In life, less talk, less mistakes..

Philippines
January 9, 2012 11:56pm CST
As the days of 2012 is passing, I just realized that it is better for me to keep quiet rather than talking a lot. Hence, I am thinking I would achieve more the peace that I wanted if I will just keep my mouth shut. Then will just speak if it is my turn to talk. As this is also one of my lessons learned when me and my brother had our dispute late last year. That, when we are left alone in the house, the atmosphere was so quiet although we are both present in the house. And even we cross our path during those times, nobody speak up unless it is badly needed. Thus, after that, I have appreciated the positive side of being quiet. And as they say, less talk, less mistakes.
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17 responses
@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
hi, for me i think this is not appropriate,less talk less mistake because it will depend upon the person who speak,if that person are careful in a way on how she/he speak then it will reduce the tendency to speak bad or a mistake to someone.
@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
17 Jan 12
Hi Airasheila.... Yeah sometimes I find it really true. Its better to chose wisely every word you use before talk because sometimes even when you had good intention can be bad news if you use the wrong word and talk about in the wrong time. See your speaking partner mood often really important. You can not expect good response if someone in bad mood. Sometimes the more you talk the more your made mistake. Our tongue sometimes really hard to manage.
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
This was one of my goal in year 2011. I should talk less so that I commit less mistakes. this kind of saying is applicable in some situation but sometimes it is not applicable to others. Sometimes we also have to talk to fight for some other things.
@tamirs (1808)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
That is what my husband always thought me.So i don't get to hurt others and i won't get hurt too.
@megamatt (14327)
• United States
10 Jan 12
I think that many of our problems do come with opening our mouths without thinking things through. There are just a lot of times where we should remain silent and just listen. There are times where just find ourselves interjected into situations and things are going to be way worse to say the least. Sometimes it cannot be helped whether we open our mouth or not. Of course, not talking is not the cure all for every little thing. There are just going to be a lot of times where we are going to rather remain silent but still there are going to be some troublesome things that we are going to have to deal with. There are times where a silent time does not always mean a good time and there are times where it does work out rather well. It really does depend.
@jsmalong (109)
10 Jan 12
If we do not have anything good to say, do not talk at all. And if we must, our brain should start working before we open our mouth.
@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
10 Jan 12
I have once read a book entitled, "how to make friends". Er, not sure of the title anymore. There was a section there that mentioned something a lot like your topic. About knowing how to handle arguments. In there, it said that not all arguments are worth arguing about. Ironically, we humans have that tendency to want little things to grow into big things by always trying to defend ourselves, impose our own beliefs and opinions on others as in debates, and bring up past events to justify our reactions to a present event. Sometimes the best thing to do is acknowledge that other people will never see it the way we do and vice versa. The trick is to acknowledge the differences in opinion and then exit.
@webearn99 (1744)
• India
10 Jan 12
So your brother is in for the "silent treatment". Not good for you, not good for him. You need to communicate, maybe extensively, maybe concisely. But you need to communicate, that's for sure. I don't know what exactly the beef you two have, but the need for a closure does not start with silence or the minimal contact. Work your way to a healthy relationship with some logical and unemotional reasoning. That is the way as I see it.
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
these were the same lines that my first love said to me, lol! actions speaks more than words, and that is why when we're together more time spent on staring, caressing, hugging, and other tenderly loving gestures, lol! but seriously, it really works, as i got a long with my wife for 20 years without much talk!
• United Arab Emirates
10 Jan 12
In most cases that will help but there will be situations when you have to step up to be heard. People help create awareness by not being quite all the time. Some people may even abuse you because they know that you will just keep quite and not do anything about it. Learn to balance life.
@SIMPLYD (81467)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
when all is said in done, it is better to keep quiet already. Speaking more would escalate a dispute and could even lead to more hurts. Hence, when what you have to say is already said, stop. That way, the other camp might also stop already. You avoid further trouble by talking lesser.
@fantabulus (4005)
• India
10 Jan 12
Hahahah what a joke talkative person never keep quite like me. This was also my resolutions of new year but this is difficult for me. But this is truth less talk means less mistake. IF talking in between two persons means fight with you means with third person so this is good habit dont talk in the middle but always keep quite is very hard for me.
• India
10 Jan 12
Its always better to talk less and only talk when you are required to talk. We need to know what we are talking. Because words have more effect on people than a physical assault. By talking less we can easily avoid unnecessary discussions and disputes with our loved ones. It doesn't mean that you keep quiet everytime. You need to know when to talk and most importantly what to say.
@bhonti (1247)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
I agree with this discussion. I admit I am a very talkative person. I tend to speak my mind. Sometimes, the effect is good but most of the time, the effect is bad. In the end, I regret what I have said. I think I can't change this attitude of mine immediately, but hopefully, gradually, I will be able to learn to think first before speaking.
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
I have learned the same lesson in life! haha ...less talk, less problem! Specially if you feel that the person your arguing with is not making sense anymore...its better to just shut up.
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
hello, Maybe that will be my new years resolution since last year I hurt many people because of my mistakes I am so talkative. Your right? I should keep my mouth shut and wait for my turn. So, I am really sorry for those people that I hurt last year, this year will be the year that I will going to change who I am. Thank you for the reminder.
@srik11 (483)
• India
10 Jan 12
It is an interesting opinion you hold about life. But let me tell you that keeping mouth shut is not really a solution for most of our daily problems. I myself being a less talkative guy, have been at the receiving end of other's stupidity. It is so much better to be assertive and standing up for yourself than just keeping quiet and avoiding the issues.