Broken hearted! Urgh!!!!
By anneshirley
@anneshirley (1516)
Philippines
January 9, 2012 5:48am CST
I am coming back to mylot again since I have plenty of time in my hands now. My first ever boyfriend and I just split up recently and what's the best way to deal a broken heart? Indulge in work...work...work...and make yourself busy...busy..busy....I never thought it would be this tough though. He was my first boyfriend after all. After waiting for so many years and being afraid of getting hurt, I was not spared. I fell in love but we only lasted few months....sad really...
. But nevertheless, life must go on! I'll be forever thankful for him because he made me open my heart and mind that there is really someone who's destined to be our other half. If we will be together again in the future, only time will tell.
. But nevertheless, life must go on! I'll be forever thankful for him because he made me open my heart and mind that there is really someone who's destined to be our other half. If we will be together again in the future, only time will tell.1 person likes this
16 responses
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Hello Anneshirley, I am deeply sorry for your situation, really hard for some one having the first boyfriend or girl friend. I've always believe that having a relationship will always be considered as a gamble my friend. you fall in love, choose to be together and make the relationship work, and then some where a long the way, the love fades. it's normal, in fact, getting yourself busy with work is one of the best solutions in keeping you from thinking of that break up.good luck with being single this new year
@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
hello letranknight25! It's been a while right? 
Surely, you were able to follow my love story here in mylot....while I feel regretful because we could have work things out, we both decided to give up since both of us are hurting all ready. Maybe, if we are really destined together, we will be back together again but then only time can really tell that and yes, I am single again this new year.
Surely, you were able to follow my love story here in mylot....while I feel regretful because we could have work things out, we both decided to give up since both of us are hurting all ready. Maybe, if we are really destined together, we will be back together again but then only time can really tell that and yes, I am single again this new year. 1 person likes this
@caryle (34)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Ouch! I can feel you. Keep yourself busy with work and other activities, and always stay in the company of your friends. And make yourself available again, go out and date again LOL. Seriously, don't dwell on the pain, it will make the matter worst. Enough that you cry, but don't get depressed. Things happen for a reason. And like anything else in life, in career, in family issues, money, business--there are things that just doesn't work. Surely, we will encounter more troubles and problems along the way--these are beyond our control. What you can control is yourself and how you handle things even when the things get tough.
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@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
I do agree with you... in times like this, the only one person I can turn to is my best friend and I am glad she is supportive of me always.
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@prettyruby (350)
• United States
10 Jan 12
Agreed, after wallowing for a bit and moping around, it's important to get back out there and meet new people! I'm sorry your relationship ended, and I know it's very painful, but I'm sure you'll meet someone new soon!
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@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
hi anneS,
Sorry to know this but life must go on like what you've said
Well all people who fell in love has lost the one they loved but found another love 
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My Dad always said that there will always someone who is destined to be together 
happy mylotting
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My Dad always said that there will always someone who is destined to be together
happy mylotting
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@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
That hurts, I know. Good thing is that you have been in a relationship with him for only a few months. Somehow your relationship with him is somewhat not too deep yet. Wish you the best and hope you found someone who will never leave you again.
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@BoboMama (319)
• India
9 Jan 12
welcome back :)
i think you should probably try to forget it and listen to some music (music is the best solution)and relax, don't stress yourself too much
and to be honest , i've never had a girlfriend before , so i'm not sure how deeply you are hurt inside
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@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Thank you...I do listen to music now and as much as possible I avoid love songs since it only reminds me of the good times together but I know, in time, I'll be able to move on that's why I came back to mylot...to keep myself busy again!
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
9 Jan 12
welcome back, dearheart! Nice to see my namesake back! I hate to be the one to relate "old cliche's" here...but wasn't it Shakespeare that wrote;" It is better to have loved and lost, than never loved at all!"? I truly am sorry for your broken heart, and spirit, right now...but truly there are brighter days ahead..and now you know you are capable of those wonderful emotions! You are a good spirited soul and this time, too, will pass!
