talk to them when all they say is they are concerned about your welfare. Well, how about letting me be concerned about mine? I empathize with you, but I know there are no easy solutions, just wish there was.
@cotruelove (1016)
• Denver, Colorado
1 Jan 12
Sorry you don't have ship as transportation, you might be able to get on the crew and that would be your way off the island and earn money. It is even harder when you don't have any money and all the transportation requires money you don't have. Try to get out and away from the house more and away from your family. Hope you can be safe and take walks. I learned with a house full of family, to find a place where I could read and be apart from them and close out the chatter. I also learned not to argue, whether I agreed with them or not, and just told them many times when they expressed an opinion about how to live my life that they were probably right. Truth was, for them, they probably were right, but for me, many times I didn't think they were. But arguing over it, just wasn't worth it. Thank goodness you have the internet. Hope you can be online a lot and visit with other people. It helps a lot with escaping from situations you have no control over. I know, I'm disabled and I cannot do a lot a things I'd love to do and am pretty much home bound. Happy New Year and stay positive.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
1 Jan 12
Im sorry for what your going through. Just know that your not alone.
My husband and I had our own place before he got hurt at work. Now were living with my parents again. It is TERRIBLE! They treat me like a child and they try to act like my kids are their kids. I am not a child and Im tired of being treated this way.
I hope we can both get out soon into our own places. God Bless and try to stay strong. =)
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
1 Jan 12
I can fully understand your dilemma and being the youngest in the family is not going to ease your situation to get a full recognition as an adult. Because of your position in the family, to them you are still the 'baby' among the siblings despite the fact that you have reached a quarter century of age. You should openly declare to them that you no longer feel comfortable being treated as an adult-kid but a full-fledged adult. Well, if you feel your present situation is not doing any good for you and your future, am sure there is no stopping you from moving out to other states so you can liberate yourself from the strong family dominance. Being independent can bring out the best in a person and that might just do the trick to make them realized that you have a mind of your own and need the much needed break from the comfort of your home.
