will i study medicine even if i am not sure whether i like it or not?

@mavil85 (348)
Philippines
January 6, 2012 5:42am CST
I am a nurse by profession, but It was my parent's choice. I originally wanted to be a broadcast journalist but my parents and relatives told me to be practical, so I followed them, I graduate with honors and I was top 14 in the Nursing Licensure Exams. I was happy but I couldn't force myself to work as a Nurse. Now they want me to study medicine, I know my mind can but I am thinking about my heart. my heart says,, I dont know. what will i do? I know people will say follow your heart, but sometimes I think its good to be practical. If you were in my shoes, what would you do?
10 responses
• India
8 Jan 12
You can appear for an aptitude test to find out which career would suit you temperament and talents. What are your natural skills and what are your stregths. which career would be best for your personality type.
• India
8 Jan 12
Once you find out what suits you best and where you have greater chances to succeed, you will have a better case to discuss with your parents without being argumentative. If your proposals are supported by facts, chances of getting affirmative nod are better. One day you will realize that being submissive is different from not expressing what you want.
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
well yes thank you, that could be too :) but even if i find out what do i like to or what suits me I can't follow it in the end. Actually here in our country children are taught to be very submissive to the parent's desires, we were not taught to be independent here which is sad. I sometimes wish we had more freedom but anyway, this is life in our country :) take care!
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
thank you for the advise, I did try to express what I want to them 4 years ago before I took Nursing in College but they blindsided me into enrolling to Nursing a week before classes which was very painful for me until now. It's sad but I know there is nothing I can do about it :( I know what actually suits me, but they never listen, maybe even if I threaten them that i'll rebel still they wont listen. This was actually their dream, but since they married early and had me they weren't able to pursue their own dream and they're passing them to me.. right now i'm being emotional, just the realization of the fact that I can't live my life the way I want to, It's really sad.
@JohnRok1 (2051)
7 Jan 12
A former boss of mine, Professor Lesley Rees (you can look her up on the internet) wanted to be a journalist, but her adopted mother persuaded her to take up something less risky career-wise and she went into medicine. She has never regretted it. Professor Lord Winston (obs and gynae) is well known now for his TV programs. He never needed to study journalism. If you qualify in medicine, have a successful career, and have any natural aptitude for journalism, you will get opportunities for it, and I don't think training specifically in journalism will increase the number of opportunities you have for practising it. On the other hand, if you have little natural aptitude for journalism, no amount of training would have made you a competent journalist.
@JohnRok1 (2051)
9 Jan 12
You're welcome - I'm glad I was in a position to give it (Myself, I'm ancillary to the medical profession), or rather, sell it to mylot (One day it may be possible for me to access a payment and keep a portion of it!).
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
wow! that;s interesting! are you a nurse as well like me? med tech? rad tech? tell me tell me! :)
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
yes I agree with you. I guess talent can never be bought or studied, you need to be born with it for you to be able to have it. truly being a doctor is like a sure investment, it's a very stable job because many people get sick while there are fewer and fewer doctors every year since the rise of technology, people like to work in offices. yes, if someone really has the talent, even if untrained the talent would be exploding uncontrollably to find where would it belong. that's a good advice thank you so much, I was really and actually inspired :)
@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
6 Jan 12
I am WAAYY older than you I think, and one thing I have learned in this life is that you have to do what is going to make you happy. You may make more money being a doctor, but, when you do something you're passionate about like broadcast journalism, the money will follow. If you can't work as a nurse, how in the world are you going to be a doctor?
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
I think It's too late to do broadcast comm, so I guess I'll just be a doctor. I could work as a Nurse if i wanted to, I just need a little push I guess. But right now I think It's somewhat clear to me, I can't turn back time but I still need to face the future ahead of me, I will with positivism! thank you! take care!
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
15 Jan 12
If I wear in your shoes I would do what I like. No need to think practical since there is less chance you get a job anyway. Also you can only be good in what you like most. That is exactly why I did not became a doctor (like my dad) or a midwife (like my mother). If I wouldn't had so much allergies I would be a sculpture.
@JohnRok1 (2051)
16 Jan 12
Kitty, is what your wrote set in stone?
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
hello there! good for you, you followed what you like. I guess, in the end it's still my decision and it was my decision to obey. have a nice day!