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
10 Jan 12
You betcha girl...as they say today "I got your back,"! You need to PM me...I'm here!
I do know, this time is a struggle..but YOU will prevail! Easy for me to say, but looking back, I am glad that life gave me a chance to experience every and all emotions and to be able to learn from them! It really is amazing how time heals! Baby steps of healing...soon will turn into strides! You GO, girl!@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
11 Jan 12
Well, honestly, I am still in a roller coaster ride because whenever I remember the good days that we had, it still hurt a lot but then again, I restrain myself from thinking too much but it is really hard to move on especially if we still see each other everyday and I cannot avoid it...
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@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
I miss you pergammano!!! It's been a while...really! I do know I'll be able to get through this heartache especially since I have a good nice friend like you!
It's been a while...really! I do know I'll be able to get through this heartache especially since I have a good nice friend like you!1 person likes this
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
let's welcome ourselves back here in mylot wherein wasted time will no longer be...
When a heart ids broken discover the unseen strength within you that will surely give you a light bright to see the day. Yes, diverting your attention would ease the pain yet at the first phase it'll be surely tough...
Just live and go forward girl... From here learn to be a woman that a man needs.
@narnia007 (1050)
• India
9 Jan 12
I am really sorry for your state.But well mate,welcome to the club.You,me and so many like are hurt from love.I find it as a lesson rather to be reminded of the pain.I learnt so many things and it's been over 1 year after my breakup and still I find it difficult to forget her and still think of her.But beyond that,so many lessons from her help me to lead a successful life which I find in many ways of my life now.Take this pain as challenge to overcome with.You know so many things from this pain.Next time you will be careful and this will help you definitely to become a better person.Happy mylotting.
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@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
It really hurt after a break up in the first boyfriend.. When i was in your situation its very hard for me to move on because of the adjustment because were having a long hour of bonding everyday when we are together before but i started to learn how to make my self happy without him. I hang out with my friends and have some fun with my sisters. I also become more attached to my parents that's why im also thankful on that break up because i learn a lot of lesson from it.
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@girl_thinking (1959)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Hello anneshirley,
That is a sad news about being broken hearted. Don't you just want to get past it and continue with life? I bet everyone does 
Try to hang out with friends in as much as you can and surround yourself with people all the time. Listening to rock and dance music also helps. Works for me
Hope all will be well soon and cheers to you coming back to mylot!
Try to hang out with friends in as much as you can and surround yourself with people all the time. Listening to rock and dance music also helps. Works for me
Hope all will be well soon and cheers to you coming back to mylot! 1 person likes this
@myzhian (584)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
You'll get over it soon, the longer time you don't have any communication or meetings the more it helps you recover from pain! focus yourself to your family,education, and hobbies. Find something that can make you happy and forget him some times.
@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
11 Jan 12
That is the problem...I still see him everyday and I cannot avoid it.
@parascevi (313)
• Greece
9 Jan 12
I can imagine how you feel. i have been in your shoes before. The things i did to forget was to occupy myself a lot with various activities such as work,gym,in fact exercise helps a lot to forget your problems and feel more energetic at the same time and also you might meet new people at the gym! Maybe a new love!Also i talked a lot about my split up with my friends, that helped me to free all my thoughts and feelings negatives and positives.Sometimes when you talk a lot about something you tend to forget it at the same time because you express all your thoughts and not let these grow inside you. Also you can try to make short trips if you can, and generally to not isolate yourself.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
18 Jan 12
I think you've got the right strategy! To dive into work and to get busy. I think that considering that this is a low point in your life, then might as well make something positive at work! Turn a low into a high!
And don't worry about the relationship, I'm sure it will find you soon enough. Specially when you're not looking for it!
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Jan 12
Im sorry your heart got broke. I would definitely keep myself busy and occupy my time. Hang out with friends and do your favorite things. As time goes on it will get easier. Not perfect but better. And someday you will find the one you are destined to be with. =)
