my wife

@macanan (153)
Indonesia
January 6, 2012 4:55am CST
i have a wife, my beloved wife. and she is pregnant now. and she is still a student at college. now she is at 5th semester of 8 semester to pass. ia m confused, because she stil has so many class to attend, but she is weak. iin the coming month she will be harder to do laot of activity. what we have to do now? my wife wanna break for one semester now, but i refuse that idea
8 responses
@thezone (9394)
• Ireland
9 Jan 12
Good man! Keep encouraging her till she drops so she can look after you Just keep on refusing
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@thezone (9394)
• Ireland
23 Jan 12
Yeah but No, yeah but No. He did not elaborate on any of it so its up to us to fill in the blanks! "his personal care or the family's well being." That was what I got from the original post too, how very sad
@deedee328 (1122)
• United States
16 Jan 12
thezone: might you be being a little harsh in your judgment? We do not know whether the concerns are over his personal care or the family's well being. maybe he is afraid if she takes the semester off, she will be like alot of others, and never go back. Maybe he doesn't want her to throw away her hard work and time she has already put into going to school. As he did not elaborate on his concerns, it would be pramature for us to judge his reasoning, would it not?
@deedee328 (1122)
• United States
16 Jan 12
If your wife is weak and you realize that things will become harder for her physically in the coming month, why do you object to her taking a semester off from school? If she is weak now, she will become weaker still when the baby comes and puts even more demands on her. If your wife is feeling stressed now, that is not good for her or the baby's welfare.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
11 Jan 12
You need to know how many weeks pregnant your wife is. She will need to take maternity leave towards the end of her pregnancy. You need to support her so she can put energy into her studying. Typically a pregnant lady will feel poorly between 6 and 10 weeks pregnancy. The middle stage of pregnancy the lady feels the most well. Your wife should eat a healthy diet, have prenatal vitamin pills and attend prenatal appointments. She must have time to rest. Maybe you could cook and clean for her so all she has to concentrate on are her studies. Congratulations on the news you and your wife are expecting a baby.
@thezone (9394)
• Ireland
23 Jan 12
I dont think he cares lol
@marguicha (216333)
• Chile
16 Jan 12
Your wife knows her body and the energy she has more than you do. Let her do as she wishes, but maybe you can talk it over. There are lots of things to prepare for a baby and the heaviest job usually goes to the mother.
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
6 Jan 12
It is common problem appears if you have married at college, I have several friend who was so confused and worried as you know. Some of my pregnant friends are taking some permitting for leaving the college in awhile and the rest are keeping studying although it was so hard to do it ( it need big spirit and much support from many person to help her anytime and anywhere she needs). Simply, before deciding anything it is better to see her condition now, does she has good condition both mentally and physically to keep studying for the next month or not. If she is good, you can decide to keep studying
@macanan (153)
• Indonesia
6 Jan 12
thank you. i wont she quit from college
@deedee328 (1122)
• United States
16 Jan 12
macanan: did she quit, or just take the semester off?
@arjunm (439)
• India
23 Jan 12
Why should you refuse her comments? She is absolutely right because no one thing can be so important than health. if she decided that she gives break for one year that's respect her decision. she is totally right. if you pressure her for this that your forthcoming child will be fell in a great danger. so look into that matter.
@phyrre (2317)
• United States
15 Jan 12
I was in college when I had my daughter, but I was going online so that makes a huge difference. If you don't want her to take a break, I recommend that she look into whether her college offers online classes as I found it was rather flexible and allowed me to not miss much school while I had my daughter as I happened to have her in-between semesters and then going back online was easy to handle with a newborn. However, if your wife goes to campus I think that taking a semester off is a great idea. To be honest, if she doesn't take the semester off she will likely fail that semester and you'll be stuck paying a couple thousand dollars for a failed semester and it will not benefit her in any way, so why push her? In the end, I agree with what's already been said. It isn't up to you and you should support your wife's decision. Don't let her drop out, but consider her health, both mentally and physically. Being pregnant in and of itself puts a lot of stress and strain on your body and then trying to go to school makes everything worse, especially when you're close to labor and not able to do much. If people don't work during their last little bit before labor why would they go to school? It's not a good idea. I believe the college will let her take a "leave of absence" to have the baby which will allow her a little time to have the baby, recover, and spend some time with your newborn and still be able to go back and continue college without any detriment.
• Valdosta, Georgia
9 Jan 12
I dont know if she actually goes to class or does it online but if she goes she can switch to doing classes online at home. If your pregnant wife needs a break it isnt up to you. Thats her choice, you do not own her. Dont you want her to be healthy???? She is carrying YOUR baby!!!!! If you actually love and care about her you should care about her well being more than her education.