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
6 Jan 12
It's a difficult choice, dear. I ever face the same condition that I know I can study that field as a nurse but my heart dislike it, so I'm trying to deny my parent choice in asking studying nursing. Since I know that I will not enjoy in studying them and I'll try to break it as my protest to my parent. So, I anticipate to not do that by deny my parent choice, although I have to cry in front of them, get some anger and some bad feeling and situation at home. I accept those consequence as mine
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
6 Jan 12
I admire your courage for staying firm with your decision and the courage of accepting all the consequences. that is one thing i guess i couldn't do before, i was fighting for what i like but my parents didn't give me a choice. I guess I lost the battle :(
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
6 Jan 12
There is a proverb in my country if translated in English it could be like this "Rice has been cooked into porridge" which means you can't do anything to change it back into rice. So, the best solution for this situation is by giving some spice and meat to make the porridge becomes much delicious than before. For your real condition, so you have to make your situation becomes more enjoyable to be faced.
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
thank you so much areskya, I understand what you mean, it made me feel better. since I am already here in this situation and i can't change it back I should just face the situation and be positive about this. I am really thankful for your advice, I'll add spice to my life and stop being sad :)
@parascevi (313)
• Greece
6 Jan 12
Hi First of all i want to congratulate you for being so responsible person and good student. You had the courage to drop out your dream and follow what your parents thought that was the best for you. I agree with your parents opinion to follow medicine, is a profession which will give you good money but also the satisfaction for helping people. But i think that is best to choose what is good for you and not pressure your self with others dreams and wishes.I believe that you should make a sort of diagram about the pros and cons of the medicine and the journalism and to decide by heart maybe what will be the best for you. If i were you i would act like that: working as a nurse and taking part time courses in Journalism. After graduation i would chase my dream with Journalism. But before you do that you should now that you take a chance because journalism is not an easy profession. The good is that in case you are not succeed in Journalism you can always work as a nurse and maybe continue medicine as well.
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
7 Jan 12
hello there! welcome to mylot we are both new here :) yes thank you, i think i should make a diagram about the pros and cons, i once talked to a psychiatrist 5 or 4 years ago, she told me to do that as well. I think I gave up my dream of becoming a journalist, I know it will be difficult for me because I didn't study it in college :( people have been encouraging me to study medicine they always say that's the best for me, i think I believe them. In due time I'll be deciding for my future I hope I'll make the right decision. thank you so much for aiding me in my problem
@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
6 Jan 12
welcome to mylot mavil! I am a medical technologist and i took that course as a stepping stone to medicine. that was never my plan at all because all i ever wanted is to be a musician! so i passed the board and here comes the part wherein i had to choose... my lab professor told me, if you are not sold out to take medicine, then dont... i have another reason in mind... i decided not to take medicine because i felt that i might only flunk it because my heart is not into it.
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
6 Jan 12
hello there! thank you for welcoming me :) i feel touched. wow! I think we can relate to each other, I wanted to be a broadcaster :( but right now i know i can't turn back time. well my parents are very persuasive, I couldn't tell them no or yes. they are good parents and that's the reason why I can't and don't have the courage to disobey them. now i am thinking this is life, i don't want to regret when i am 50 or 60, I want to enjoy what I love. right now since i know i couldn't be a journalist a want to be a flight attendant.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
6 Jan 12
Dear friend, I graduated in electronics (achieved in the year 1997), but you should know that the decision was not mine. They were my parents to orient myself in that kind of matter. Now do not say I'm regret, but if I could go back, maybe to study "Computer Engineering". You still have the option, in my opinion you have to decide what is best for you, no matter what may think your parents or other persons. I understand though that is not easy.
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
6 Jan 12
yes thank you. I also do not regret that i am a nurse now because i made my parents proud. it is difficult to decide, thank you for understanding. now i know i am not alone in the world with the same situation. I'll keep praying for the best decision
• Indonesia
6 Jan 12
3 years ago my father told me to be a lecturer. I was almost in, but in my heart I feel that I do not want to. I got heavy argument and debate with him. But I keep on rejecting the idea. I went to small company then move to bigger company. Thanks to God, the life start easier now (but still need extra money here :lol:) The main thing, if you want to reject your family choice, then you must have an alternative and prove it that you are able to achieve something better with your choice. But if you do not have alternative, just bury your desire and just follow the common sense. Wishing you luck with your choice.
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
thank you so much microengineer, I guess you are right. If I choose what i want then i should be courageous about it but if i can't then I should just bury my desire and do what's practical. I'll live life happy whatever my decision is, I won't dwell on the negative side, I'll be positive! Take Care! :)
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
19 Jan 12
ok you very nice girl, you accept your parent choice, that will better for you but later u given a world i dont know this, you said, (if you were in my shoes, what would you do?) if u talk about foot shoe, for that you not good girl, and your behaviour as not like good.